When you start needing to hold things back when you read it (my mom does this)

Back pain, all the time

You start saying: "Back in my day ..."

Drinking at night, watching hockey

When I like watching Fox News

When you shop at Home Depot

Relaxing at the beach, instead of swimming more

Sit in the house, watching the sun go down

When you watch the news and understand it

When you make an "ugh" noise, when you stand up

My 15 y/o son asked me yesterday how do I know when I'm old. Didn't have a good answer to be honest. Looking at these kids describe their parents, make me think I'm old at 40 :-)

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Health

8th Graders tell us when we're officially OLD!

I guess a subtle one is them treating you differently in public vs how they treat you privately. These can both go either way.

Always talking shit about other people when they aren’t around.

When telling you about issues in their life and everything is everyone else’s fault/ no accountability

How someone treats another person based on their job title. Anyone who treats a server, maid, garbage person, etc like crap is just telling the world how much a piece they are.

When you express a boundary, they try to guilt trip you, pressure you, or threaten you to try and force you to do things you don’t want to do.

Treating people well only if they can benefit from them in some way. If they treat you well, but treat random people like shit, they aren't good people. And they'll treat you like shit too if you ever stop being of use to them.

If they brag about how they pulled a fast one on other people. As if to say how smart/slick they are and everyone else is stupid.

They never apologize.

It's always about them. They're always the hero or always the victim in their stories.Can't take criticism but probably dish it out to everyone else. They're never wrong.

They remember you are their friend only when they need something from you.

Nothing is ever their fault.

They constantly say or do things where their only justification for doing so is "It was just a joke" when called out on it.

When they cannot bring themselves to celebrate someone else’s success.

A lot of times they’ll straight up tell you. Anybody who gleefully tells you “I’m such an asshole” or “I’m such a bi*ch” is usually not joking, even if they say it while laughing.

Throwing trash out of a car window, littering

Treats animals poorly

So this should be obvious but it's not. As a guy, don't trust another guy if he cheats on his spouse. If he'll betray the closest person to him, he doesn't care about his friends either, trust me

Seem easy to spot "bad" people right? Not always I guess. Reddit is really a treasure if you know what to look after. Thousand of folks gave their thoughts, and voted on other's. Ideas kind of make sense, by sheer statistical number, from people's perspective.

r/AskReddit is the place to ask and answer thought-provoking questions.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Psychology

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Philosophy

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Personal Development

What's a giveaway that someone isn't a good person?

According to a study on the height, weight, and age at death of 373 men, obtained from records at the Veterans Administration Medical Center, San Diego, CA, USA:<ul><li>Men of height 175.3 cm or less lived an average of 4.95 years longer than those of height over 175.3 cm.</li><li>Men of height 170.2 cm or less lived 7.46 years longer than those of at least 182.9 cm.</li></ul>It's science.

Shorter men live longer

An analysis by weight difference revealed a 7.72-year greater longevity for men of weight 63.6 kg or less compared with those of 90.9 kg or more.This probably has more implications (eg. diabetes and other serious problems like blood pressure), but overall, weight is again a big factor in longevity.

Less heavy men, again, live longer

This corroborates earlier evidence and contradicts the popular notion that taller people are healthier.While short stature due to malnutrition or illness is undesirable, our study suggests that feeding children for maximum growth and physical development may not add to and may indeed be harmful to their long-term health and longevity.

Tall does not mean healthy

Found this study while looking for other things. To be honest, I didn't actually see this as logical at first, but the tallest person in the world, lived only to 22. And one of the most tall folks that ever lived, could barely walk past a threshold. I'm 1.89, so I guess I'll live quite a few years less than most of you brilliant but shorter f**kers our there :-)

The study was conducted to evaluate one aspect of the entropy theory of aging, which hypothesizes that aging is the result of increasing disorder within the body, and which predicts that increasing mass lowers life span. The first evaluation of the impact of human size on longevity or life span in 1 …

Impact of height and weight on life span - PubMed

Many Gen X grew up in divorced single-parent homes.So they were forced to be self-reliant and unsupervised early on. They want independence to get it done their way.

Motivate Gen X with two phrases, “Do it your way” and “Don’t sweat the rules”

Gen X grew up with email - but before SMS or apps.Their teachers stressed correct writing, too.Poor grammar drives Gen X nuts.

Send your Gen X colleagues well-written emails

They will love you.Gen X wants to know who is responsible at all times.They grew up when institutions weren’t to be trusted.

Acknowledge Gen X's emails quickly.

Not seniority, effort, or hours worked.You’ll often hear Gen X say, “If someone gets the job done in half the time, that’s fine.”

Focus with Gen X on mission and results.

Gen X grew up with workaholic Boomer parents.Seeing that, Gen X thinks work is part of life but not why they live.

Allow Gen X a balanced life

Not as part of a tribe (Millennials) or institution (Boomers).Institutions from Gov’t to marriage showed they couldn't be trusted during Gen X's youth.

Bond with Gen X as individuals

Give them data.Gen X says “Tell me how it is!” and cuts out the fluff.For generations like Millennials, this is hard.Millennials want the “shit sandwich” for feedback.

Be direct with Gen X

Gen X feels forgotten.Only 20% of the population.They’re also the people in your org with their heads down, getting stuff done.But, take them for granted and they can bolt.

Just acknowledge Gen X exists

Boomers/Millennials grew up in ages of abundance.Gen X is the first generation to NOT do as well financially as their parents or kids did.

Expect Gen X to be pessimistic

Expect them to be friendly but not “friends” at work.Unlike recent generations who bring their personal life to work.

Expect Gen X to want work-life separation

<ul><li>Say "Do it your way"</li><li>Use well-written emails</li><li>Say "I got it!"</li><li>Focus on the mission w/ them</li><li>Allow life balance</li><li>Bond as people</li><li>Be direct</li><li>Acknowledge they exist</li><li>Expect pessimism</li><li>Expect work-life separation</li></ul>

TL;DR: Win by doing these things with Gen X:

Michael's hit the bloody mark on this one: 9/10, nailed almost everything for me (even though I'm a Millennial, but barely). Definitely a huge help when dealing with Gen X'ers, even though this won't hit the sweet spot all the time (especially for those closer in age to either Boomers (born 1946-64) or Millennials (born 1981-96).

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Communication

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Leadership & Management

10 mind hacks to use with Gen X

Time commitment to get started: LowType: Visual, TactilePerfect for people who: Have a tendency to start a lot of projects but finish very few of them.What it does: Helps you visualize progress on all of your projects. Using whatever medium you prefer (sticky notes or a whiteboard work well), split your projects into three categories: To Do, Doing, and Done. That’s it.

Personal Kanban

Time commitment to get started: LowType: AbstractPerfect for people who: Tend to put off important items, resulting in missed deadlines or rushed work.What it does: Helps to avoid procrastination while ensuring that you make progress on the right things. To get started, schedule your daily tasks from hardest to easiest. You’ll get your most important, intimidating, anxiety-inducing tasks (aka your frog) done while your energy is high and your day will get progressively better. You’re likely to find the overall quality of your work improves too.

Eating Live Frogs: Do the Worst Thing First

Time commitment to get started: MediumType: Abstract, visualPerfect for people who: Need to prioritize tasks, but tend to go for lists over graphs.What it does: Prioritizes your tasks by urgency, ensures that you’re accomplishing the right things. Write down everything you have to do and then identify each as a Must, a Should, or a Want. Your Must tasks are non-negotiable. “Pay rent” — that’s a Must if it’s the first of the month. A Should is something you need to do, but it’s not dire that it be done today. Answering certain emails may be a Should. A Want is something you’d like to do, but might not be practical or necessary at the moment.

Must, Should, Want

Time commitment to get started: MediumType: AbstractPerfect for people who: Are in the early phases of a big project and need to strategize before jumping in.What it does: Turns big, abstract ideas and goals into concrete, actionable plans. Specific:Meaning the What — what is this project and what, specifically, do you want to accomplish? Measurable:These are the individual tasks and steps that add up to a complete project. Assignable:Who is going to do which step? Realistic:You can’t overcome a problem until you understand it completely. Carefully consider the challenges ahead. Timely:Come up with reasonable deadlines for each measureable task

The SMART Method

Time commitment to get started: MediumType: AbstractPerfect for people who: Need to turn creative brainstorming into an actionable to-do list.What it does: Tidies up the messier aspects of creative work. It involves breaking down ideas into three key categories: Action Items, Backburner Items, and Reference Items. Action Items are the steps you take to get the project done. Backburner Items are the interesting ideas that don’t directly fit into your plan for this project. Reference Items are the resources and information you’ll need to complete the project.

The Action Method

Time commitment to get started: LowType: Visual, abstractPerfect for people who: Find small tasks and interruptions are taking over the whole day.What it does: Holds you accountable to your daily plan by allocating specific periods of time for specific types of work. To start timeboxing, just split up your day into blocks of time with specific tasks assigned to each one. One approach is InboxZero for email. Dedicating specific chunks of time to reading and answering emails so that they don’t take over your day. Another approach is Day Theming. Instead of switching between different types of work or areas of responsibility throughout the day, you dedicate each day of the week to a specific theme.

Time Blocking

Time commitment to get started: HighType: Abstract, visualPerfect for people who: Love data and self-experimentation and want to optimize their days for maximum productivity.What it does: Tracks your biological rhythms to find the best times for different kinds of productivity. The basic idea here is to track your energy, motivation and focus to get a sense of when, where, and how you’re the most productive. To start, eliminate any factors that could mess with your energy — changes in caffeine intake is a big one, staying up late is another — then record what you’re accomplishing once an hour, every hour that you’re working for a few weeks straight.

Biological Prime Time

Time commitment to get started: MediumType: Abstract, visual, tactilePerfect for people who: Have a lot of loose ends rattling around in the brain and need a way organize it all.What it does: Gets your thoughts, worries, and to-dos all out on paper (or into an app) and then helps you organize it all into small, bite size tasks that you can tackle immediately. Capture — This is a brain dump. Just write down everything you have to do in any order with any wording. Clarify — Pluck out the vague ideas and worries and break them down into specific tasks or steps. Organize — Now that you have the tasks clarified, you need to prioritize them and attach due dates where you can Reflect — Look over your to-do list on a daily and weekly basis. Are there any steps in your projects that are still too vague? Break them down further. Engage — Attack that list. You’re ready to get stuff done.

Getting Things Done

Time commitment to get started: MediumType: Abstract, visual, tactilePerfect for people who: Feel overwhelmed with the number of things they need to doWhat it does: Keeps track of everything you need to get done in the simplest way possible. Take it everywhere. This system only works if you can review and add tasks no matter where you are. Capture everything. Get in the habit of getting everything out of your head the moment you think of it. Break it up into small tasks and make them actionable. Make sure every task on your list is a concrete action you can reasonably complete in an hour or less. Prioritize. Start off accepting that you won’t get everything done. Get to to-do list zero daily. You won’t get everything done, but you should still get to an empty to-do list at the end of the day. Get consistent feedback. Review what you’ve accomplished on a regular basis.

Systemist

Time commitment to get started: LowType: AbstractPerfect for people who: Desperately need to get something done and have a tendency to get distracted.What it does: Helps you maintain focus for longer by splitting your work into short bursts. Pomodoro is the most popular variation, though there are many others. With Pomodoro you work for 25 minutes, take a five-minute break, and then repeat until you’ve completed four sprints, after which you take a longer break. It’s that simple.

Pomodoro/Sprints

Time commitment to get started: MediumType: VisualPerfect for people who: Like graphs, have trouble seeing things in black-and-white, and would rather prioritize on a continuum than stuff tasks into a few categories.What it does: Identifies which tasks are priorities and which are just distractions. Allows you to prioritize in a delightfully visual way: an XY axis. Take a piece of paper and draw a very large plus sign; the X axis (a.k.a. horizontal line) represents the level of urgency with the left side being the most urgent and the right side the least urgent. Your Y axis (vertical line) represents importance, with the lowest importance at the bottom, highest at the top. You end up with four boxes: Urgent and Important, Less Urgent but still Important, Less Important but Urgent, and Less important and Less Urgent.

The Eisenhower Matrix

Time commitment to get started: MediumType: AbstractPerfect for people who: Are goal-oriented and/or are tackling complex projects and need to keep to a timeline.What it does: Focuses on outcomes and prioritization while keeping diligent watch over the scope of your projects and goals. To start using Agile Results, simply identify three outcomes you want to see for the year, month, week, and day. When setting your daily goals, you should make sure they align with your goals for the week. When you set your goals for the week, they should align with your goals for the month. Same for monthly and yearly goals. At the end of each time period, look back and see how you did. What worked? What didn’t you finish and why? Adjust as needed.

Agile Results

Time commitment to get started: MediumType: AbstractPerfect for people who: Spend too much time worrying about how much didn’t get done yesterday/have a lot of bad habits that prevent productivity.What it does: Flips the traditional to-do list on its head in order to look at productivity in a new way. To make a To-Done list, keep track of what you’ve accomplish throughout the day. Rather than focusing on all that’s left to do, keep your focus on your progress. Review your to-done list at the end of every day. If you try this and it feels a little silly, stick it out for a day or two. You might find that you’ve accomplished a lot more than you thought — and research shows that progress (no matter how small) is a huge motivator. You can also try the To-Don’t List. It’s exactly what it sounds like. Make a list of activities and bad habits that you want to avoid and write them down. Then check them off as you manage to avoid each.

The To-Done List and the To-Don’t List

Productivity methods to organize your tasks, manage your time, maintain your focus, and achieve your goals. Find the one that fits you best.

The Ultimate Guide to Personal Productivity Methods

First, people’s thoughts are mostly focused on themselves. Secondly, they are directing their thoughts towards their relationships, but only how those affect them. That leaves little room for empathy. This means there is no point in feeling embarrassment; your self-judgment is overwhelmingly larger anyway. Also, people are not intentionally mean, usually. And at last, relationships are your job to maintain!  Don’t wait to be approached, people are too absorbed with themselves.

Don't assume people are mean

This means most intentions behind our actions are hidden. If someone is feeling depressed or angry, usually their behaviors are distorted. Focus on empathy, which leads to trust between people. This way, you can usually break the shell people have and get to the heart of the issue faster. Other people don't know how you truly feel. So, don’t get angry when people don’t respond to you. Don't get angry when people don't get you.

Few social behaviors are explicit

Selfish altruism is a win/win situation. It usually applies in these categories:<ul><li>Transactions: buying cars, for example (you get your car, the dealer gets a bonus); doesn’t imply emotional bonds</li><li>Family: protecting people that share our genes</li><li>Status: helping someone as a sign of dominance or to up our self-esteem</li><li>Reciprocity: “I help you, so you help me”</li></ul>So, don’t expect people to offer aid outside of selfish altruism. Understand their motives and work with what you have.

What is selfish altruism?

People have trouble remembering things. Especially those that do not apply to themselves.  Don’t assume malice or disinterest if something is forgotten. Instead, you can demonstrate reliability by having a system that keeps you from forgetting.

People have poor memories

People tend to have stronger feelings than they let on. Do not assume someone is fine just because that person is not having a nervous breakdown. Everybody has their individual problems, so being sensitive to the true feelings of people gives you the opportunity to help and understand others. The same thing applies to you: people generally assume you are fine, unless you have a blowup.

Everyone is emotional

Many people that seem to have it all, suffer from loneliness. As social animals, the desire to be with other people is strong. If you visualise how many people are actually alone and how common this feeling is, you can minimize your own feeling of loneliness.

People are lonely

People tend to be too concerned about themselves to give you much attention. They tend to be lonely and more emotional than they are showing; apply this to how you view the world. This perspective could help you be more proactive and independent. Be realistic: if you place your individual happiness in the hands of another person, you ignore all of the above and do so at your own peril.

People are self-absorbed

People are complex and difficult to understand. While researching this topic I identified 7 rules that can help improve relations and prevent conflict.

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Marketing & Sales

The Critical 7 Rules To Understand People | Scott H Young

We observe people instinctively and notice subtleties such as what they are doing, where they are looking, and what their body language is indicating. This helps us determine if we feel comfortable around them which helps us decide if we want to interact with them and how. If you start to feel comfortable near people, you might start to see better windows into how to act around them: when to talk or when they are unavailable. so you can make better decisions on how to proceed.

Think of others to learn how to act

Perspective taking relies not only upon our ability to share emotions with others, but also upon our capacity to <a href="https://how2tweaks.com/how-to-stop-overthinking-after-being-cheated-on/">regulate our own emotions</a>.  The point is not to ask ourselves what we would do in any given situation; it’s to try and understand what another would do. If we begin to better understand how others experience situations, we are more successful in our interactions. We can predict the attitudes, expectations, and intentions of others that may be very different from our own.

Use empathy to predict intentions

Emotions are powerful vehicles to guide us in reading people. We naturally track the behaviors of others to try and determine what they are thinking, feeling doing or planning.  We determine people’s motives and intentions, even when our attention is not specifically on them. These sensitivities to other people alert our gut instincts to the intentions of others and to sense any possible emotional changes in them.

Correctly reading other people

Most people speak indirectly, which requires us to infer the actual meaning of what they are trying to say.  This creates a lot of room for misinterpretation, especially through text or email.  What we decide to say or not say requires that we interpret as accurately as possible what the other person is trying to say.  Most conflictual situations arise from a misinterpretation of what another is trying to communicate. Once <a href="https://www.entrepreneur.com/topic/communication">communication</a> is clear, trust is gained and success is inevitable.

Interpreting words

Perspective taking requires the maturity to gain the knowledge and be respectful of another person’s personal beliefs.  When we are disrespectful to another person and their belief system it is the quickest path to creating separation and division between people. Not all people share our personal views and beliefs of the world. We must remain open-minded and respectful to what others believe when relating to them.  This means knowing what not to say as much as means knowing what to say.

Respecting differences within people

What you know about where people come from and how they came to be the people they are is critical in determining what to say and do.  It's frustrating when we give too much or too little information. Different persons react to just the right amount.  People often make the mistake of expecting us to know them well enough. No matter how well we know anyone though, we are human. It is through mistakes that we learn to find a balance in each individual relationship we have.

Get to know people

The way we communicate with people is based on how we perceive them to be, as people.  When we are around a coworker who is more serious or intellectual it calls for a different interaction approach from us then when interacting with someone who is more laid back and easy going. To some extent we all become social chameleons, making slight shifts in our behavior to fit the people and personalities we are around in an effort to best relate to them. This social adaptation makes us well-rounded. <a href="https://how2tweaks.com">Success in life</a> and business boils down effective interactions, humility and self-awareness.

Analyze each person’s personality

The practice of perspective taking brings compassion to the emotional climate of the workplace.

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Career

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Teamwork

Understanding the Other Person's Perspective Will Radically Increase Your Success

To get better results, do less but do it better.Many of us work in an endless stream of tasks, emails, notifications, meetings, multitasking in the process, never pausing and never ending. Pursuing more and more every day.Information overload is killing our brains.Then the day is over, and you are extremely exhausted, and often have very little to show for it. And you start the next day, ready for a mindless stream of tasks and distractions, again.I'm sure you've heard of the <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pareto_principle">Pareto principle </a>, known also as the 80/20 rule: focus on the few things that get you the most benefit.

You probably have too much thrown at you at once every work day, and you're too busy juggling everything coming at you to take a minute and evaluate what's essential, what's urgent, what you can delegate and everything else that's a waste of your most important asset.When you force yourself to focus on essential tasks that have a large Return on Investment (ROI), you will be more productive, achieve more and simplify your life in the process.How many of your activities got you closer to your goals?

To get better results, do less but do it better. Many of us work in an endless stream of tasks, emails, notifications, meetings, multitasking in the process, never pausing and never ending. Pursuing more and more every day. Information overload is killing our brains.

8th Graders tell us when we're officially OLD!

What's a giveaway that someone isn't a good person?

Impact of height and weight on life span - PubMed

10 mind hacks to use with Gen X

The Ultimate Guide to Personal Productivity Methods

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