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7- Remember That You’re The Harshest Critic

Would you doubt a friend who took on a new job or for the way they parent their kids the same way that you doubt yourself.? The answer is likely no.

We will always be the harshest critic for ourselves. It’s a nice reminder to treat ourselves with the same kindness and compassion that we have for others, instead of being so critical on ourselves.

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MORE IDEAS FROM 10 Tips to Overcome Self-Doubt | Eugene Therapy

It’s normal to experience feelings of doubt when we are faced with new or challenging situations. It is something that we all may experience at certain times in our lives. However, when it becomes debilitating for us, that’s when we may need more tools to overcome self-doubt.

persistent self-doubt is not addressed, it can lead to:

  • Procrastination or lack of motivation
  • Emotional instability
  • Low self-esteem
  • Difficulty making decisions

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Journaling is always a therapeutic exercise to practice. Writing down your thoughts of self-doubt or experiences with imposter syndrome onto paper might be a good release. You may even realize after you see your concerns written down, that they may not be as detrimental as you thought they were. This can help to gradually overcome self-doubt.

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Take a moment to assess your values and what matters most to you. It may be that you’re kind to others, you’re a good friend, or that you contribute to something meaningful in your life.

When we recognize these values and what truly matters to us, the fear of criticism from others falls by the wayside. And when we live aligned with our values, it doesn’t feel as detrimental to be criticized or make mistakes.

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Comparison is the thief of joy. If you’re experiencing self-doubt because you’re afraid you won’t accomplish something at the same level as someone else, then it can be a paralyzing feeling.

Everyone’s journey and ideas of success are different. What we can control and focus on is our own path and where we want to take it, regardless of where other people are at or what they have done.

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A lot of achievements are born out of initial uncertainty or doubt. It helps to remind ourselves about the times that things have gone right, because the same thing could happen in the present moment.

On the flip side, it’s good to not focus too much on the past or past failures we might have had. The present moment is a new opportunity to do well, even if things didn’t go right the first time.

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When negative thoughts begin to creep in, sometimes they are hard to recognize because we become so used to them.

Next time these thoughts persist, take a moment and ask yourself if you really believe that they are true. Consider how positive thinking may shift your mindset and allow you to be more confident in your abilities.

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While it’s great to feel reassured from others that we are doing a good job or that we are capable of accomplishing a difficult task, it’s equally important to have our own faith in ourselves.

Constant reassurance doesn’t mean much if we still don’t believe in ourselves. Even if we aren’t the most confident about where we’re at, it’s good to practice being accepting of our strengths and all that we have to offer.

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The friends and family members in our lives who believe in us and everything that we’re capable of will always be on our side.

When you’re feeling self-doubt, surround yourself with these people. They can remind you of how talented and resilient you are during times when you’re not feeling that way about yourself.

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We all are human. We all make mistakes along the way and it’s okay to do so. Mistakes are also how we learn and grow. We can mitigate self-doubt and fear of failure by practicing being kind to ourselves, no matter the outcome.

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It may help to see a mental health professional to overcome self-doubt if these feelings persist to the point that makes it difficult for you to function in everyday life. Therapy can help us feel understood and give us tools to alleviate feelings of doubt.

Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is a popular form of therapy that can help specifically with self-doubt. With CBT, we can learn methods to challenge problematic ways of thinking that may lead to an improved mood and overall well being.

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1.Practice Self-Compassion

For someone who has big goals, which I hope you do. It can be easy to experience self-doubt because the goals seem unattainable. 

However, your goals are not the problem, they are actually great. But when you seem to not be making progress, do not doubt yourself. 

Instead, be compassionate to yourself as you would others. 

We are only human and all make mistakes along the way. 

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LET GO OF PERFECTIONISM

Perfection can hold you back and prevent you from trying new things or developing existing skills all because of the fear that the results won’t be perfect the first time we attempt something different.

Practice pushing aside perfectionism in favour of developing your skills and abilities.

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The Impostor Syndrome And Our Expectations

The new generation has experienced a never-ending stream of expectations, where their achievements are never enough. They are always pushed up on the edge of perfection, being rated and scored every moment.

This is a major cause of the phenomenon of the Impostor Syndrome, where an individual secretly has the notion of being incompetent or unqualified for the role or job, even though he or she may have been a high-achiever, and most likely a perfectionist.

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