Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure.Oprah WinfreyMove your focus out of the past to stop worry and out of the future to stop anxiety. With presence comes a calm collection of thoughts and feelings. Eckhart Tolle’s The Power of Now is the authority piece on presence.

4. Be present

Not what we have but what we enjoy, constitutes our abundance.Epicurus Take a break, have fun. I don’t know how books can be written on this idea alone. I’ve said enough.

9. Enjoy yourself

Vision is the art of seeing what is invisible to others.Jonathan Swift Visualization is a commonly recommended technique with positive self-talk. It is becoming increasingly popular in therapy as psychologists use imagery to not only work through problems, but change behavior. The basic aim is to see in your mind what you want. Advanced visualization incorporates sight with taste, smell, touch, and sound of having achieved your goal.

12. Visualize what you want

People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.Abraham Lincoln You are the one who can turn that frown upside down. No one else can do it for you. If you feel like trash right now because your dog bit you, you can <a href="https://www.towerofpower.com.au/how-to-make-people-happy-and-yourself-feel-great">make yourself feel great </a>. But if you feel trashy a day after your dog bite, you might want to get checked for rabies…

1. You decide how you feel

Being a role model is the most powerful form of educating… too often fathers neglect it because they get so caught up in making a living they forget to make a life.John WoodenSimple and effective. It just makes sense that by modelling a person’s actions you become like them. The self-help lesson became big in the 80s by Tony Robbins when he brought NLP to the common man. NLP breaks down what a successful leader in any field does into traits and steps for a layman to adopt.

2. Model the successful

You may delay, but time will not.Benjamin Franklin So procrastination is bad. Hmm, really? Bet you never heard that before. Set goals, create a to-do list, skip activities that add no value, then work on what matters to get what you want.

6. Don’t procrastinate

If your ship doesn’t come in, swim out to meet it!Jonathan Winters When you step up in your life by taking responsibility for what you potentially influence, great things happen. You are responsible for sitting at home on your computer wallowing in self-pity. You are the reason for not making that nervous-inducing phone call to get the job.Some take responsibility too far always seeking to assign blame. A woman can be made to feel responsible, guilty, and ashamed for being raped. Dangerous. Take responsibility for what you can affect.

7. Be responsible

He is richest who is content with the least, for content is the wealth of nature.Socrates The self-help tip is also taught as being grateful for what you have. In every problem is an opportunity. When there is a crest, nearby is a peak. I doubt you can attribute that quote to me, but you’re welcome to.

10. Appreciate life

Our life is what our thoughts make it.Marcus AureliusIf you want something, become what you want. Similarly, the law of attraction says we attract what we think about. Visualize your desired reality to bring it to fruition. The popular self-improvement tip has been around for centuries in various forms and books like Think and Grow Rich<a href="https://www.towerofpower.com.au/review-of-think-and-grow-rich-by-napoleon-hill">! </a> .

3. Like attracts like

You now know what you’d remember from reading 158,000 self-help books. Should you never read one again?Consider this: “People often say that motivation doesn’t last.” said the late motivational speaker Zig Ziglar. “Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily.”Not only is motivation temporary, but some lessons we need to hear over and over again. Take for example the lesson “you decide how you feel”. I need to remind myself that often – even when I teach it! If I feel like **** from a bad week, the circumstances can make me forget so hearing the lesson helps.Think about this second point when improving yourself: understanding a topic makes you lose respect for it. Now, this is not always the case. Try learn how a CPU works and you will respect the technology. When you summarize something, its mysteries sink away. You may resent something that once seemed grand. Continue to love working on yourself even when you know the summary of top self-help books.

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The superior man thinks always of virtue; the common man thinks of comfort.ConfuciusAny lesson on fear, anxiety, growth, and human evolution teaches you to expand your comfort zone. I like to use my feelings of discomfort as a flag of growth. Do the same. Know that by stepping outside your zone as you become uncomfortable, you will not be who you were. Get good insight into fear by reading the 5 truths of fear.

5. Leave your comfort zone

Always remember you’re unique, just like everyone else.Alison BoulterYou are special. Sounds corny to me. I prefer to hear about pixies and unicorns. What I teach that you may find more helpful is to create self-to-self comparisons rather than self-to-other comparisons. This means compare who you are now to who you were. As a result you stop feeling worthless from not being that muscle head with millions in his pocket and babes hanging off his arms.Your beginnings are too different to pit yourself against everyone. An inferiority complex happens when you compare yourself to others.

8. You are unique

Self-suggestion makes you master of yourself.W. Clement Stone Replace negative self-talk with chat that benefits you. Change “I can’t do this” to “I can do this”. Action then good feelings flow from empowering self-talk. I like Theodore Bryant’s take on positive self-talk in his book Self-Discipline in 10 Days . He calls them “Vitaminds” – vitamins for the mind. To benefit from vitaminds you need to take them regularly in conjunction with other useful tips revealed in this article.

11. Use positive self-talk

A third point to consider when taking in self-help is common knowledge often gets passed down generations because it has repeatedly benefited earlier generations. Then again, I could be wrong. It is possible we just believe the psychological equivalent of the world is flat.Consider a fourth point: this article is a generalization. You may be filled with shock and anger at the concept of self-help. You then assume any such book described by these 12 pieces of advice is useless. Don’t get biased. There’s plenty of <a href="https://www.towerofpower.com.au/topic/reviews">books I’ve reviewed </a>and <a href="https://www.towerofpower.com.au/products">written </a>that have changed my life and ToP subscribers.What do you think of this summary of self-help books? Do they match your experiences?For an insider look under the blanket of self-help and how it almost killed me, you can learn more about the <a href="https://www.towerofpower.com.au/myths-and-dangers-of-self-help">myths of self-help </a>.