• someone tries to guilt you into doing things after you say no;
• the behavior forms a pattern;
• they make no effort to change;
• they try to control your behavior in other ways;
• you feel as if you can’t do anything right
• you notice put-downs, gaslig...

Someone feeling hurt might use guilt trips when they don’t know any other way to deal with their emotional turmoil. It’s tough to listen if someone won’t admit there’s a problem, but get the discussion started by pointing out their behavior. Then give them space to expres...

Someone might resort to guilt when they don’t know how to advocate for themselves in more direct ways.

If you notice signs suggestive of guilt-tripping, use open-ended questions to encourage them to express themselves directly:

• “You seem upset. What’s going on?”
• “It s...