How to increase social confidence

You can boost your social confidence by practicing to

  1. speak up in groups,
  2. hiring a speech coach,
  3. dressing better,
  4. improving your posture — all without compromising your vision and values.

There are a lot of ways to get people psyched about an idea or opinion without having to lie to them or be overconfident about the chances of success.

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There are 2 types of confidence. Here's the one that Jeff Bezos has—and why people judge you on it the most

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You can speak from the heart about why you personally care about an issue.

You can share real stories of people who have benefitted from your product.

All of these techniques make a difference in how people see you, and none of them require you to make unrealistic claims.

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One is what psychologists call epistemic confidence,or certainty. How sure you are about what’s true? If you say, “I’m 99% positive he’s lying” or “I guarantee this will work,” you’re displaying epistemic confidence.

Then there’s social confidence,” or self-assuredness. If you speak as if you’re worth listening to , you’re displaying social confidence.

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Franklin and Bezos’ experiences suggest that, when it comes to the impression you make on people, being more self-assured is better than expressing certainty — and research agrees.

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  • Matchers operate tit for tat. When people do them a favor, they repay in a capacity that is no more, no less. And when they help someone, they expect the same in return.
  • Givers focus on others more than on themselves. They pay close attention to what people need from them, whether it’s time or ideas or mentorship. A rarity in the workplace.

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Read For Immediate Rewards

Studies show that there’s correlation between human behavior change and immediate rewards. Receiving immediate rewards releases dopamine in our brains, which compels us to seek more of the activity at hand.

By itself this isn’t enough to form a habit, for that, the brain needs to be expecting the reward. We can apply this mind hack to books, by reading about topics that we can immediately apply to improve our lives.

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