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The Serenity Prayer for Couples

The Serenity Prayer for Couples

Understanding the three-way serenity prayer and how it plays out in all relationship can make us less spiteful in the end, more wise even about when to give up on seeking more wisdom. We become more agnostic and less regretful and/or angry about what went wrong, about whether we tried unconscionably hard to change them or not hard enough, about whether they were stubborn narcissists or just on a different path.

That and an appreciation for the fundamental challenges we face in seeking and creating compatibility goes a long way toward gear switching into forgiveness

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The Three Options According to The Serenity Prayer

In any frustrating situation we can take it serenely, try to change it courageously or leave it.

  • Taking it means ignoring the problem because you’re invested in the relationship.
  • Trying to change it means focusing on the problem because you’re invested in the relationship.
  • Leaving means neither ignoring or focusing on the problem but divesting yourself of the relationship.

Sometimes sustainable serenity just ain’t happening and instead couples enter a period of unpredictable and amplifying oscillation, efforts to achive the serenity to accept, whipsawing with courage to try to change each other.

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The Delicate Messy Art of Ending Relationships

Lots of couples and couple’s counselors say that a relationship matures when both parties give up on trying to change each other, and with practice, get to where they regain a sobered acceptance of each other as is, that sustains them past the honeymoon period. 

Partners just figure out how to tuck in their elbows and make it work. So maybe the order is honeymoon serenity, courage and then back to sustainable post-honeymoon serenity. 

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Grant me the serenity to accept what I can’t change in a relationship, the courage to try to change what I can in a relationship, the prioritizing impatience to leave a relationship that I can neither change nor accept, and the wisdom to know the difference.

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Cafeteria Stoicism

Stoicism is made up of conflicting writings, especially around God, determinism vs free will, happiness vs avoidance of pain etc. Today most Stoic fans are practicing a cafeteria approach: picking up the few useful bits, modifying others, discarding the rest. 

But it’s important to know that this is what we’re doing. Because to the extent that we’re taking this approach, we’re not practicing Stoicism. We are abandoning it and relying implicitly on different (and often unidentified) philosophic ideas.

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