The effectiveness of the silent treatment

The effectiveness of the silent treatment

The silent treatment works depending on your goal.

If you're trying to show that you're upset and aren't really pushing for a meaningful change in the relationship, then yes. It will get the other person's attention but it more often creates more frustration than fix underlying problems.

When the silent treatment becomes a pattern it becomes detrimental to the mental health of both parties involved.

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The silent treatment in relationships

Many studies have been conducted about the silent treatment in familial relationships and romantic relationships and the outcome showed that those who used the silent treatment against their parents had self-esteem issues and the parents who used it on their children reported that the children felt like they had no control within the relationship.

Moreover, in romantic relationships, the partners who used the silent treatment were less committed to their relationship than those who don't.

A healthier alternative to the silent treatment
  1. Admit that something is wrong.
  2. Openly address conflict without yelling or chastising the other person.
  3. Work on your listening skills and actively listen to each side.
  4. Collaborate to solve problems. It's you and them vs the problem, not you vs them.
  5. Learn to accept rifts that would never go away.

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In a relationship, a partner uses ‘the silent treatment’ on the other to make them feel hurt, punished and alienated, manipulating their emotions.

Being isolated or ghosted by a partner is a sort of abuse that hurts more than being yelled or shouted at.

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The silent treatment

Silent treatment comes in many forms: social isolation, stonewalling, ghosting. Research suggests two in three individuals have used the silent treatment against someone else.

A father stopped talking to his teenage son and couldn't start again, changing his son from a happy boy to a spineless jellyfish. A wife whose husband stopped communicating after a minor disagreement eventually ended when her husband died 40 years later.

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The silent treatment goes by many names: shunning, social isolation, stonewalling, ghosting. Although psychologists have nuanced definitions for each term, they are all essentially forms of ostracism.

The silent treatment is a particularly insidious form of abuse because it might the victim to reconcile with the perpetrator in an effort to end the behavior, even if the victim doesn’t know why they’re apologizing.

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