It’s natural; when things go wrong, one of the first thoughts is likely to be “Why me?”“Why me?” is a weakening phrase. It only serves to increase our feeling of victimhood and makes us feel incapable of dealing with the situation.By “What next?” we not only gain back a feeling of control, but also figure out what we can actually do.

1. Replace “Why me?” with “What next?”

It is hard to feel grateful when you are dealt a blow, no matter how big or small it is.No matter what you are dealing with, there is always, always something to be grateful for. Force yourself to say it out loud a few times. Your heart and your mind will soon catch up.

2. Force yourself to practice gratitude.

When you’re hurt, it is equally natural to look for someone to blame.But blame only serves to prolong the hurt. It makes it harder to let things go. It makes us angry and corrodes us from the inside. It brings negativity into our life.So just stop blaming.

3. Quit blaming.

This is a tough one. It’s so much easier to just give in and surrender to the fear and grief. But we need to stand tall, even when we feel two feet too short.

4. Don’t give in to fear and despair.

No matter where you’re at or what you’re going through, don’t give up. Try just one more thing; maybe it’s just the thing that will resolve it for you.

5. Never give up.

We all face something in our day to day routine, sometimes we aren't able to deal with it ....

Every single one of us goes through times when it seems like life sucks. It’s just the way it is. It’s what we do in those moments that matters.

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“You could leave life right now,”

<ol><li>If I were on my deathbed, would I have regrets?</li><li>Was I a decent person today?</li><li>Did I challenge myself today?</li><li>Did I have any fun today?</li><li>What am I grateful for today?</li></ol>

The Questions I Ask Myself Nightly:

Asking myself these things helps me live a more fulfilling life—the kind of life that I want to live. And I’m proud of what I’m doing here, right now. I think—at least I hope—my dad would be too.

Reason Of It?

it's about your choices after your loved ones...

Since my father died nine years ago, I've reflected a lot on my mortality, and I've asked myself these questions every night since.

5 Questions I Ask Myself Nightly Since My Father’s Sudden Death - Tiny Buddha

Children who experienced often faced anxiety, as a result their body produce stress hormones.If this happens alot, these hormones become toxic for developing brain.

The Neglect Theory

Leads to:<ul><li>Lower IQ server</li><li>Delayed language development</li><li>Lack of creative thinking.</li></ul>Because our brain build connections with every new experiences and stimulation. If there are no rich experience, during the first year of life – the period in which the brain develops the fastest – children are not able to build foundation necessary for optimal future learning.They miss out for life.

1. Cognitive Neglect

Most often suffer from...<ul><li>Stunted growth</li><li>Some contradicted with HIV</li><li>Hepatitis B</li></ul>As a result of reusing medical supplies.

2. Physical Neglect 

Leads to...<ul><li>An excessive production of the stress hormones (known as adrenaline and cortisol), like poison for developing brain.</li><li>Distorted the understanding of physical love and relationships.</li><li>Done to trust nobody.</li><li>Dipression, insomnia and social anxiety.</li></ul>

3. Emotional Neglect 

If you experienced any form of neglect, try to intimidate the idea that " it was never your fault and maybe not even your parents fault either. "

How You Can Deal?

If you dealing with negligence, how you can consider yourself in that situation?, how you can deal with that form?

Children who experience physical, cognitive or emotional neglect, often face anxiety. As a result, their body produces stress hormones. If this happens a lot, these hormones become toxic for their developing brain, which then later can repress emotional and cognitive well-being for life. Non profit of Daniel Rucareanu: https://www.facebook.com/federeii/ TREATMENTS If a child is used to suppressing their emotions, because of neglect, it may be difficult to recognize and experience them in a healthy way. Therapists and mental health professionals can help both children and adults learn to identify, accept, and express their emotions in a healthful manner. These treatment options include: 1. Cognitive behavior therapy (CBT): CBT aims to explain to you what's going on inside your brain and how to cope with irrational feelings or fears. 2. The Hoffman Process: This 7-8 day's guided process, designed to bring participants back into their childhood to reconnect with their parents and make peace. 3. Family therapy: If a child is being emotionally neglected at home, family therapy can help both the parents and the child. 4. Parenting classes: Parents who neglect their child’s emotional needs could benefit from parenting classes. 5. Psychoanalysis: The aim of psychoanalysis therapy is to release repressed emotions and experiences, i.e., make the unconscious conscious. SUPPORT us to help raise awareness about neglected children and other important topics https://www.patreon.com/sprouts 🐦: DOWNLOAD video without ads and background music 🤫: https://sproutsschools.com/video-lessons/ SIGN UP to our mailing list and never miss a new video from us 🔔: http://eepurl.com/dNU4BQ SOURCES and teaching resources 🎓: https://sproutsschools.com/neglect-the-lives-of-the-forgotten-children/ VISIT our website : www.sproutsschools.com CONTRIBUTE by upvoting your favourite topic or suggesting new ones : https://sprouts.featureupvote.com/ THANKS to our patrons This video was made with the support of our Patrons: Johan Klassen, Angela, Wolfgang Vullhorst, Reynir Örn Bachmann Guðmundsson, Daniel Kapuschinsky, Jonathan Schwarz, Margaret Grace, Bob Wilkerson, Stephen, María, Raymond Fujioka, Hal Beltran, Susan Schuster, Deepak Kamlesh, Margaret Grace, Jonathan Schwarz, Shao Xiang, Denis Kraus, Judy Roland, Bettina Kind, Gatsby Dkdc, Enrique Arellano Farias, Vishruth Harithsa, Nancy Bueffler, Adam G, Tetiana Gerasymova, Raman Srivastava, Daniel Kramer, David Markham, Marq Short, Scripz, Muhammad Humayun, Ginger, Tsungren Yang, Esther Chiang, Badrah, Cedric Wang, Broke, Jeffrey Cassianna, Sergei Kukhariev, Andrea Basilio Rava, kritik bhimani, Don Bone, John Zhang, Mathis Nu and all the others.Thank you! To join them visit www.patreon.com/sprouts COLLABORATORS Script: Jonas Koblin and Wave Vasiksiri Artist: Pascal Gaggelli Voice: Matt Abbott Coloring: Nalin Editing: Peera Lertsukittipongsa Creative Design: Selina Bador Production: Bianka Proofreading: Susan Sound Design: Miguel Ojeda Special thanks to our follower Wave Vasiksiri for suggesting the topic and collaborating on this script. SOUNDTRACKS Toys Are Alive - Studio Le Bus Here Come The Raindrops - Reed Mathis DIG DEEPER with these top videos, games and resources: Learn about The Attachment Theory: How Childhood Affects Life. Our video on the topic is a great start. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WjOowWxOXCg&t=2s Do the still face experience with a baby or learn about it on youtube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=apzXGEbZht0 SOURCES https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Romanian_orphans https://www.ironcurtainproject.eu/en/stories/the-battle-of-ceausescus-children/ Zeanah, C. H. et al., 2005. Attachment in Institutionalized and Community Children in Romania. Society for Research in Child Development, Volume 76, pp. 1015-1028 Marinus H. van IJzendoorn, M. P. C. M. L. & Juffer, F., 2008. IQ of Children Growing Up in Children's Homes: A Meta-Analysis on IQ Delays in Orphanages. Merrill-Palmer Quarterly, Volume 54, pp. 341-366 https://www.ironcurtainproject.eu/en/stories/the-battle-of-ceausescus-children/; https://www.pri.org/stories/2015-12-28/half-million-kids-survived-romanias-slaughterhouses-souls-now-they-want-justice. Nelson, C.A., Zeanah, C.H., Fox, N.A., Marshall, P. J., Smyke, A.T., & Guthrie, D. (2007). Cognitive recovery in socially deprived young children: The Bucharest Early Intervention Project. Science, 318(5858), 1937-1940. PMID: 18096809 https://www.childpact.org/2015/05/06/the-former-institutionalised-children-of-romania-come-together-to-investigate-the-abuses-of-ceausescus-orphanages http://donellameadows.org/archives/ceausescus-longest-lasting-legacy-the-cohort-of-67 https://adoption.org/many-orphans-worldwide CHAPTERS 00:00 Neglect Theory 00:40 Daniel Rucareanu's story 01:33 Cognitive Neglect 02:29 Physical Neglect 03:10 Emotional Neglect 05:10 Ending

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Snap out of those headaches and calm down by focusing your mind and attention on what is now, right here at this moment.For example:<ul><li>Focusing on your breathing. </li><li>Focus on what is around you at this time. </li></ul>

Step 1: Be Here Now

The quickest and easiest way to do so is to focus it on appreciating what you do have.<ul><li>A warm home and a roof over your head.</li><li>Plenty of drinkable water.</li><li>Not having to go hungry.</li><li>Access to the internet.</li><li>Your friends and family.</li></ul>

Step 2: Appreciate What You Do Have

You can do that by asking yourself:What is one small step I can take right now to improve this situation?It may be to see what you can learn from what frustrates you and to try another path towards your goal.

Step 3: Focus On What You Can Do Right Now

What can I do to reduce the frustration caused by this trigger?Talk it out (instead of keeping it bottled up). Make note of your triggers and see what you can do about them. What triggers your frustration?

Bonus Tip: 

If you are not able to properly deal with your frustration, you should go for this...

Overcome and stop your frustration right now by using these 3 simple and powerful steps.

How to Overcome Frustration: 3 Simple but Effective Steps

﻿Read everything three times.1. For pleasure.2. To learn from the writer’s style.3. To think how you could write it better.

Today, the nation watched in awe as Amanda Gorman read her powerful poem “The Hill We Climb” at President Joe Biden’s inauguration—and then immediately Googled everything she’s ever said and written…

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Self-awareness requires silence and space in your brain. A practical step to do this is to ignore your phone as much as possible. In those moments where you have nothing to occupy yourself with, you choose to either occupy it with other people’s thoughts or with your own thoughts.Choose your own more than others.

Mindfulness

Every time I see headlines like “How I read 200 books in 3 months” , all I want to do is ask the writer if they remember the lessons from each one.Reading is a life-changing habit. It has the power to free people. Reading for the sake of checking a book off a list blocks you from accessing those amazing benefits.The key point here is time. Allow time for each book to soak into your soul. Reading is not a race.

Reading

Gratitude not only helps you see the small things in life that are good, but it changes the way you act in life. It makes it easier for you to volunteer, lift others up, defeat ego, and give generously.A practical tip is to let that practice take you one step further in your day-to-day life. Be aware of moments in a busy day where you can serve someone.It really comes down to letting gratitude seep into and motivate your small daily actions.

Gratitude

If you’re having trouble making habits stick and bring real change, do only one. <a href="https://jamesclear.com/new-habit">Do it for 60 days </a>. And once it becomes automatic, add another habit. Then rinse and repeat.

An Experiment for making habit:

This article describes three powerful habits: mindfulness, gratitude, and reading. It's all about how to take each one a step further to feel real change.

3 Life-Changing Habits That Waste Your Time If You’re Not Careful

It might sound silly, but try it for a month and watch what happens.It firmly instills in your subconscious what you’re working on and helps attract into your life what you need to make that vision a reality.

Write down your "Chief Aim"

As they say, “You are a reflection of the five people you spend the most time around.”Make sure that the people who fill your life and your time are people who live with principles aligned with your own.Ideally, these people should even be a little bit ahead of you, forcing you to stretch and continue to grow in the direction you’d like to go.

Surround yourself with people who you want to be like

No matter how big or how small, they set goals and create a measure for success.This constant practice is what allows them to set bigger and bigger goals and see them through to completion.

Set Goals, and Actually Achieve them

This is the hardest part.At first, everyone will tell you that you’re wrong.Everyone will insist that you are the “crazy” one. Everyone will point and share their opinion and then somewhere down the line, they will all come back around.They will see the life you’ve built for yourself, and they will ask you how you did it.

Don‘t be afraid to go your own way

If you truly want to Design your life, you have to master the golden trait of discipline.In order for you to be who you know yourself to be, in order for you to get to where you know you can go, you have to say “no” a hundred times more than you say the word “yes.”You have to stay so obsessively true to yourself and your mission, and the only way to do that is to have an extremely strong sense of self awareness and discipline.

You have to practice Discipline

When things go wrong, it’s someone else’s fault. When they don’t get promoted, it’s because of the environment. When a project goes haywire, when their team falls short, when the end product doesn’t…

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Anyone can learn to be creative by using these five steps. That's not to say being creative is easy. Uncovering your creative genius requires courage and tons of practices. However, this five-step approach should help demystify the creative process and illuminate the path to more innovative thinking.

Be Creative

<ol><li>Gather new material. At first, you learn. During this stage you focus on 1) learning specific material directly related to your task and 2) learning general material by becoming fascinated with a wide range of concepts.</li><li>Thoroughly work over the materials in your mind. During this stage, you examine what you have learned by looking at the facts from different angles and experimenting with fitting various ideas together.</li><li>Step away from the problem. Next, you put the problem completely out of your mind and go do something else that excites you and energizes you.</li><li>Let your idea return to you. At some point, but only after you have stopped thinking about it, your idea will come back to you with a flash of insight and renewed energy.</li><li>Shape and develop your idea based on feedback. For any idea to succeed, you must release it out into the world, submit it to criticism, and adapt it as needed.</li></ol>

The 5 Stages of Creative Process

This article explains the creative process all brilliant ideas have in common. Anyone can learn to be creative by using these five steps.

For a More Creative Brain, Follow These 5 Steps

The practice itself, which gets its name because there are four equal parts to it, is super simple. It works on the principle that slowing down your breathing helps you to relax, increases your oxygen intake, releases tension, and stimulates the vagus nerve, which is the longest nerve in your body and starts in the brain. One of its main functions is to slow the sympathetic stress response.

Box Breathing

<ol><li>Set a timer for five minutes.</li><li>Sit with a straight spine on the floor or in a chair with your feet flat.</li><li>Close your eyes and inhale for a count of four.</li><li>Hold your breath for a count of four.</li><li>Exhale for a count of four.</li><li>Hold for a count of four.</li><li>Repeat until the alarm sounds.</li></ol>

How to Perform?

Breathwork experts describe the box breathing technique used by U.S. Navy SEALs to immediately calm the nervous system.

Box Breathing: How To Use the Technique to Combat Stress | Well+Good

The idea is quite simple – do not try to predict what cannot be predicted; instead, focus on what is within your control, take actions to make progress and course correct as the future unfolds.The effectual approach can be summarized thus - control and shape the future, rather than predict and plan for it.

An effectual approach:

where the lean method and the associated set of tools - lean canvas, rapid experimentation with minimally viable products (MVP) and timely pivoting – come in handy....students to be systematic yet flexible, allowing them to learn from small experiments and make suitable adjustments to their course of action.

Toolkit for rapid experimentation:

Students come up with a venture idea and move it towards a potential business opportunity using the concepts and tools learned in the classroom.It is through this lived experience that they come to recognize the utility of an entrepreneurial mindset.It gives them the confidence to embark on an entrepreneurial journey and equips them with the tools to increase their odds of success.

Experiential learning: 

It is an orientation, a way of thinking and acting that allows individuals and organizations to navigate uncertainty

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5 Helpful Things to Do When You Think Life Sucks

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Neglect & Trauma: The Lives of the Forgotten Children

How to Overcome Frustration: 3 Simple but Effective Steps

Amanda Gorman’s Best Advice on Creativity

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