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Accept What You Feel

Accept What You Feel

Disappointment hurts. And that’s OK.

Don’t try to push it away. And don’t try to hide it under a big smile.

It works better to not be swept away by such tempting impulses. 

But to instead accept how I feel. To let it all in and to hurt for a while. 

Because if I do then it will go quicker and in the long run be less painful to process what has happened.

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Learn From It

Instead of getting lost in the pain and negative emotions that can come from a disappointment choose to see it more as something you can learn valuable things from. 

You might even realize that you need to make a bigger change in your life and start spending less time – or no time at all – with someone who has disappointed you too many times or always makes you feel like a disappointment no matter how hard you try.

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Remind Yourself

Who is never disappointed? Or never feeling low about a setback or a mistake?

The people who never really go outside of their comfort zone.

Everyone who is now successful and you may look up to have had his or her share of disappointments and failures.

Setbacks and sometimes feeling disappointed is a natural part of living your life fully. A sign of you trying to grow and improve your situation.

Keeping this fact in mind helps you to stay strong and your own stumbles and setbacks.

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Refocus

To move on shift your focus to what you still got in your life.

The people, the passions, and the things you sometimes may take for granted like a roof over your head and clean water.

Tapping into gratitude in this way helps to put things into perspective and to not let disappointment overwhelm and derail your whole week.

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