Complementing empathy with perspective-taking
Empathy is a trap givers need to avoid. A busy person moved to empathy can spend too much time doing favours they cannot afford.
Managers can teach givers to be perspective takers, not just emphasisers. Instead of trying to imagine what other people are feeling, try to imagine what they are thinking and what their interests are. Givers should gather and use knowledge about other's interests and let a counterpart win on issues that matter less so they can win on issues they value most.
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