FOLLOW How to create self-distance Use self-distancing language: refer to yourself in the second or third-person. Try to view the situation from an alternative viewpoint, that is different from your own. Try to visualize the perspective of someone you admire, and then ask yourself what would they do in that situation. Try expressive writing: write about your thoughts and feelings when you’re trying to analyze an event that you’ve experienced.
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FOLLOW Sadness as a Person A study found that people feel less sad if the feeling of sadness is personified, as it leads to a certain distance between the person and the emotion. Detached from Sadness
By imagining that Sadness is a person, the sad person becomes detached from his/her sadness.
They can picture the sadness to have human traits or mannerisms, leading to an internal regulation of that particular emotion.
Not for the other Emotions
While this approach of humanizing the emotion appears to work for sadness, it can make a happy person less happy, if that feeling is humanized.
Other complex emotions like guilt and embarrassment may have any kind of effect and are yet to be studied.
FOLLOW Creating Psychological Distance
Many of us have been in a situation where our emotions prevent us from responding appropriately and seeing the big picture. For example, in cases where we feel extreme anger, stress, anxiety, and s...
Types of Psychological Distancing Time: We think differently about events that are far in the future, compared to activities in the near future. For events in the distant future, we use abstract terms that lack concrete action. Space: We use abstract terms to describe events within a physically-near space than events that happen in a space further away. Social distance: When we describe someone that is different to us, we use abstract qualities (them and us). Hypothetically: We use abstract words and terms to describe events that may not happen compared to events that are more likely to happen. Psychological Distancing and Executive Functioning
Executive functioning is the set of abilities and behaviors that is controlled by the frontal lobe, including:
Goal-directed and planning behaviours, such as deciding how to get dressed. Inhibiting responses such as waiting your turn. Monitoring your behavior and correcting mistakes. Changing your behavior in response to a change in the environment. Executive functioning helps you to regulate your emotions better, which gives rise to psychological distancing. FOLLOW Personal Or Core Values
They are what you consider most important in your life, literally what you “value. ” They are broad concepts that can be applied across a wide range of circumstances, as opposed to narrow answers t...
The Benefits Of Having a Core Value Having a core values list helps you make better decisions. The decisions you make come more quickly and efficiently than they would without it. Being unconscious of your core values makes you likely to keep repeating the same mistakes. Creating a List Of Personal Values
The core values that are most valuable to each of us come from our own personal experience, not from being taught.
As you put them into practice you’ll get better at internalizing these values and they’ll express themselves subconsciously with smaller decisions, as well.
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