"Our identity is wrapped up in what others think of us—or, more accurately, what we think others think of us."

The people who have a negative mindset, are those who always complain, blame, criticize, give pressure, give orders, and compares. Try to avoid them, although it is not possible to avoid everyone. But you can try these methods - <ol><li>Allocate Time: Set up a time for these specific people (how much time you are going to spend with them)</li><li>75/25 rule: Try to spend 25% or less time with them.</li><li>Don't get involved: Stop involving yourself in problems and discussions that you don't know.</li></ol>

Remove Negativity

To remove inner negativity use 3S - <ol><li>SPOT (awareness): Firstly, you need to learn to spot negative thoughts as they arise.</li><li>STOP (addressing): Once you have spotted the negative thoughts, you can start considering how you can stop them.</li><li>SWAP (amending): Finally, you should swap the time you spend within these negative environments with something productive</li></ol>

Remove Inner Negativity - Use 3S

Our minds influence our values. We are not our minds, but our mind is a vehicle for deciding what is important to us. Your mind is fed by the movies you watch, the music you hear, the books you read, the TV shows you binge, and the people you follow online and offline. The more you are absorbed by negative sources, including troubling news and gossip, the more your values are tainted with envy, judgment, competition, and discontent.

Feeding Your Mind with Positivity

<ul><li>Location Has Energy: Set a specific location for each specific task. When you perform a task in a specific place, you will feel a kind of energy that will drive you to perform that task.</li><li>Time Has Memory: Every time you are doing a specific task at a specific time - it gets automated.</li></ul>

Know Your Space and Time

Our true identity is just like a mirror covered in dust of the influence of others. Shetty explains that cleaning your mirror will not be a pleasant experience. Only once you have removed the dust obscuring your mirror can you see your true reflection - who you truly are.Know the difference between attachment and detachment - <ul><li>Attachment is wanting something to happen in a particular way.</li><li>Detachment occurs when you want something to happen in the best way.</li></ul>The problem with attachment is that we think we know the best way.

Find Your True Identity

"You can’t be anything you want. But you can be everything you are."

The heart of all challenges in relationships is diagnosing what we are asking for and what we need. Most of us are asking for something from relationships that we don’t actually need. The most common thing that people want from their partner is time. When loved ones are asking for your time they are asking for these characteristics-<ol><li>Presence</li><li>Attention</li><li>Intimacy</li></ol>They want something deeper than just spending time with them. Try to be present at the moment by avoiding digital and thought distractions. Ensure you are paying full attention to the other individual and what they are saying. Finally, put time aside to enjoy the company of your loved ones alone. Intimate conversations are where you can both be yourselves.

Be Present

"When you try to live your most authentic life, some of your relationships will be put in jeopardy. Losing them is a risk worth bearing; finding a way to keep them in your life is a challenge worth taking on."

"Living intentionally means stepping back from external goals, letting go of outward definitions of success, and looking within."

"Be honest about what your intention is. The worst thing you can do is pretend to yourself that you’re acting out of service when all you want is material success."

You can follow the 3 simple rule to improve your morning routine - <ol><li>Don’t Look at Your Phone: in the first 2 hours of your day.</li><li>Plan Your Next Day the Night Before: Make simple decisions today about tomorrow and plan the day beforehand.</li><li>Integrate TIME Into Your Life: T stands for Thankfulness (for what you are grateful today?), I stands for Insight (Learn or Grow - Read books, listen to podcasts), M stands for Meditation( at least 2 minutes each day) and E stands for Exercise (only for 15 minutes).</li></ol>

Improve Your Morning Routine

Learn to encourage a culture of compassion, specifically self-compassion and self-forgiveness. Instead of beating yourself up about your mistakes, try to build the muscles to help you be resilient. If you feed your resilience effectively, then you will be happy irrespective of what life brings you.You need to put on your protective shield. You should not walk onto the battlefield of life without doing your training and shielding.

Use Mistakes as Fuel

"When we tune out the opinions, expectations, and obligations of the world around us, we begin to hear ourselves."

Pursue Higher Values, like - gratitude, service, truthfulness, and compassion, which will bring -<ul><li>Happiness</li><li>Fulfillment </li><li>Meaningful life</li></ul>Avoid Lower values, like - greed, lust, anger, and envy, which will bring -<ul><li>Anxiety</li><li>Depression</li><li>Suffering</li></ul>

Pursue Higher Values

Having the wrong intention for the right thing can lead us down the wrong path. <ul><li>As alignment means having your intention aligned with your action. Being aligned means looking for the right thing in the right way. </li><li>Positive intention is extremely powerful. You can be doing the wrong thing with the right intention and still get to where you want to be.</li></ul>You need to stop and think about why you are doing something. Do not let external factors drive your internal happiness. Allowing external factors to drive your happiness means you are putting your happiness in somebody else’s hands.

Know Your Intention: Prioritize Alignment Over Achievement

"Anyone can find the dirt in someone. Be the one that finds the gold."

"We seek to leave a place cleaner than we found it, people, happier than we found them, the world better than we found it."

Jay Shetty, social media superstar and host of the #1 podcast On Purpose, distills the timeless wisdom he learned as a monk into practical steps anyone can take every day to live a less anxious, more meaningful life. When you think like a monk, you’ll understand: -How to overcome negativity -How to stop overthinking -Why comparison kills love -How to use your fear -Why you can’t find happiness by looking for it -How to learn from everyone you meet -Why you are not your thoughts -How to find your purpose -Why kindness is crucial to success -And much more... Shetty grew up in a family where you could become one of three things—a doctor, a lawyer, or a failure. His family was convinced he had chosen option three: instead of attending his college graduation ceremony, he headed to India to become a monk, to meditate every day for four to eight hours, and devote his life to helping others. After three years, one of his teachers told him that he would have more impact on the world if he left the monk’s path to share his experience and wisdom with others. Heavily in debt, and with no recognizable skills on his résumé, he moved back home in north London with his parents. Shetty reconnected with old school friends—many working for some of the world’s largest corporations—who were experiencing tremendous stress, pressure, and unhappiness, and they invited Shetty to coach them on well-being, purpose, and mindfulness. Since then, Shetty has become one of the world’s most popular influencers. In 2017, he was named in the Forbes magazine 30-under-30 for being a game-changer in the world of media. In 2018, he had the #1 video on Facebook with over 360 million views. His social media following totals over 38 million, he has produced over 400 viral videos which have amassed more than 8 billion views, and his podcast, On Purpose, is consistently ranked the world’s #1 Health and Wellness podcast. In this inspiring, empowering book, Shetty draws on his time as a monk to show us how we can clear the roadblocks to our potential and power. Combining ancient wisdom and his own rich experiences in the ashram, Think Like a Monk reveals how to overcome negative thoughts and habits, and access the calm and purpose that lie within all of us. He transforms abstract lessons into advice and exercises we can all apply to reduce stress, improve relationships, and give the gifts we find in ourselves to the world. Shetty proves that everyone can—and should—think like a monk.

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Jay Shetty, social media superstar and host of the #1 podcast On Purpose, distills the timeless wisdom he learned as a monk into practical steps anyone can take every day to live a less anxious, more meaningful life. When you think like a monk, you’ll understand: -How to overcome negativity -How to stop overthinking -Why comparison kills love -How to use your fear -Why you can’t find happiness by looking for it -How to learn from everyone you meet -Why you are not your thoughts -How to find your purpose -Why kindness is crucial to success -And much more... Shetty grew up in a family where you could become one of three things—a doctor, a lawyer, or a failure. His family was convinced he had chosen option three: instead of attending his college graduation ceremony, he headed to India to become a monk, to meditate every day for four to eight hours, and devote his life to helping others. After three years, one of his teachers told him that he would have more impact on the world if he left the monk’s path to share his experience and wisdom with others. Heavily in debt, and with no recognizable skills on his résumé, he moved back home in north London with his parents. Shetty reconnected with old school friends—many working for some of the world’s largest corporations—who were experiencing tremendous stress, pressure, and unhappiness, and they invited Shetty to coach them on well-being, purpose, and mindfulness. Since then, Shetty has become one of the world’s most popular influencers. In 2017, he was named in the Forbes magazine 30-under-30 for being a game-changer in the world of media. In 2018, he had the #1 video on Facebook with over 360 million views. His social media following totals over 38 million, he has produced over 400 viral videos which have amassed more than 8 billion views, and his podcast, On Purpose, is consistently ranked the world’s #1 Health and Wellness podcast. In this inspiring, empowering book, Shetty draws on his time as a monk to show us how we can clear the roadblocks to our potential and power. Combining ancient wisdom and his own rich experiences in the ashram, Think Like a Monk reveals how to overcome negative thoughts and habits, and access the calm and purpose that lie within all of us. He transforms abstract lessons into advice and exercises we can all apply to reduce stress, improve relationships, and give the gifts we find in ourselves to the world. Shetty proves that everyone can—and should—think like a monk.

Jay Shetty is a storyteller, podcaster, and former monk. Shetty’s vision is to Make Wisdom Go Viral. He is on a mission to share the timeless wisdom of the world in an accessible, relevant, and practical way. Shetty has created over 400 viral videos with over 5 billion views, and hosts the #1 Health and Wellness podcast in the world, On Purpose. Learn more at JayShetty.me.