Capitalism briefly convinced us, and many others, that the best way to take care of myself was to spend indulgently and snatch up any luxury that caught our eye.
Telling myself no to things that I do not need and that are not good for me is just as much a part of self-care as anything else.
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S elf-care means something entirely new to me now.
It asks me to look at my state of being and question what I need to do to enable myself to live the kind of life I most want in this world.
Am I taking care of myself physically? No product is a replacement for keeping my body well-nourished, well-rested, hydrated, and active.
Am I taking care of myself emotionally? I need time off to decompress and get introspective far more than I need expensive loungewear to do it in.
Self-care culture encourages us to “set boundaries” that more often than not take the shape of flat-out neglect — whether that’s of our personal relationships or of our duties to ourselves and others.
The lie here is that neglecting responsibility does the exact opposite of preserving peace. It creates spirals of overwhelm that make it harder to approach a task every time we put it off.
The truth is that self-care often involves doing what needs to be done even if it’s not fun at the moment.
A lot of self-care rhetoric has gotten mixed into the rise of “treat yo self” mentalities.
This is unsurprising, as capitalism likes us all best when we’re spending money. Our economic system is supremely skilled at neutralizing threats by turning them into commodities.
It’s had a lot of success in doing the same thing to the feminist movement, and it’s absolutely running wild with “self-care.”
There's a lot of chatter about "self-care". Between wellness and beauty companies promising to release feel-good endorphins with every product and being told to take more baths and learn to meditate, it can be confusing to determine what "you" time really should be—and shouldn't be.
When things go wrong in our lives, we have two ways of looking at the situation: look around to see who we can blame, or we can look within and see if we had a part to play in bringing about the misfortune.
By choosing the former, we relinquish responsibility and allow ourselves to become victims. Because, by choose this, we’re able to pat ourselves on the back and also gain support and sympathy from others for being subjected to undue, undeserving suffering.
Wellness has been popularly understood as an extension of self-help, a category that is all about personal optimization and productivity.
More recently, wellness has been marketed as self-care. It is softer and more forgiving.
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