Why We Have Regret
We regret the decisions we make because we think we should have done something better but didn’t.
We regret these decisions, which are in the past and can’t be changed because we compare them to an ideal path that we think we should have taken.
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We have a hard time not thinking about a bad choice because of how it conflicts with our self-identity.
Maybe we made a bad choice and this bad choice conflicts with our idea that we’re a good person. So the problem spins around and around, without resolution.
Let go of the ideals, and embrace reality.
This is a constant practice, but it helps us not constantly review past choices, but instead find satisfaction in what we’ve done and focus in what we’re doing now.
It can be tough to feel in control...feel you can manage your emotions and come out of 'all this' in one piece when life shakes us up.
Getting started & building momentum are sometimes the toughest things to do.
And these 2 steps can give us a huge start to getting back to life...build us up to be in a position to take further steps of shifting our thinking patterns and practicing resilience:
There’s a big part of us that doesn’t like chaos: we want order and simplicity.
We need to come towards the edge of uncertainty, the place we don’t like much, but which is full of growth, learning, creating and inventing. It is here when we toil that we find meaning, intimacy, beauty, love and vulnerability.
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