Separate the failure from your identity. Just because you haven’t found a successful way of doing something (yet) doesn’t mean you are a failure .
These are completely separate thoughts, yet many of us blur the lines between them. Personalizing failure can wreak havoc on our self-esteem and confidence.
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Obsessing over your failure will not change the outcome. You cannot change the past, but you can shape your future. The faster you take a positive step forward, the quicker you can leave these debilitating, monopolizing thoughts behind.
Look at the failure analytically. Why did you fail?
After gathering the facts, step back and ask yourself, what did I learn from this? Think about how you will apply this newfound insight going forward.
We easily get influenced (and spooked) by what people say about us. Remember, this is your life , not theirs. What one person considers to be true about you is not necessary the truth about you, and if you give too much power to others’ opinions, it could douse your passion and confidence, undermining your ability to ultimately succeed.
Our upbringing – as people and professionals – has given us an unhealthy attitude toward failure. One of the best things you can do is to shift your perspective and belief system away from the negative and embrace more positive associations.
If you struggle with bad habits when you’re stressed out—like smoking or eating junk food—create a list of healthy coping skills and hang it in a prominent place.
Then, use your list to remind yourself of the healthier strategies you can turn to when you’re feeling bad.
Most of us are in the 'mediocre' zone, making a living and trying to do our best in confining circumstances. We try to work, raise a family, and try to be happy.
Aiming to reach towards the stars, becoming the next Mark Zuckerberg can work out for a few, but for most of us, it can be a recipe for failure. Being mediocre is good enough if you want time for your hobbies, have a decent family and enjoy the little pleasures of life.
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