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Digital Mirrors

As more and more interaction goes online due to work being increasingly remote, we find that we are staring at our digital selves on the laptop or smartphone screen more often than usual. Social scientists are looking at the long-term effects of being connected via screens in our homes, isolated from real people.

If we like ourselves, we would find pleasure in being on video calls, but if we are self-critical, the same negative feelings would be amplified. The screens act like digital mirrors, showing us more of what we believe in.

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Being self-concerned while on a video call is natural. We can see after a while that our face is tensed up and has a quizzical look.

New studies show that friends behave differently in video interactions and the in-person ones. Virtual meetings put us in a muted state, both physically and emotionally.

A small percentage of people are excessively focused on real or imagined flaws related to their looks, and look in the mirror quite often. The people find mirrors a force that controls, imprisons and paralyses them.

Even if we don’t fall under that bracket, constantly seeing ourselves in the (digital) mirror may increase the self-analysis, monitoring or evaluation.

Large group video calls often tend to be comparison contests, increasing self-critical behaviour.

To minimize negative feelings or bad habits, we can fiddle with the settings to minimize our faces, or put the screen image placement to the bottom of the screen. We can also use sticky notes to block any distractions and focus on actual work. We can also put our complete focus on the person we are interacting with, looking for visual cues.

Befriending yourself

From a young age, we learn how to be a good friend to others. We learn how to share and to treat others how we want to be treated.

Yet, many of us don't receive guidance on how to treat ourselves with kindness. We might even believe that being kind towards ourselves is self-indulgent or weak.

Self-compassion involves treating yourself with the same kindness with which you'd treat a loved one. Self-compassion consists of three ingredients:

  • Self-kindness: Offering warmth and understanding to yourself.
  • Common humanity: Acknowledging that we all make mistakes and experience pain.
  • Mindfulness: Observing your thoughts without becoming consumed by them.

Researchers found that self-compassion helps people take personal responsibility for problems and help them persist when facing obstacles.

If we are self-compassionate, we create a safe space to look at our embarrassing missteps. We can recognise that failures are natural. Without self-criticism and shame, it's easier for self-compassionate people to improve and move forward.

You can either fill your tank with criticism or with compassion. Both will get you moving, but self-compassion will last longer and cause less damage over time.

When you practice being kind to yourself, you will find it easier to get up if you failed at something, apologise after losing your cool, or return to exercising after neglecting it.

It is not an elusive trait reserved for a few lucky ones. We can train our self-compassion, for example, through writing exercises (writing a letter to yourself from the perspective of a caring friend), imagery, or meditations. These exercises can help us respond to ourselves with encouragement and care.

Yet, most people find cultivating self-compassion very difficult. Research found that just changing participants beliefs about the usefulness of self-compassion helped them cope better.

  • Notice what you believe about self-compassion. What do you think would happen if you were self-compassionate? What would happen if you let go of harsh self-criticism?
  • Notice how you talk to yourself. Is your self-talk negative? Do you hold yourself to impossible standards?
  • Examine your assumptions about self-compassion.

At first, self-compassion might feel odd, scary or difficult. Be patient with yourself. Getting better at self-compassion takes practice.

How planes fly

Planes can fly quite easily without engines, as gliders (planes without engines), paper planes, and gliding birds show us.

A plane's engine is designed to move the plane forward at high speed. The wings move a plane upward. At high speed, the air flows fast over the wings and throws the air down toward the ground, generating an upward force, or lift. The upward force overcomes the plane's weight and keeps it in the sky.

Wing vortices

A plane throws the air down behind it by making a spinning vortex - a kind of mini-tornado.

Most of the vortex is moving downward, but not all. There's a huge draft of air moving down in the center, but the air also swirls upward on either side of the wingtips, reducing lift.

If you're in a plane and steering around a circle, the centripetal force comes from leaning into a curve, just like a cyclist leans into a bend.

Steering involves banking, where the plane tilts to one side causing the one wing to dip. The plane's overall lift is tilted at an angle, making some of the lift act sideways. This sideways part of the lift provides the centripetal force that makes the plane go around in a circle. But turning the plane in a circle will make it lose lift and altitude, unless the pilot uses the elevators to increase the angle of attack to cause lift again.

Wings make lift by changing the direction and pressure of the air that the plane comes into contact with as the engines push the planes through the sky.

Air that flows at a certain angle (generally 15 deg) over the top and bottom of a wing follows the curve of the wing surfaces very closely. But as the angle increases (the angle of attack), the smooth airflow behind the wing becomes more turbulent and reduces the lift.

  • Planes can fly without airfoil-shaped wings. What is crucial for a plane is the angle of attack.
  • The bigger the wings, the more lift they create.
  • But small wings can also generate a great deal of lift if they move fast enough. Extra lift at takeoff is produced with flaps on the wings to push more air down.
  • Lift and drag vary with the square of your speed: If the place goes twice as fast relative to the oncoming air, its wings produce four times as much lift and drag.

Most aeroplane wings are curved on the upper surface and flatter on the lower surface, making a sectional shape, named an airfoil.

  • As a curved airfoil wing flies through the sky, it deflects the air and changes the air pressure above and below it.
  • The air pressure changes because the air that flows over the curved upper surface wants to move in a straight line, but the curve pulls the air around and back down, causing the air to stretch out into a bigger volume, lowering the pressure.
  • The pressure of the air under the wing increases for the opposite reason.
  • The difference in air pressure between the upper and lower surfaces causes a difference in air speed. When they arrive at the tail end of the wing, the molecules of both will be speeding downward, producing lift.

When you change something's direction of travel, you change its velocity - the speed it has in a particular direction. A change in direction always means a change in velocity and acceleration.

Newton's laws of motion state that you can only change the speed of something or change its direction of travel by applying a force to it.

Another way to look at steering is to think of it as stopping something from going in a straight line and going in a circle. That means you have to give it a centripetal force.

Things that move in a circle always have something acting on them to give them a centripetal force. For example, if you're on a skateboard, you can tilt the deck and lean over, so your weight helps to provide centripetal force.

You steer something flying through the air at high speed by making the air flow in a different way past the wings.

Planes are moved up and down, steered from side to side, and made to stop by a complex collection of moving flaps called control surfaces on the leading and trailing edges of the wings and tail. They are called ailerons, elevators, rudders, spoilers, and air brakes.

  • Build a basic paper plane that flies in a straight line.
  • Cut or rip the back of the wings to make some ailerons.
  • Tilt them up and down and see what effect they have in different positions.
  • Tilt one wing up and the other down and see what difference that makes.
  • Try making a new plane with one wing bigger than the other, or heavier by adding paperclips.
  • A paper plane can be steered by making one wing generate more lift than the other.
  • Fuel tanks: The fuel is safely packed inside the plane's enormous wings.
  • Landing gear: Planes take off and land on wheels. The wheels are retracted into the undercarriage by hydraulic rams to reduce drag when the plane is in the sky.
  • Radio, radar and satellite systems are essential for navigation.
  • Pressurized cabins: Air pressure falls with height above the Earth's surface. Planes have pressurized cabins with heated air steadily pumped so people can breathe adequately.

The second aspect of making lift:

  • According to Isaac Newton's third law of motion, if air gives an upward force to a plane, the plane must provide an equal and opposite downward force to the air. That means that the plane generates lift by using its wings to push air downward behind it.
  • The wings are tilted back very slightly, so they hit the air at an angle of attack. The angled wings push down the varied airflow from above and below the wing to create lift.

The pressure difference that a wing creates and the downwash of the air behind it generate the same effect: The angled airfoil wing creates a pressure difference that causes a downwash and produces lift.

Negotiating On A Job Offer

Many people often make mistakes during their first job offer negotiation. However, it isn't all ill-fated. Negotiating during a job offer takes proper research, practice, and confidence.

Not only is it important to know what you're putting yourself into but also it's extremely helpful to understand if your needs can be met by your workplace.

  1. Study your prospective employer. There are many different websites that let you take a glimpse into their salaries, work culture, and benefits.
  2. Ask for advice from your seniors or those who are in the same role as the one you're applying for and take culture into consideration.
  3. Identify your negotiables and non-negotiables. It's important to understand that once you accept circumstances that make you miserable, you will only bring negativity to your wellbeing, productivity, and performance.
  • A different start-date
  • More vacation or paid time off
  • Flexible hours and work-days
  • Performance bonuses
  • Working space reimbursements
  • Professional development such as external training opportunities
  • Onsite child care (if you have any)
  • A better job title (for a resume boost)
  • Travel expenses reimbursement
  • Higher 401(k) contributions (for those in the U.S.)
  • When accepting negotiations it is important to start from a place of agreement so that any existing or imagined adversarial feeling is removed.
  • Try to understand the reason of your hiring and ascertain what they are trying to achieve by taking you in as a part of the team.
  • By asking the right questions this will help you better in guiding the discussion and possibly come to a compromise.
Doing Well In Your Career

It requires two important factors:

  • The ability to do your work well. This requires knowledge.
  • Meta-knowledge. Meta-knowledge is knowledge not on how to do your job, but knowledge about how your career works. That means you need to know which skills are the ones to invest in and which ones you should ignore.

You can get meta-knowledge by doing good research. This kind of research comes from the interactions with other people and rarely from school or books.

Talking to people who are ahead of you in your career and comparing them to people who aren’t is often a very successful strategy to isolate which skills and assets you need to develop.

When you ask for advice, you’ll often get vague, unhelpful answers.

Try instead observing what the top performers in your field are actually doing differently, to learn what really matters to move forward.

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