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11. Regretting the past

11. Regretting the past

Don’t dwell on what could have been. Any thought that starts with “I should of” is going to tear down your happiness.

These thoughts are harmful to your mental health, and they accomplish nothing. The only thing you have control over is what you do from now on. So, when a regretful thought comes up, shut it down immediately.

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5. Not managing your time

Watching too much TV or wasting time on social media will steal away your potential. It’s okay to relax and watch a show now and then, but when it consumes all your time, it’s a dream killer. 

You’re procrastinating on the goals that you know would improve your life. Later, you’ll feel horrible about not doing what you needed to do—further adding unnecessary stress to your life.

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9. Refusing to forgive

To varying degrees, we’ve all felt betrayed by someone we trusted. I know it’s painful to the core. If it was horrible enough, you might never talk to them again, although you’re not saving yourself from further pain if you refuse to forgive them.

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6. Submitting to Fear

Fear will bring your progress to a screeching halt. It will trap you in your comfort zone for a lifetime. But, it doesn’t have to because you have the power to triumph over it!

Unless what you fear can hurt you physically or make you sick, then it’s best to do what scares you. Every day, push yourself a little bit towards doing what you fear.

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4. Comparing yourself to others

A lot of people look to others to determine how well they’re doing in life.

If some guy has an Audi and you have an old jalopy, you might feel like a failure even though that’s not true. Furthermore, they’ve probably been working for over a decade to get where they are. But you just started a few months ago.

As you can see, it doesn’t make sense to do this to yourself.

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3. Disapproving of yourself

If you have a habit of talking down to yourself, you’re wrecking your confidence. We tend to believe our thoughts, but this is a mistake. Not all thoughts are beneficial or accurate. So, it’s wise to question them for their validity.

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7. Holding on to shame

Shame is one of the most detrimental habits. These embarrassing or shameful memories will pop up when you least expect them. They can trigger you to sabotage your goals.

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2. Rumination habits

Dwelling on negative thoughts is dangerous to your well-being and confidence. Moreover, it can trap you in a depressive cycle. Every time you think these thoughts, the more ingrained they become. You don’t want that.

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― Wayne Dyer

“You leave old habits behind by starting out with the thought, ‘I release the need for this in my life.’” 

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8. Refusing to let go

Don’t hold on to things that you should release. Gripping onto the past, unused items, and negative people keeps you trapped. Unable to move on and live in joy.

We often don’t want to let go. Realize that it’s the best thing you can do for yourself.

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1. Denying your habits

Denying your problems in hopes that they’ll disappear over time is a terrible habit. While time does help to ease the pain, deep down, it still hurts because it’s not solved.

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10. Staying in an unhealthy relationship

Staying in an unhealthy relationship can wreak havoc on your mental health. 

If your partner is verbally (or even physically) abusive and they refuse to change, it’s time to make a plan of escape. Otherwise, it’ll destroy your mind or even kill you. No one is worth that!

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Metacognition

Metacognition is the ability to observe and think about your own mind and how it works.

If you took a minute to observe and get curious about your anger, you might realize that behind your anger is some fear. Which means that anger, and all the behaviours that come out of it, are merely a distraction from the real issue — your fear and insecurity.

The next time you feel a strong emotion, hit the pause button. Then ask yourself: What’s going on in my mind right now?

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John C. Maxwell

“You’ll never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret of your success is found in your daily routine.”

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1. Decide what you want.

First, you’ll need to figure out what goals would make yourself and your life better. What is it that kills you inside every day? How can you solve this?

Do you want to start a company? Move to a new state? Lose some weight? Do you want to declutter your house or office? So, grab a notebook and brainstorm for a few minutes. Whatever you think would improve your life, write it down in detail.

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