Embarrassing yourself

Embarrassing yourself

At some time in our lives, we all do or say something that we later regret.

If you find yourself dwelling on these moments because you think you embarrassed yourself socially, don't let that undermine your confidence. There are steps to take to help you let it go.

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If a moment that makes you feel embarrassed is an objective fact, ask yourself if it is a big deal.

  • If you spilt your drink on someone, was real harm done? Maybe the person laughed it off and was nice to you the rest of the time. *Forgive yourself and let it go.

List the things you did or didn't do that concerns you. Then ask yourself, "Is this an objective fact?" It mustn't just feel true.

  • An example of an objective fact: You spilt a drink on someone.
  • An example of feeling it is true: You made a fool of yourself.

If you made a fool out of yourself and real harm was done, plan to follow up with the person involved.

Be prepared to make amends. For example, "I feel bad about spilling my drink on your dress, and I'd love to have it dry cleaned for you." You'll come across as having good interpersonal skills, and being proactive will also improve your self-esteem.

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