People's confidence usually matches their ability and the situation. If they're under-confident, they may not take on opportunities that could benefit them. If they're over-confident, they may agree to things when they're out of their depth. As a manager, you should pay attention to the confidence displayed by your direct reports. When they seem overconfident, it's beneficial to help them recognise the reason why they should temper their enthusiasm.

Over- and under-confidence

People often show overconfidence when unaware of how a situation can lead to bad outcomes, even in cases that may seem simple. For example, a client may be considering multiple offers you are unaware of, a competitor may be working on a similar product, or the market may take a downturn just as your company prepares for an IPO. If you’re working with someone who does not recognize the difficulties that situations can cause, it’s important to increase their awareness of some factors beyond their control.

Under-appreciation of the situation

Some people believe they're more highly skilled than they really are. They often fail to appreciate the complexity of expert performance, which adds to their overconfidence.  One way to help is to work with your team on hypothetical situations so that they can get a glimpse of what they still need to learn. You should be explicit about what aspects of their performance they need to improve without undermining their confidence.

Over-appreciation of skills

Overconfidence can lead to arrogance. Arrogant people value their own opinions, skills, and knowledge over that of other people. It can be helpful to talk with these team members about their respect for others in the organization. Reflect on some of their words and actions to help them see how they come across to others. It can also be helpful to point out great things that other people in the organization have done to reinforce the expertise of colleagues.

Lack of recognition of other people's skills

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<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Confidence is a belief that your knowledge is accurate, that your skills are up to the task, and that you can grow into whatever particular challenge is in front of you</li><li class="ql-align-justify">There is a lot of value in having an appropriate level of confidence in situations you face</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Being over-confident is dangerous because you may put yourself at social, physical, or financial risk when you take on something your knowledge and skills cannot handle</li><li class="ql-align-justify">When you frequently experience pangs of regret over the actions you didn’t take, you may be consistently being underconfident</li></ul>

The Right Confidence Levels

<ul><li>When you are chronically under-confident, your immediate reaction to any opportunity is to turn it down. Pay attention to it.</li><li>Take the time to actually contemplate a new opportunity. Doing so might make you nervous, but that's not a good reason not to think it through.</li><li>You will often find that you would be more encouraging to someone else than to yourself.</li></ul>

Chronically Underconfident

Many opportunities that are put in your path are there because they do fit within your skill set (or close enough that you will succeed with effort).When you say yes more often, you provide yourself with opportunities to succeed at things that fall inside your capabilities but outside your comfort zone.

Consider Specific Alternatives

<ul><li>You are legitimately worried that something is beyond your capabilities, but that doesn't mean that you should not be involved at all.</li><li>Consider asking a trusted colleague or mentor to work on something with you so that you get some experience working at a level beyond what you have done in the past.</li></ul>

Use Training Wheels

If you frequently experience those pangs of regret over the actions you didn’t take, you very well might be under-confident.

How to teach yourself to be more confident

Doubt can be a defining emotion that enables us to go deeper and deeper into our work, a driving force for exploration and depth. Left unchecked, doubt can dull and drain creative energy.We all know of moments in our own lives when doubt rears its head and blocks us. After we've done the work to unpack the doubt, we need to allow our confidence to grow stronger.

Understanding your doubt is the first step to using it

You have to earn it.During the moment that it feels the worst, when you feel sick to the pit of your stomach, your brain scrambles a mile a minute, you can barely breathe, and your knees are shaking, decide to stay with it and earn the confidence that makes the situation more bearable for next time.

Confidence comes with effort

The only way to build confidence and believe in yourself is to try something, learn from it, and do it again.Remember that the person in front of you is doing it. Self-doubt is a starting point for exploration, not confrontation.

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Harness your self doubt to improve your confidence

If you’re struggling to feel more confident, it’s natural to think about it like this:I don’t feel very confident. So what should I start doing to feel more confident?This is understandable, but often misguided. Because more often than not, confidence is about what you remove, not what you add.See, most of the time people don’t lack confidence in an absolute sense. Instead, their natural, good-enough level of confidence is being blocked or interfered with by inner obstacles like chronic worry and anxiety, negative self-talk, and compulsive avoidance.

Struggling To Be More Confident

Most people who struggle with confidence also experience a lot of anxiety.<ul><li>They’re anxious about what other people think of them.</li><li>They’re anxious about not performing well.</li><li>They’re even anxious about having low confidence!</li></ul>Unfortunately, the natural response most people have to anxiety is to try and cope with it.When you immediately try and get rid of your anxiety by applying coping skills to make it go away, you teach your brain to view anxiety as dangerous. So stop coping with your anxiety and learn to accept it.

Stop Trying to Cope with Anxiety

The people in your life want to be nice and will tell you things that make you feel better:<ul><li>Oh it was great!</li><li>I’m sure it wasn’t as bad as you think.</li><li>Don’t worry, everything will be fine.</li></ul>If you always outsource your emotional struggles to others, you deprive yourself of the opportunity to be confident.Your feelings of inadequacy or insecurity are difficult. But they’re your feelings. And ultimately, managing them is your responsibility.Once you accept responsibility for managing your own feelings, your confidence will emerge.

Avoid Reassurance-Seeking

If you struggle to feel confident and also have a habit of catastrophizing, it’s critical that you learn to identify this habit and then start to break it.Even if you know intellectually that the worst case isn’t likely to happen, if you constantly tell yourself it is, that’s how you’ll feel.Difficult as it can feel in the moment, it is possible to control your attention and not let your mind spiral into catastrophizing and worry. Setting and enforcing good <a href="https://nickwignall.com/mental-boundaries/">mental boundaries</a> is a great place to start.

Put the Breaks on Catastrophizing

From a young age, most of us are taught that it’s important to learn how to deny what you want—whether that’s a candy bar before dinner or dropping out of college because you think it’s boring.It’s hard to feel confident in yourself when you’re constantly denying yourself.A great way to re-discover your confidence is to tone down the self-denial and deference to others, and start <a href="https://nickwignall.com/assertiveness/">expressing yourself and your genuine wants and needs more assertively</a>.

Quit Hiding from What You Really Want

A good way to never feel confident is to always be failing. And a good way to always be failing is to always be trying to control the uncontrollable.By resisting the impulse to control things you can’t actually control you avoid setting yourself up for failure at impossible tasks. And this is something your self-confidence will thank you for.

Let Go of Things You Can’t Control

If you want to feel more confident, focus on eliminating habits that interfere with the confidence you've already got.

Confidence Killers: 5 Habits You Should Give Up to Feel More Confident

Though doughnuts have become ingrained in American cuisine, they were brought there by European settlers.Doughnuts travelled to the US with Dutch settlers and became a much-loved national snack - despite their invention as a hunger-busting austerity food.Fried dough is an old, old vice. It probably has been on the menu for as long as flour has been milled and large quantities of animal fat or oil have been on hand.The North American version seems to have its origins in the decades after the American Revolution when a Dutch treat took on a new identity as "doughnuts".

The History of Doughnuts

<ul><li>For all the joy a doughnut brings, fried dough is something you make when you don't have anything better around.</li><li>Doughnuts' folksy cred may have reached its apex with the doughnut girls of World War One, Salvation Army volunteers who fried doughnuts for American troops.</li><li>Hundreds of thousands of them were handed out near the trenches, and posters and tributes to these women's devotion to bringing a taste of home to soldiers abound.</li><li>By the time the war ended, the doughnut became an ingrained symbol of home.</li><li>The modern doughnut is seen as a dessert, but earlier varieties were much more rustic.</li></ul>

The Military Origins of the Doughnut

Doughnuts travelled to the US with Dutch settlers and became a much-loved national snack – despite their invention as a hunger-busting austerity food.

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Doughnuts: The fried treat that conquered the modern world

Dave Chappelle is one of the funniest people alive. His humour works for the vast majority of people. Dave adopts different characters as he tells stories in his stand-up routines. It maximises the value of your punchlines. What makes his normal speaking and storytelling so captivating is that he doesn't speak in monotone. He emphasises different words and adds different tones when he's speaking.

Adopt different characters

A pause plus your voice tone creates humour. There's no punchline necessary. Silence at the moment of maximum tension drives home the punchline. While this is very difficult to master, one way to immediately punch up your humour is to leave extra silence in front of the punch line to create maximum tension and the highest mystery.

Good timing

What makes Dave's normal speaking and storytelling so captivating is that he doesn't speak in monotone. He emphasises different words and adds different tones when he's speaking. You can immediately improve your storytelling, especially if it's humorous, by speaking as if you're reading a book to a five-year-old. This will push you in the direction of more engaging storytelling, which is critical if you want anyone to laugh.

Adopt the tone and mannerisms of the character

This is when you use your tone to create the expectation of one punchline, then throw a completely different one. For example, leading with a serious and literal tone to an obviously silly and false punchline. Or, if you meet someone in a social environment and they ask you what you do for a living, you can make up a silly job like a professional boxball player, then riff on why it's so stressful in a serious tone. Eventually, you will drop the joke and give a real answer so you can connect on a deeper level. However, it should introduce a more relaxed vibe.

The fake-out

Most people think that people connect over things like logistics. For example, they share where they grew up, what they do for work, or how they spend their free time.  However, people connect over shared laughter. Allowing yourself to be silly with a tongue-in-cheek response can go a long way rather than perfect reasoning to convince someone.

People connect over shared laughter

Understand yourself and those around you.

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How To Be Effortlessly Charismatic

There are five building blocks anyone can use to immediately become much funnier.

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With 3 consecutive Grammy’s to his name, it’s safe to say that Dave Chappelle’s humor works.  If not for literally everyone then at least for the vast majority of people.

So in this video we’re going to explore what we can learn from Dave’s admittedly difficult to imitate style. Because even though getting to Dave's level may be impossible, there are 5 core building blocks that anyone can use to immediately become much funnier.


⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰ 

0:35 - #1: Adopt different characters.
1:31 - #2: Adopt the tone and mannerisms of the character.
3:39 - #3: Have good comedic timing.
6:29 - #3: The fake out.
9:31 - #4: The comedic simile.
10:28 - Final mindset.
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By now, almost everyone has heard of the mass exodus of employees happening globally, formally coined the “Great Resignation.” Employers certainly have. Businesses everywhere are losing some of their best talent in droves, all in the face of persistent staffing shortages due to the pandemic — just in time for Career Development Month.
For employers who have lost talent because of the Great Resignation and are now trying to attract the most qualified replacements, check the four ways to set yourself apart and stand out as a place people want to work.

The Mass Exodus Of Employees

Strong employer branding requires authenticity. If you try to paint only a rosy picture of your workplace and employee experience, you won’t be able to deliver on your promises. This is a recipe for disaster. It gives employees a reason to leave and gives your company a bad reputation when those employees share their frustrations. The key for organizations is to be mindful of the company narrative surrounding culture instead of painting a false picture that doesn’t reflect reality.

Cultivate An Authentic Employer Brand

Making diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) a cornerstone of your business is good and necessary, but if your promises to foster a diverse, inclusive, equitable workplace aren’t backed up with action, you risk looking like a dishonest, inauthentic, and performative employer.Ensure that your anti-discrimination policies and employee manual are updated to reflect your DEI expectations. Host roundtable discussions regularly to see where people see room for improvement and what they think is going well in the company’s DEI work.

Focus on DEI

Prospective employees want to work for companies that have good cultures. In the current job market where workers have more power, it’s important to make your culture a priority — whether that means improving a weak or toxic existing culture or highlighting a great one that you’re proud of. There are a number of ways to change your culture for the better. Any culture change will require more than updated policies or workplace mandates; it requires a collective shift in heart and mindset.

Showcase Your Company Culture

Workers want trust and flexibility. For many employees, the flexibility afforded by the pandemic allowed them to be both productive team members and human beings. When you as an employer offer flexibility, you signal to employees that you trust them to do great work and take care of life’s responsibilities. People with appointments, caregiving, and other responsibilities appreciate knowing they are trusted to balance work and personal obligations.

Offer A Flexible Workplace

Attracting great new talent to your company

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Receiving sincere and well-expressed compliments can feel very good. But our anxiety about how others may perceive our words can stop us from giving compliments as we don't want to come across as patronising or flattering.  Yet, studies show that our fears of giving and receiving compliments are unfounded. Letting go of that reluctance can improve our relationships with our friends, family members and colleagues.

Giving and receiving compliments

<ul><li>Studies show that when individuals receive a compliment, they are almost twice as likely to comply with a request.</li><li>Another study show this comes from a sense of reciprocity. The more people believe that one kind deed deserves another, the more likely they are to repay a compliment with a helpful act.</li><li>In the workplace, positive feedback can be a powerful tool. Research shows that verbal praise was more effective at increasing productivity than cash bonuses.</li></ul>

The rule of reciprocity

Several studies show that participants underestimated how happy another person would be to hear praise and overestimated how cringe-worthy they would find the exchange.  <ul><li>Participants worry they will articulate the compliment wrongly. But the research shows that the recipient only cares how nice the praise is.</li><li>Another fear is that overcomplimenting might make some people bored of your praise or find it tiresome. However, even this reaction is far less likely than we think.</li></ul>

Compliments increase happiness

A compliment is an effective way to make other people feel happy. And it doesn't cost you a thing. <ul><li>Context is important. It is not proper to compliment someone's appearance if there's a risk of objectifying them.</li><li>Stick to compliments that really convey someone's social value. For example, praise on a presentation or the way someone handled a difficult client.</li><li>If you have a kind thought that shows respect to the other person, share it.</li></ul>

Compliment etiquette

Giving compliments makes us anxious, but new research shows that praising people has huge benefits – for both parties.

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Why we don't dole out many compliments – but should

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<li>Defining Praise requires two different components: What is being praised and the amount of praise.</li>
<li>Talent and abilities can be praised, and the degree of praise is based on the language used.</li>
<li>Inflated or exaggerated praise can backfire, lowering a young person’s motivation or self-worth when there are eventual setbacks.</li>
<li>It fosters a fixed mindset by adding pressure on the person(who is praised) to behave accordingly.</li>
</ul>

The Praise Paradox

Effective praise can be given using these three methods:
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<li>Defining your intention and providing praise. This involves being mindful of the consequences of your words.</li>
<li>Instead of plain flattery, try to encourage them to move forward and take up further challenges. This also encourages them to keep learning.</li>
<li>Focus the praise on their effort, not their ability. If the trait is not fixed, the person cannot be vain about it. By praising efforts, we are motivating them to push further and get out of their comfort zone.</li>
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The Right Kind Of Praise

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The Praise Paradox: when well-​intended words backfire - Ness Labs

Leadership, by its very nature, involves walking the tightrope, trying to navigate the complex relationships we have with our clients, colleagues and bosses.
Business decisions made by leaders often require buy-in from people who do not think as we do, and are not our natural supporters. There are certain persuasion strategies we can use to overcome this challenge.

Changing People's Minds

Three basic strategies have been devised after studying 60 business leaders handling a variety of disagreements at the workplace:
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<li>Cognitive Conversation Approach: Best for convincing those focused on the rational reasons for taking a decision.</li>
<li>Champion Conversation Approach: Used for convincing colleagues with whom we are not cordial.</li>
<li>Credible Colleague Approach: Best for convincing someone who already thinks we are unlikely to be successful by ourselves.</li>
</ol>

The Three Persuasion Strategies

When the opposition is logical and the detractor has many rational and practical counterarguments, one has to go for a cognitive conversation.
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<li>One needs sound, logical arguments while making a good presentation, just like a lawyer.</li>
<li>One has to set aside any emotion and use pure reasoning. </li>
<li>It helps to make the other person believe that both parties are on common ground.</li>
</ul>
The Flip Side: Don’t expect long-term conversion or everlasting support.

Changing People’s Minds: Cognitive Conversation Approach

Engaging in a rational debate is useless when the detractor isn’t really a fan and harbours a grievance already.
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<li>One has to avoid jumping into a debate with this kind of person and focus on learning about them and building rapport. </li>
<li>Slowly understand their perspective and try to convert them into your champion or advocate, by becoming their fan. </li>
<li>Let the relationship take care of the decision.</li>
</ul>
The Flip Side: One cannot rely on building a relationship to convince others if the decision does not have merit.

Changing People’s Minds: Champion Conversation Approach

The detractor can be wholeheartedly opposed to your proposal, even believing that it may cause harm. This makes it impossible for them to agree with you.
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<li>One can try to break the ice in this situation by bringing in a credible colleague, preferably a supervisor or manager.</li>
<li>This can tilt the scale in your favour and help you open up the deadlock. </li>
<li>You can then push your proposal up for approval, provided you can convince the external supporter.</li>
</ul>
The Flip Side: If the detractor feels the decision has been imposed on them by tact or authority, they may feel cheated.

How to manage someone overconfident

How to teach yourself to be more confident

Harness your self doubt to improve your confidence

Confidence Killers: 5 Habits You Should Give Up to Feel More Confident

Doughnuts: The fried treat that conquered the modern world

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