Any fool can have a child. That doesn't make you a father. It's the courage to raise a child that makes you a father.

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Irresponsible Father: Zero involvement with his kids and is completely out of this kid's life.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Ignorant Father: He doesn't try to learn or get through his brokenness and passes his faults to his children.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Inconsistent Father: Is selfish and prioritizes his job, career, and hobbies over his children.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Involved Father: The type to show up to sporting events and takes the time to put porn filters in the kid's devices. He gets a lot of things right but fails to go deeper.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Intentional Father: A man with a plan who is deeply invested in helping his kids fulfill their true purpose.</li></ul>

There Are 5 Types Of Fathers

A man is an image bearer and song of God entrusted with power and the responsibility to create, cultivate, care, and defend, for God's glory and the good of others.

Come up with your own vision as a father for what you want to impart on your son on the day he leaves your home. <ol><li class="ql-align-justify">What do you want your son to know?</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Who do you want him to be?</li><li class="ql-align-justify">What do you want him to be able to do?</li><li class="ql-align-justify">What experiences do you want him to have? </li></ol>

Prepare For The Day Your Son Leaves

We need to have a vision of the day our sons will leave our homes and work backward from that day with a plan to help them gain the knowledge, skills, character, and experiences they need.

The Intentional Father provides practical steps to help men raise sons of consequence.  It lays out a clear path for fathers and sons, including specific activities, rites of passage, and significant marking moments.

Self-initiation is killing our young men. Without strong mentors, boys are walking alone into a wilderness of conflicting messages about who they should be as men. It's no wonder that our sons are confused about what the world expects from them and what they should expect of themselves. The Intentional Father is the antidote. This concise book is filled with practical steps to help men raise sons of consequence--young men who know what they believe, know who they are, and will stand up against the negative cultural trends of our day. Jon Tyson lays out a clear path for fathers and sons that includes specific activities, rites of passage, and significant "marking moments" that can be customized to fit any family. It's not enough to hope our sons will become good men. We need them to be good at being men. This book shows how fathers, grandfathers, and other male mentors can lead the way.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Karpman’s Drama Triangle defines unhealthy relationships where individuals take on different roles: Persecutor, Rescuer, and Victim. These roles are fueled by guilt and blame.<ul><li>Persecutor: blames and criticizes others</li><li>Rescuer: enables and takes care of others</li><li>Victim: feels powerless and blames others</li></ul>

Karpman Drama Triangle

Learn to shift from being a victim to being self-aware and compassionate. Move away from being a rescuer to finding balance and taking care of yourself.
Key Lessons:
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 <li>Not being a victim but standing up for yourself</li>
 <li>Being vulnerable without being a victim</li>
 <li>Caring without being too involved</li>
</ul>
Living beyond the Drama Triangle means managing your boundaries, having self-agency, and valuing yourself. Find the sweet spot of being self-aware and acting from a mature mindset.

Shifting from Drama Triangle Roles

To be mentally free, recognize the patterns that keep you playing the victim, persecutor or rescuer.🧠 Awareness: Notice your common reactions to avoid being trapped in the drama triangle.<ul><li>Pause: Take a moment before impulsively responding to a situation. 🛑</li><li>Refuse: Don't let yourself be controlled by others. 👊</li><li>Avoid: Steer clear of losing battles and unreasonable arguments. 🚫</li></ul>

Step out of the Drama Triangle

We all have the power to stop the drama in our relationship and take control. Let's stop the cycle of superiority and inferiority. Stop being a victim by taking these actions:<ol><li>Stop acting like 'poor me': don't ignore your own needs and don't always take the blame.</li><li>Recognize your role in the relationship: accept that you need to change.</li><li>Face your fears: confront the issues that are causing the drama.</li><li>Take better actions: don't let the drama consume you and your relationships.</li></ol>Remember, taking control of the drama does not mean you care any less about people.

Stop The Drama

If you've ever found yourself trapped in a personal Drama Triangle, you will already know how detrimental it can be to relationships. But it also rears its ugly head in a business context, and it's something well worth watching out for.

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About the Drama Triangle – And how to escape it

Now, after proving the existence of distinct and clear ideas as the standard for truth, Rene Descartes addresses the potential existence of material outside of the self and God.

Rene Descartes on External Reality

First, he suggested that objects exist because God has the power to create them. This implies that the existence of external world doesn't need any theoretical explain, just by the ability of God, external world can make them into being.

After knowing that the existence of such objects is possible. Descartes will use mental images as a proof, but first he draw a distinction between Imagination and Understand.Imagination - is a faculty of that is directly accessible to the body, requiring no intellectual processing or conceptualization. Which therefore exist like mental picture.Understanding - is an apprehension that doesn't really need or represented by mental images.

Imagination And Understanding Distinction

But this is not a proof. At this point, he has only shown that their existence (external world) could conveniently explain this mental process.

Rene Descartes reviews his premises for the Meditations (that anything can be doubt cannot be trusted) However, he view these arguments within a new context as after the Meditation I, he has proved the existence of himself and of a Perfect God now. Thus, Descartes jumps quickly to proofs of the division between the body and mind and that material things exist.

The New Context

Premise 1: If I can clearly and distinctly perceive something, then it is possible for God to create it.Premise 2: If God creates something to be independent of another, they are distinct from each other.Premise 3: I clearly and distinctly understand my existence as a thinking thing, not requiring the existence of a body.Conclusion 1: Therefore, God can create a thinking thing independently of a body. (From Premise 1 and 2)

The Proof of Mind and Body Distinction

Premise 4: I clearly and distinctly understand my body as an extended thing, not requiring a mind.Conclusion 2: Therefore, God can create a body independently of a mind. (From Conclusion 1 and Premise 4)Premise 5: My mind is a reality distinct from my body. Conclusion 3: Therefore, I (a thinking thing) can exist without a body. (From Conclusion 2 and Premise 5)

Those conclusions create the mind-body distinction and it is also known as Dualism.

Premise 1: My belief in the reality of external world is grounded in a strong inclination based on my senses.- External world is explain the mental images that we have.Premise 2: This inclination is attributed to the nature in which God created me.- Rene Descartes believe in external world not because of any theoretical explanation, but because God has the power to create it.

The Proof of Material World

Premise 3: If independent material things do not exist, God is a deceiver.- as everything in external world will become an illusionPremise 4: God is not a deceiver.- He is perfect being and the quality of being all good is included in his perfection Conclusion: Therefore, independent material things exist and possess essential properties, as my belief is a product of God's non-deceptive creation.

After using these two arguments to dispel solipsism and skepticism. Descartes seems to have succeeded in defining reality as being in three parts: God (infinite), minds, and material things (both finite). Rene Descartes dedicated the last part to response to the possible criticism on his claim such as phantom limbs, dreams, and dropsy.

This is the end of the Meditation on First Philosophy by Rene Descartes.

Summary of Meditation VI. Of the Existence of Material Things, and of the realdistinction between the Soul and Body of Man.

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Descartes' Meditation VI

Patience doesn't mean acquiescing. It's not enduring problems. Patience is examining an input by determining the outcome.

Patience

Patience doesn't mean waiting in vain.

When I look into people known for their patience, one thing they all have in common is they have a space in their minds to rethink before making a decision. Indeed everyone thinks before their action, what's different about patient people is that they think and rethink to their advantage and their surroundings by analyzing what outcome their reaction will cause.

What Does A Patient Person Do?

Patience is one of the most misinterpreted qualities.

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My POV on Patience

Rene Descartes states that he wants to expand the "known items" as the only thing for now that is we certainly know is God and self.

"Before asking whether any such objects exist outside me, I ought to consider the ideas of these objects as they exist in my thoughts and see which are clear and which confused."

Descartes separates external objects into those that are clear and distinct and those that are confused and obscure.

The example of clear and distinct external object are the Mathematical concepts. In meditation I those are called simple things but in this context it is an ideas.

Clear and distinct Ideas

The example of Confused and Obscure ideas are the ideas that have Extension, Duration, and Movement in external world.Extension - any external things that has an extension in space or in 3D world.croDuration - any external things that has a time of existence.Movement - any external things that explore in physical world.

Confused and Obscure Ideas

Rene Descartes argues that Mathematics for example geometrical ideas, these cannot be misconstrued or combined in a way that makes them false but the other that have Extension, Duration, and Movement can be.

Testing the Two Concept Of Ideas

The following examples of confused ideas is not directly on the meditation V but this example will explain clearly what Rene Descartes is pertaining on the concept of clear and confused ideas.)

You can combine in your mind the idea of a creature with a human brain, body of a crocodile, eye of an eagle, and teeth of lion. Then construct a question asking if these creature is powerful. There is no certain answer as the ideas is yet to be discover or invented. These ideas have the extension, duration, and movement. Thus, having such those properties is confused eas.

Confused Ideas

On the other hand, no mathematical re-arrangement of a triangle could allow its three internal angles to sum to anything but 180 degrees. These ideas don't have extension, duration, and movement. Thus it is clear and distinct.

Clear Ideas

Descartes states that truths may have a nature or essence of themselves of being true and independent of the thinker.While thinking about the independence of these ideas of external objects (Mathematical Truth), Then Descartes realized that he is just as about God as he is about these mathematical ideas as both of them have an essence and independent of the thinker.

He asserts that the ideas of God implies God's existence.Premise 1: God is defined as an infinitely perfect being. Premise 2: Perfection includes existence.Conclusion: So God exists.In this argument, the idea of God has the nature of Perfection. In other words Perfection is part of God. Then if God is perfect by the definition, or by the idea of God itself, then he has the attributes and quality of being Perfection, perfection includes existence as it attributes and quality of it. Then if God is perfect it necessarily follows that God exist

Another argument for God's Existence

(This argument is one of the other version of Ontological argument proposed by St. Anselm of Canterbury.)

This settles his discontentment to the "distinct and clear" criteria for truth and with the confirmed existence of God, all doubt that is generated in meditation 1 are can be removed with certainty as God will not let him be deceived and now he has a distinct criteria in seeking the truth.

With all of the conclusion, Descartes asserts that without this sure knowledge in the existence of a supreme and perfect being, assurance of any uth is impossible.

There is no Truth without God

(At the end of Meditation V, Rene Descartes, he successfully expand his known ideas, win the concept of Truths, create another argument for God's existence to Settle his discontentment, and destroy all of skeptical hypothesis, but the problem in solipsism (you are the only one that exists) and the external world still exist, in Meditation VI he will continue his journey to answer and settles these problems.)

Summary of Meditation V. Of the essence of material things, and, again, of God,that He exists.

Descartes' Meditation V

Willing constitutes one-third of our inner essence, while the other two-thirds consist of Knowledge and Emotions. Through thoughts, these three are clustered to process.

Willing

Knowledge can be any information, concept, or encoded experience.

Stipulative Definitions

Emotions are affective mental states that arise in response to internal or external events. Involving physiological arousal, expressive behaviors, and subjective feelings (iterated/depthen emotions).

Emotions

Willingness is our attitude or motive to think or do things. It involves cognitive processes of decision-making, intention formation, and motivation. It is the result of consciously choosing based on desires, values, beliefs, and expectations.

When we say it's our willingness that decides we're talking about proportions of encoding realities either as Knowledge or Emotion. Controlling our emotions means we are more willing to access our knowledge. Similarly, there are areas of life where we rely more on our emotions than knowledge. None of these three are work-free parts of our Souls though our willingness decides the ratio.

Glance at their process linearly.

Our minds function similarly to computers, where even a small hardware issue can lead to software collapse. Likewise, problematic thoughts can result in system deficiencies, freezing, or, in extreme cases, damage to our mental well-being. Thoughts, whether positive or negative, are inevitable and imminent. However, it is our genuine willingness that allows us to manage how we perceive and interpret these thoughts. Our willingness serves as the deciding factor in this process.

The Power of Willingness in Managing Thoughts

Have you noticed the brain is the most protected part of our body?

The three components of our souls, namely Willing, Knowledge, and Emotions, form a triumvirate that functions simultaneously but with different roles. The decision-making aspect (Willing) is constantly influenced by the other two. It is also impacted by our morals and beliefs, which means that it is not completely free and should be questioned. To make better use of the decider, we should always ask ourselves why we are experiencing certain emotions or why we hold certain knowledge. This will enable the decider to index thoughts as an Emotion or Knowledge adequately.

What are we Willing to do with our Thoughts?

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Willingness - the trending focus 

The conclusions of the previous Meditations that Rene Descartes or "I" and "God" both exist eventually lead to another problem: "If God is perfectly good and the source of all that is, how is there room for error or falsehood?"In other words, "If God is perfect then why there is a mistake in the world?"(This meditation IV is dedicated to answer that specific problem.)

Rene Descartes tries to resolve this in four ways; One from the concept Great Chain of Being and Three from the Misuse and Limitation of his Abilities.

Rene Descartes states that God's perfect goodness is relative to His perfect being. On the extreme opposite end of the scale is complete nothingness and where the evil relies. He states that the location of the Humans is in-between these two extremes.Being human is being less "good" than God, but more "good" than Evil. Therefore, error or mistake is only the absence of what is correct and right.

The Great Chain of Being

Limitation of AbilitiesMisuse of one's own PerspectiveMisuse of Divine Gifts

The Misuse and Limitation of Abilities

Rene Descartes states that there is a possibility that his limited knowledge prevents him from understanding why God chose to create him so he could make mistakes.Therefore, there might be a reason but because of our limited knowledge, it is ncomprehensible.

Limitation of knowledge

Rene Descartes suggest that what may seem like a mistake or error on an individual or specific level might actually be perceived as flawless when considered within the broader context of the entire creation established by God.Therefore, the perspective that sees beyond isolated instances of error to appreciate a larger, harmonious picture of existence may have a different significance or as Rene Descartes considered as "Error Free"

2. Misusage of Perspective

"For something that seems imperfect when viewed alone might seem completely perfect when regarded as having a place in the world."

The two Divine Gifts are the Understanding (Intellectual Gift) and Will (Freedom) both of these gifts are in a perfect condition. Rene Descartes realized that error occurs when he practice or exercise his understanding and will. Therefore, the gifts of God (understanding and will) both remain good and perfect so do God itself as the giver of these and the error only occurs when we misuse it.

3. The Misusage of Divine Gifts

(At the end of Meditation IV, Rene Descartes settled the problem. He made the error of humans and imperfections of it, is compatible to the existence of a perfect being called "God")

Summary of Meditation IV. Of the True and the False.

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Descartes' Meditation IV

First, Descartes proposed that there are three sources of ideas:Innate - Ideas that are within us Fictitious - Ideas that come from our imaginationAdventitious - Ideas that come from experiences of the world.

Source Of Ideas

Descartes proposed the Level of Reality, This hierarchy is based on the perfection of the Ideas in their own.Objective reality - is the reality that something has as ideas or representation, or reality that an idea or representation exist. Formal Reality or actual reality - are the reality that is actual and not just represent.Eminent reality - is the reality of an idea that is not active but has a potential for its actuality (to formal Reality).

Levels of Reality

Objective reality is on the top because we can perceive a Perfect triangle, but I'm actual reality and eminent there is no perfect triangle, as all triangles in reality is composed of material that can be curved, erase of something. A perfect idea of triangle only exist in Objective reality and it can be called Infinite-objectibe reality, were the idea of objective reality is extended to the infinity. So, this reality is in beyond the other ideas objective reality.

The Hierarchy

The argument for God's existence of Rene Descartes are the Trademark Argument (Ontological) and The Causal Argument (Cosmological).

Rene Descartes argues that our idea of God did not came from the Fictitious, Adventitious and Innate ideas, he insists that the Idea of God is came from God itself and he used the levels of reality to prove it.

The Trademark Argument

Premise 1 : I have an idea of God as an infinitely perfect being.The source of this ideas are:FictitiousAdventitiousInnateNot Fictitious because fictitious ideas are imagination, and imagination is a combination of elements from sensory experience. Therefore, it lacks the quality for a certain, infinite and perfect idea of God.Not Adventitious because Adventitious ideas are arises from external stimuli or experience. Therefore, it also lacks the quality for a certain, infinite and perfect idea of God.The first two options may be subject to doubt (Meditation 1)

The Argument

Not Innate because innate ideas are generated by me. I, myself is a finite being. Therefore, I cannot create an infinite and perfect idea of God.

Premise 2: If I have an idea of an infinitely perfect being, then some infinitely perfect being must exist.There is no reasonable source for that infinite and perfect idea of God to exist. Then, the source of my idea of God must really be infinitely perfect being (Beyond objective reality).Conclusion: Therefore, an infinitely perfect being called God, exists.This argument is often called Descartes' ontological argument, asserting that the idea of God and his perfection implies His existence.

Rene Descartes also concluded here that an absolutely perfect being is a good, benevolent being therefore God would not deceive him. It settles some of the unresolved problem of skeptical hypothesis from Meditation I.(As of the moment of this meditation "I" or "a thinking thing" and "God" is the only thing that sure to exist)

Premise 1: I exist (as a thinking thing, Meditation II).Premise 2: My existence must have a cause.The only Possible Ultimate Causes are:Myself I always having existedMy parentsSomething less perfect than GodGod

Causal Argument

Not "Myself"If I had created myself, I would have made myself perfect. Also I'm a finite being.Not "I always having existed"This does not solve the problem. If I am a dependent being, I need to be continually sustained by another.Not "My Parents" This leads to an infinite regress from generation to generation and they are also dependent being.Not "Something less than a God" The idea of perfection that exists in me cannot have originated from a non-perfect being.

Then, "God" because he is an independent being and has the power to cause something to exist. Conclusion: Therefore, God existsA perfect being could not have been caused by anything less than a perfect being.

(At the end of Meditation III Rene Descartes prove the existence of God with the attributes of a perfect being.)

In this Meditation III Rene is trying to prove the existence of God.

Descartes' Meditation III

Did you know that you look pretty? Look at others around you. You'd definitely find someone's body shape, eye, skin, or any part of body not attractive. Now compare that with the same body part of yours. See?

You Are Beautiful 

Even a flower that blooms beside a road sparks a flow of joy in our hearts. And the beautiful "you";do the same to others as well. You are beautiful, you are pretty, you are important. There's someone who didn't get to live today. But you did.

You Matter!

This is a post I'm sharing to tell you some facts about youself!

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YOU!

"In the quiet moments, between the chaos of life, lies the true essence of our being."

"Stars may shine brightly, but it's the darkness that unveils their brilliance."

"Silence whispers truths louder than words ever could."

"Growth isn't always visible; it quietly nurtures roots beneath the surface."

"In the dance of life, our scars become the most beautiful choreography."

"The grass is greener where you water it."

"In the garden of life, both flowers and thorns contribute to its beauty."

"Time, like a river, carries us forward, yet leaves traces of our journey along its banks."

“The soul always knows what to do to heal itself. The challenge is to silence the mind.”

In the vast expanse of human thought, gems of wisdom often emerge from the shadows, spoken by individuals whose names may never grace the history. These quotes, though unattributed to renowned figures, possess a raw power, resonating with profound truths and insights that transcend fame.

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