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If you lack confidence in social situations, the most important thing you can do is not judge yourself for caring about what other people think.
“Scared is what you’re feeling. Brave is what you’re doing.”
― Emma Donoghue
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3. One is not as confident as people think one is.
The third limiting belief on your confidence is the idea that confidence is relative:
That your confidence hinges on other people’s beliefs about how confident you are.
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1. One needs to feel confident to act confident.
No, you don’t.
And in fact, you’ve got it completely backward:
You’ll only feel confident once you start acting confident despite not feeling it.
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2. One cares too much about what other people think.
And here anxiety’s not the problem. It’s your anxiety about anxiety that’s killing your confidence.
And what’s really holding you back from confidence is the belief that you shouldn’t feel anxious about what other people think of you.
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Also to keep in mind
The real problem isn’t your lack of confidence — it’s that you judge the validity of your confidence based on external factors.
You are the final authority on your confidence. Don’t outsource that job to someone else.
“Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fe...
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Quote to remember :
“You cannot swim for new horizons until you have courage to lose sight of the shore.”
― William Faulkner
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