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Understanding the importance of decision-making
Identifying biases that affect decision-making
Analyzing the potential outcomes of a decision
Normalize the idea that some friendships do end
We often assume that friendships will last forever. Because we don't view the loss of a friendship as normal, it feels like we have failed and should be ashamed of it.
But that is not true. Friendships sometimes aren't meant to be, and maintaining them can be unhealthy.
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Get closure if you can
With a romantic partner, you will usually have a breakup conversation. But the nature of a friendship makes it hard to make it final.
Diagnosing what went wrong and how is it affecting you can be helpful. Then try to get clarity from your friend to gain a sense of...
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Assess your other friendships
A concern that comes with a friendship breakup is how it will affect your wider group of friends.
- Don't hide what's happening. When friend groups don't have healthy boundaries as part of their friend culture, it can happen that the whole group will fall away when one person falls out...
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Give yourself space to grieve the loss
To the brain, a breakup is a breakup. The feelings tied up in a friendship is profound, and the loss thereof can cause some people to wrestle through stages of grief.
Be honest with other people in your life about what you're going through.
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Identify what you need to do to move on
Once you understand the impact of the breakup on your life, then you can treat it appropriately. It might mean talking through things with someone you trust or giving yourself space to grieve.
To help you move on, use the language of gratitude that puts the relationship in the past tense. ...
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You still deserve friendship
The loss of a friend should not make you feel unworthy.
We often find our identity in our friends. When a friendship is over, we may lose that sense of belonging and acceptance. This is all the more reason to find a sense of self-worth that is innate.
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The loss of a friendship
Losing someone you thought would always be in your life can be devastating.
But friendship breakups are inevitable, and we need to learn how to deal with them in healthy ways.
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Ending friendships
Sometimes a friendship can become so painful or unhealthy that we need to end it.
But we often don't have clear guidance or formulas to make these decisions. Our negative emotions drive our thoughts and may cause us to make poor decisions and lose relationships we could have kept.
Navigating the end of a friendship
- Try to be honest with the person. Do it with kindness and just talk about your own emotional availability. "I realize that I'm not a good friend right now. I just don't feel very emotionally available."
- Try to avoid "all or nothing" thinking. Frien...
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Two basic rhetorical positions can help you frame the novelty-and-importance argument in academic research.
- Build on or extend a set of existing ideas. 'Person A has argued that X is true. This implies Y, which has not yet been tested. My project will test Y. If I fi...
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