Instead of berating or accusing the other person, use "I" statements to express your own thoughts and feelings. For example, instead of saying "You're wrong," say "I disagree." This can help defuse tense situations and make it easier for the other person to hear your perspective.

I Statments

Take the example of Half-Glass Life approach, where we neglect the fact that the glass is half-empty but, optimistically focus on the part that the other half is filled. This helps us cherish our mind in worst situations.

Framing +

Before having fun with others, first learn to enjoy the alone company. A balance of joy & bliss ponts in life is necessary to handle. This helps us drive our own persona in lone times.

Self Amusement

Becoming sillier at serious & complex situations lightens the moment, makes environment friendly. But, it depends on us to decide where to go silly or to stay focused.

Serious Silly Ratio 

The direction of a person's gaze can also provide insight into their thoughts and emotions. For example, if a person is looking to the side while speaking, they may be lying or trying to remember something. If they are looking at the floor, they may be feeling ashamed or guilty.

Gaze

3 Habits That Make Chris Pratt Charismatic AF Discover The 4 Emotions You Need To Make a Killer First Impression: http://bit.ly/2BfF4iS Chris Pratt is one of the most charming and funny people I’ve ever seen and that’s after over 100 Charisma on Command videos. So In honor of Guardians of The Galaxy 2 I wanted to do a breakdown of what it is that makes him so engaging and likable. In his case, there is a powerful aura of positivity. Nearly everything he says and does is so upbeat and the effect is contagious Now, It’s far easier to say be positive, than to actually put it into practice. That’s why we are going to look at some of the foundations of Chris Pratt’s positivity. Because when you can bring that into your own life, being confident and charismatic comes so much more easily 0:47 Self amuse as in Jurassic World - Guardians of the Galaxy diet 4:53 Chris Pratt positivity as in this funny clip with Stephen Colbert 6:58 Chris Pratt sticks to the complementary humor and comedy Everything is awesome (The LEGO Movie): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=StTqXEQ2l-Y Subscribe to Charisma On Command’s YouTube Account: http://bit.ly/COC-Subscribe Connect With Us Further: Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.com Facebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommand Periscope: https://www.periscope.tv/charismaon Or if you want to see my personal stuff (my regular life + me playing music): Instagram: @CharlieHoupert Periscope: @CharlieHoupert

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3 Habits That Make Chris Pratt Charismatic AF

Discover The 4 Emotions You Need To Make a Killer First Impression:
http://bit.ly/2BfF4iS

Chris Pratt is one of the most charming and funny people I’ve ever seen and that’s after over 100 Charisma on Command videos.  So In honor of Guardians of The Galaxy 2 I wanted to do a breakdown of what it is that makes him so engaging and likable.  In his case, there is a powerful aura of positivity.  Nearly everything he says and does is so upbeat and the effect is contagious

Now, It’s far easier to say be positive, than to actually put it into practice.  That’s why we are going to look at some of the foundations of Chris Pratt’s positivity.  Because when you can bring that into your own life, being confident and charismatic comes so much more easily

0:47 Self amuse as in Jurassic World - Guardians of the Galaxy diet
4:53 Chris Pratt positivity as in this funny clip with Stephen Colbert
6:58 Chris Pratt sticks to the complementary humor and comedy

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Instagram is full of people in love with their image of reading.Reading for learning is not all coffee shops and cosy couches. Most of the time is pen and paper and rereading concepts that are difficult to grasp.You read because you want to know more, do more, grow more. You have a purpose. You're looking for things that could give you an edge, that you could later use in your purpose.

Reading with purpose

Connecting ideas can be a creative action.Use technology to put together ideas from different backgrounds and come up with new insights.

Learning like mixing music

An insight is an atomic self-contained re-usable unit of knowledge.It has emotional value. A gut feeling that you've stumbled over something really valuable.

What's an insight?

Atomic: Is the idea the smallest it can be? If you resonated to multiple items maybe you could capture them separately. Self-contained: The nugget should be valuable on its own. You should get most of the value by looking at it. This means short summarised notes work better than lengthy never-ending paragraphs. Re-usable: The insight needs to allow for methods of interaction. It should be classified in a manner that you recognise, it should point back to the source etc.

What makes a good IDEA?

We sometimes get lost in the process of reading. We go to slow or take too many notes. Here's how to read efficiently, remember & mix new concepts.

For most people music is one the most meaningful (if not the only) spiritual experience. Music can detach you from this world, making you feel a deep sense of harmony, letting you experience a state…

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Getting ready can become a distraction.Being prepared is overrated: start before you feel ready.Being successful is not about your ability to plan, but your ability to act. You may make more mistakes at first if you decide to start acting before you feel ready, but the long-term compound effect of learning from these mistakes will get you closer to your goals than any amount of preparation. The illusion of a perfect time to start is holding you back.

A fine line between PREPARATION and PROCRASTINATION

“It takes a long time to feel ready. Everyone thinks it’s an overnight thing, but when you start out, it’s really hard.”

Yes, getting ready is comfortable. But most successful people report feeling uncomfortable when they first got started. Many still feel uncomfortable—or, in the words of Larry Page, “uncomfortably excited”—many years after they achieved what many would consider as huge successes.

UNCOMFORTABLE is good

Instead of preparing and researching, start before you feel ready. Pick a first step and just do it. Repeat that step until you feel comfortable enough, then kick it up a notch. When you look back, you won’t believe how much progress you’ve made.

Start before you're ready

You don’t know what you don’t know. The best and quickest way to learn is through experienceAvoid the illusion of productivity. Reading tutorials or watching fitness videos feels good, but it’s just a way to trick your brain into thinking you’re being productive by keeping busy.Momentum takes time to build up. Over time, your efforts will compound. Any time spent not acting is time wasted.

Just jump

Procrastination is such an obstacle for creative perfectionists that sometimes we could use a reminder to just do things. Stop overthinking. 

You should start before you feel ready. Getting prepared feels good, but it’s a way to trick your brain into thinking you’re being productive.

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Being prepared is overrated: start before you feel ready

When taking notes, divide your paper into two sections. In the left section, take notes and in the right section, make notes.Taking notes means writing down what you hear or see.Making notes means creating your own personal notes. How will you use the notes on the left in your life?

Taking And Making Notes

Life is the C between the B and the D. B is for birth and D is for death. So what's life? It's the C, it's choice.

You should always try to do something three times:<ol><li class="ql-align-justify">To get over the fear.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">To get competent and good at it.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">To see if you like it.</li></ol>

Do Something Three Times

Unlimiting is the process of removing limits. It means liberating yourself out of a box.The three M's to unlimiting are:<ol><li class="ql-align-justify">Mindset: Assumptions, Attitudes; what you believe is possible.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Motivation: P × E × S3; Purpose × Energy × Small Simple Steps.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Methods: The human brain does not learn through consumption, it learns through creation.</li></ol>

Three M's To Unlimiting

There are four supervillains that are holding you back:<ol><li class="ql-align-justify">Digital Deluge: Too much information.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Digital Distraction: Getting distracted by your phone.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Digital Dementia: Memorising things with your phone.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Digital Deduction: Your phone is doing the thinking for you.</li></ol>

Supervillains That Are Holding You Back

If you want to learn something, the best way is to teach it. When you teach something, you get to learn it twice.

Jim Kwik shares how to improve your memory and overcome limits. These ideas are from "The School Of Greatness" by Lewis Howes EP 1378.

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How To Manage Time As A Student 

Cramming sis terribly inefficient; four hours of cramming is worse than four hours of study spread out over several weeks or months. This is how memory works in general; we want information to stay in our long-term memory since retrieving it will be much simpler than if we store it in our short term memory

#9 Avoid 'cramming'

how to prepare well for exams or in general learn effectively is something nobody teaches us in school or university. Try tactics such as Active Recall and spaced repetition. These tactics can effectively free up a large amount of your time.

#8 Learn How To Study Effectively 

There is a belief that because studying is so difficult and stressful, you think you need three hours each night to unwind and that time must be spent watching TV and browsing Instagram because that is what you count as your "Self care time." This belief is valid, but it's also acceptable to experiment a little and to raise doubts about your beliefs regarding how much quick self-care you actually require. What i am trying to say in short is try spending 30 minutes less on your self care time and you'll see a difference.

#7 Be Experimental With Self Care Time

How would you prefer to spend your time if you could design your life anyway you wanted, and then compare that to how you're really spending your time right now. Then ask yourself why your present life isn't like that and what techniques you might take to move your current life closer to your ideal li

#6 Work Out Your Ideal Ordinary Week

Revision schedules are a complete fiction, they're a terrible waste of time, they're simply a method for us to postpone and procrastinate, they're a way for us to feel good about the fact that we're intending to do all this revision but then when we get down to it, we don't actually follow the revision timetable. Unless you're one of the rare diligent students who adheres to a revision schedule, in which case you probably wouldn't be reading this idea on time management.

#5 Scrap Revision Timetables 

I discovered that anytime I remained up until 2 a.m. to hang out with friends or do anything relaxing, nothing positive came of it. I believe 2 a.m. is the time at which you realize you've had your profound chats from 10 P.m. to 2 a.m.. Nothing nice happens between the hours of 2 and 6 a.m. It basically means you screwed yourself for the following day because you're now burnt out, fatigued, and exhausted, and you have to go to lectures, where you're falling asleep, and it all becomes a nightmare.

#4 Nothing Good Happens After 2 Am

It's exhausting trying to remember all you need to accomplish. Another advantage of utilizing a calendar is that it allows you to be more thoughtful about how you spend your time. Whether you decide that one of the things you want to accomplish at university is participate in an extra project or whatever, you may look at your schedule and see if you actually have the time to do so. It's so easy to beat ourselves up because we believe we should be doing a hundred other things, but if you run your life on a calendar, and your calendar is somewhat accurate.

#3 Run Your Life Religiously Based On A Calendar 

you can physically see if you have the time to accomplish this. Let's assume I want to do my sports, my socializing, and my self-care, how many hours are legitimately left in the day to do other things, and if you run your life through a calendar, you'll have a good idea of what that is, and if you don't, you can wind up wasting a lot of time and You can also find yourself beating yourself up and flagellating yourself for not doing enough when, in reality, you're accomplishing a lot but aren't aware of it since you don't use a calendar.

Continued From #3

When you schedule things, you may start using the time you save to accomplish something deliberate rather than something unintentional. In general, scrolling Instagram or Tiktok is an unintentional way to spend time; it's just one of those things you end up doing because you have like 12 minutes and you're like, well, you can't do any work in 12 minutes so you might as well just scroll Instagram that's not like intentional and the thing I always try to tell myself is time is the only thing we have, time is the only resource we can't make more of.

#2 Schedule Absolutely Everything 

So why am I wasting my time on this world, my valuable time on this earth, doing something I don't honestly want to do, and so what I discovered is that when I arrange things using a calendar and find these tiny blocks of time, I also try not to squander those minutes.

Continued From #2

I used to beat myself up when I didn't feel productive enough that day or when I didn't get through the subjects on my crappy revision timetable, and I realized that beating myself up doesn't actually change how much work I've managed to do, it doesn't change anything about how effective my studying was, all it does is make me feel bad for the rest of the evening and make me struggle to sleep, and it doesn't even help me like it doesn't even galvanise my motivation to do more work the next day because it's like every day is an individual day and if I did poorly one day,

#1 Choose To Be Satisfied With How You Spend Time 

I'm not any more likely to do well the next day and so the real hack here is whatever you manage to do, however much studying you manage to do at the end of the day, you can choose to be satisfied with what you have done

Continued From #1

These helped me and they might as well help you 🙂

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<a href="https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/7845157-bounce">Bounce </a>shows you that training trumps talent every time, by explaining the science of deliberate practice, the mindset of high performers and how you can use those tools to become a master of whichever skill you choose.

Book Summary 

"Winners aren't born. They are made."-Matthew Syed

Author Quote 

I remember Tai Lopez kept raving about this book <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zt6WILcc9YU">back in 2014 </a>. <a href="http://www.matthewsyed.co.uk/">Matthew Syed </a>is a former table tennis professional, who was the number one English player for several years and went to the Olympics twice. Since 1999, he writes for The Times. <a href="https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/7845157-bounce">Bounce </a> was his first book about how high performers like himself achieve their success.

Book Overview 

<ol><li>With intense practice, 2 changes will occur in your brain to make it more effective. </li><li>Even minor details can inspire you to work hard for your success. </li><li>You can avoid choking under pressure by telling yourself that it’s not a big deal. </li> </ol>

Top 3 Takeaways From Book 

Table tennis players often seem to have lightning fast reaction times, right? But when scientists ran a bunch of tests on the English national team’s players, they found the best player, <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Desmond_Douglas">Desmond Douglas </a>, to have the slowest reaction times. How does this go together? Douglas’s brain has been trained to quickly assess situations in a table tennis match , through years of practice, but only when he’s playing.

Lesson 1: When you practice a lot, 2 changes will make your brain more effective.

Because he’s seen so many balls fly towards him in so many different ways, his brain can easily estimate even the most complex trajectories and give him more time to react than other players with less practice. However, that doesn’t make him a better driver. In an everyday car crash, he wouldn’t hit the brakes any faster than you or me.

The second thing that happens is that his brain uses other areas to perform than the brain of a beginner . Since a lot of his actions happen on autopilot, the subconscious parts of his brain are really in charge here. Instead of wasting the resources of his <a href="http://fourminutebooks.com/happiness-summary/">prefrontal cortex </a>on trying to get the ball spin right, he can use his brain to think about tactics, because the movements of his hand are taken care of.

Do you know the story of the 4 minute mile? Basically, for thousands of years humans believed it was not possible to run a mile in less than 4 minutes. It seemed like the human body just wasn’t capable of doing it. The record stalled in the 1940’s, for 9 years no one could get past 4:01.

Lesson 2: You can be inspired to work hard by the most trivial details.

<a href="http://www.nomeatathlete.com/4-minute-mile-certainty/">Within a month, another guy did it </a>. Over the next 4 years, 20 more people broke the barrier, bringing the record all the way down to 3:56. When the hell did it become so easy for so many people? The moment someone did it, that had even the slightest relation to them. 11 of those 20 people come from UK-related countries (Ireland, NZ, AUS). Roger Bannister was British.

Syed calls this motivation by association. He says if we find even the slightest similarity between someone successful and ourselves, it can motivate us to multiply our work efforts.

What happened to Eminem when he finally got his shot to show everyone how good he was at rapping live on stage? <a href="https://youtu.be/DHMF-bVxlkc?t=1m32s">He choked </a>. Looking into hundreds of faces, knowing they were all expecting him to fail, the pressure to perform became so enormous, that all his hardly trained rhyming skills seemed to vanish. What can happen to all performers in such a high pressure situation, is that their conscious brain takes over, because it usually allows them to take extra caution and be very alert of every movement, so they don’t make a mistake.

Lesson 3: You can tell yourself an event is not a big deal to avoid choking under pressure.

However, when it’s all on the line, that’s not exactly what you want. It’s right in those moments that you want your subconscious to be in charge, so you can actually reap the benefits of all your hard training. You can combat this performance anxiety by telling yourself that it’s really not such a big deal and that the event doesn’t matter to you.

Compare it to your health, your family, your spouse or your best friends – does it really matter whether you win or lose the Super Bowl? This will allow you to stress less and unleash your hard earned skills. And sure enough, once he stopped giving a damn about the whole event or what everyone thinks of him, <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sHE0wmgljco">Eminem went back and crushed it </a>.

I’m big on <a href="http://jamesclear.com/deliberate-practice-strategy">deliberate practice </a> and so is <a href="https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/7845157-bounce">Bounce </a>. Naturally, we got along quite well. Syed also touches on related topics, such as <a href="http://fourminutebooks.com/mindset-summary/">having a fixed mindset </a> and building confidence. Combine this with the reminder that you need incredible focus on one area from <a href="http://fourminutebooks.com/zero-to-one-summary/">Zero To One </a>yesterday, and you have a great recipe for success. I like the many examples this summary used and am sure there are many more in the book plus links to some of the studies Syed quotes, which are hard to find otherwise. Look at whether the summary on Blinkist strikes you and if it does, grab a copy of <a href="https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/7845157-bounce">Bounce </a> !

Bounce - Book Review

The 13 year old who is about to give up playing the piano, the 22 year old who loves his college football team, but is not quite sure he can make it into the NFL, and anyone who ever choked at an important event.

Who would I recommend the Bounce  to?

Read my Bounce summary to learn what happens in your brain after a lot of practice, where to get inspired and how to avoid choking when it's on.

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Bounce Summary

"In order to break the cycles of negativity, you've got to get up every day and do the work right before you. That means getting your education when the opportunity presents itself. And then focusing on that, doing the work, doing your homework, getting to the next stage in life. Because if you take those small steps over time, you build up a lifetime of another story for yourself."

CNN's Sara Sidner moderates a timely discussion about empowering girls across the globe with former First Lady Michelle Obama, Amal Clooney and Melinda French Gates. #michelleobama #sarasidner #News

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CNN's Sara Sidner moderates a timely discussion about empowering girls across the globe with former First Lady Michelle Obama, Amal Clooney and Melinda French Gates.
#michelleobama #sarasidner #News

CNN operates as a division of Turner Broadcasting System, which is a subsidiary of Warner Media. CNN identifies itself as -- and is widely known to be - the most trusted source for news and information. The CNN umbrella includes nine cable and satellite television networks, two radio networks, the CNN Digital Network, which is the top network of news Web sites in the United States, and CNN Newsource, the world's most extensively syndicated news service. CNN is proud of our ability to bring you up-to-the-minute news from around the world, as a result of our many extensions.

Michelle Obama has advice for girl's battling self-doubt

At any time, when someone asks you question try coming close to the guy, this shown your sincere attention towards the person. Also the guy could possibly better figure out our eye gestures from a close distance.

Distance

The greater we narrow our eyes, the more sincere & genuine we look. When explaining our statement to someone narrowing our eyes, tilting your head, nodding your head are basic necessities.

Narrow

The moment you break your eye contact is the moment you genuinely end a conversation with a person sitting in group of individuals.

Break 

Never abruptly end the conversation when giving a optimistic speech. Move backwards while continuing speaking for some seconds. Then, weigh your body to the back side, gradually ending the conversation, neglecting the immediate silence.

Slow

A balance of eye contact is must when approaching a group.As too little eye contact is interpreted as not paying attention, being insincere or shy.

Low 

Former US President on Eye Commincation!!!

How To Make Eye Contact - Bill Clinton Charisma Breakdown How to make eye contact - learn from one of the masters... Bill Clinton. The 1992 Presidential debate was a huge turning point in the race and Clinton's superb eye contact is what so endeared him to voters. When you break down Bill Clinton's charisma it's obvious that there is a lot more going on than eye contact. But by focusing on these 3 simple charismatic tips to improve your eye contact, you'll find that your ability to connect with people immediately jumps. Bill Clinton used it to advance his campaign all the way to the Presidency - so you should be able to use it to make a few friends :-) Subscribe to Charisma On Command: http://bit.ly/subscribeCOC Connect With Us. Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.com Facebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommand Periscope: @Charismaon Or if you want to see my personal stuff (my regular life + me playing music): Instagram: @CharlieHoupert Periscope: @CharlieHoupert

How To Make Eye Contact - Bill Clinton Charisma Breakdown

How to make eye contact - learn from one of the masters... Bill Clinton.  The 1992 Presidential debate was a huge turning point in the race and Clinton's superb eye contact is what so endeared him to voters.

When you break down Bill Clinton's charisma it's obvious that there is a lot more going on than eye contact.  But by focusing on these 3 simple charismatic tips to improve your eye contact, you'll find that your ability to connect with people immediately jumps.  Bill Clinton used it to advance his campaign all the way to the Presidency - so you should be able to use it to make a few friends :-)

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How To Make Eye Contact - Bill Clinton Charisma Breakdown

How To Make Eye Contact- Bill Clinton

<ol><li>Make your opinion clear</li><li>Explain your critiques</li><li>Don’t go negative</li><li>Talk about the positives</li><li>Make a sandwich: Fit a critique between 2 praises</li><li>Imagine the alternatives: What in your opinion would have made the book better?</li><li>Steer clear of spoilers</li><li>Consider your audience</li><li>Recommend to the right readers: It might not be for you but someone out there might enjoy it.</li><li>Have a rating system</li><li>Critical reviews are valuable... when written right</li><li>Proofread</li><li>Share thoughtfully: Don't tag the author and/or publisher</li><li>Don't stress: If you need a break from reading to comeback, then do so.</li></ol>

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How to Write a Critical Book Review

<ol><li>Describe the plot: Enough to hook the reader</li><li>No spoilers</li><li>Content Warning: Mention them especially before it's brought up as a point of review</li><li>Find the hook: Just like the book has a hook, your review should have one too.</li><li>Make your opinion clear: Readers can get book summaries everywhere, your thoughts differentiate your review from that.</li><li>Find your voice: As you keep reviewing, you'll find your style. Embrace it.</li><li>Rating system: Decide on your personal rating system.</li><li>Read other review</li><li>Explain praise & critique</li><li>Consider your audience</li><li>Proofread</li></ol>

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