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The Blame Instinct

The Blame Instinct

The blame instinct describes our tendency to find a clear, simple reason for why something bad has happened.

  • To control the blame instinct, resist finding a scapegoat. Look for causes, not villains. Accept that bad things can happen without anyone intending them to. 
  • Look for systems, not heroes. When someone claims to have caused something good, ask whether the outcome might have happened anyway, even if that individual had done nothing. 

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