In recent times ,with the loads of access of anything on internet in few seconds, teens got to expose to the outer world in some way or other & due to their curiosity they eventually some day started watching romance to adult situations .<ul><li>(UNESCO 2012) Students commonly self-report experiencing ongoing stress relating to their education, which we refer to as academic-related stress, like pressure to achieve high marks and concerns about receiving poor grades.</li><li>For Adults,on-time submission, deadlines, etc.</li><li>But problem starts when they misdirected to porn and use masturbation to relief stress. </li></ul>

Why Teens Do This Mostly? Why Masturbation Is Bad?

It's very bad for human health because.<ul><li>It causes erectile dysfunction (Research based)</li><li>Keep having lustful thoughts all over day which reduces productivity in REAL work. </li><li>Blood flows continuosly or many times a day in penis resulting in "LACK of energy" throughout day in body.</li><li>Which ultimately stops the overall BODY GROWTH specially if adolescent, and muscle growth if adult.</li><li>Not been able to make eye contact or converse properly with opposite gender because keeping imagining situations like porn in real life .</li><li>Work efficiency decreases & mind becomes unstable having lewd thoughts all time. </li></ul>

Why It's A Curse To Human Being

When someone masturbates/uses porn material to get relief from stress, it gives our brain a signal of small dopamine dose or we can say "Easiest way to cope up with stress" Due to which this ACTION started to turn into HABIT & eventually to ADDICTION. Because ADDICTION of anything is harmful. It's not easy to recover from it in minimum time. But there are ways we can adopt ,minimising this addtion & eventually get rid of this.

Why Is It Difficult To Give Up On Masturbation? 

<ul><li>We cannot place FULL STOP in any habit or addiction instantly.</li><li>One has to take step-by-step small but effective actions to resolve those(mostly within 21days) </li><li>By following below methods & techniques and one'll start experiencing great changes in their body with getting rid of this habit. </li></ul>

How To Stop 

First of all, identify the triggers that leads you to fap or watch porn. For some it can be a romantic scene, their "type" of person(attractive stimulation),magazines, things you follow , etc<ul><li>Now, Remove them instantly if possible.</li><li>After removing , find things or work that gives you "GOOD VIBES" and place them in your surroundings. Eg-Plants, PlayStation , chess, etc. </li><li>Or engage in work that gives you "SATISFACTION" after doing eg-planting sapling & taking care of it everyday.</li><li>Just make sure they are not at all related to TRIGGERS .</li><li>And practice these type of activities "EVERYDAY"</li></ul>

1)Remove The "TRIGGERS

<ul><li>Till now, whatever you have done is done. It's time to do Work.</li><li>Start with some mild exercising, yoga, or play your favourite outdoor games & focus on your body cleanup.</li><li>By keeping your body clean, fresh and active it will help body & mind energetic and motivated throughout day.</li></ul>

2) Keep Yourself CLEAN

<ul><li>Do Anything related to your goal, interest and productive but not a bit towards "TRIGGERS" all day.</li><li>By being BUSY , your thoughts,mind will be focussed at one work at a time throughout day, exhausted till night & not having energy or motivation to be directed to porn. </li><li>Aim for "big goals" ,divide it in small goals and achieve them daily.</li><li>Give yourself small "rewards" for every achievement at the end of day.</li></ul>

3) Be BUSY(most important) 

It's okay if you can't control it completely . Don't stress it or regret that you're now failed & never'll be able to drop this habit. <ul><li>"Widen the Time interval gap between 2 masturbation everytime with double the time before". </li></ul>Example-If you have did it, (say in 2 days)<ul><li>Just DON'T REPEAT SAME in same interval of time i.e. not again in 2 days, minimum after 4 day.</li><li>Again, follow above methods.</li></ul>When gap reaches 21 days, that's the victory.

What To Do If Did It Again? 

"Masturbation only gives you temporary satisfaction and regret for later"

"Masturbation" is a serious habit or addiction to some, becoming common in teens, needs to be REMOVE to be healthy & achieve success. 

Self Improvement

How to STOP masturbating ? 

The thing that stops you from doing things rationally and productively is FEAR i.e holding back your good actions due to its negative sides

By Conquering FEAR 

<ul><li>Knowing possibilty of actions you re going to do is good i.e.knowing pros and cons.</li><li>But problem starts when people start acknowledging bad effects more rather than good side.</li><li>People fear from downside or negative effects of their action that MAY happen.</li><li>Even if it have a very less possibility to occur.</li></ul>This stops them from indulging in the to-do work right now .So STOP fearing and take ACTION

What People Fear

<ul><li>By remembering bad memories or overthinking about something can stress out the brain and you will not be able to focus on the present task completely. </li><li>Just focus on what to do next after completing a part of task you are assigned to.</li></ul>Stop OVERTHINKING.

Get Rid Of Your PAST Thoughts

<ul><li>Some people plan things but don't follow and some follow to extent & start slacking off and there are few that properly follows(having strict routine & full mind and body control).</li><li>Due to majority of people not able to plan ,they don't know that planning can help them reach their aim fast comparing those without plans.</li><li>If you're those having problem in making plans-</li></ul><ol><li>Start by making a ROUGH plan having your AIM.</li><li>Simple but effective STEPS like-reducing addiction that wastes most of your time.</li><li>SCHEDULE your work.</li></ol>You can modify,add in above as per your need.PLAN tasks and follow

Not Having Even A ROUGH Plan 

<ul><li>You can't do your work productively when frustrated or having confusing thoughts.</li><li>Sometimes you're just physically exhausted , so to overcome this take a break by-</li></ul>Taking a WALK in open surrounding , eating your FAVOURITE FOOD refreshing, TALKING TO A FRIEND can ease your tension very much.

Take A Walk, Eat Favourite Food, And Talk With A Friend

"FOCUS ON BEING PRODUCTIVE INSTEAD OF BEING BUSY"

"PRODUCTIVITY" can be achieved. By following these anyone will be able to be productive ANYTIME they want.

How can be "PRODUCTIVE"  anytime? 

<ul><li>That is "I am not Mr.perfectionist". There are people above me and I am ahead of someone.</li><li>Atleast from them who aren't even trying.</li></ul>But I have to climb up those people above me and reach to much higher heights."To become a person better than my yesterday."

You Are Average

<ul><li>Or I know that-"I can be defeated".</li><li>This is a must thing to be able to compete with yourself and not going numb,lazy.</li><li>When I slack off sometimes ,this is the thing that reminds me to work again.</li></ul>

Fear Of Failure

<ul><li>Anybody who give you competition, a person who is a "physical obstruction" between you and your goal.</li><li>I have to overcome this and when you overcome him/her, find a new competitor.</li><li>You may ask- "By doing this we will always be competing and comparing us with others".</li><li>But a physical person is much easier to overcome rather than mental laziness,and ego of "I am the Best,no one can defeat me".</li></ul>By following this you can achieve your goal easily and may be ahead of more than your competition.

A Competitor 

<ul><li>Just "do your work continuously & not giving a single thought that you'll definitely be on top of your competition".</li><li>By this mindset you may not be first but will be more ahead than others(who not even tried or slack off sometimes) AND,</li><li>Most importantly you'll be "SATISFIED" with whateveryou achieve because you gave it your all. </li></ul>And that is definitely fine and healthy for your mind & body to grow further in future.And achieve anything in life if you give it your all.

Not Having High Hopes From Yourself

"The only way to do great work,Is to love what you do"

This helped me to be motivated everyday & do work continuosly and want to share so others can benefit.

Things that keep me motivated

We all know that human brain is a very mysterious thing that we're yet to be discover fully.There are things beyond the human intelligence & some psychologists who are deeply engraved in depths of mind are only able to give them words & faces.

Mysterious brain

As we dig deeper inside brain, there are layers Of brain that uncover . Psychologists divide them in 3 layers- <ul><li>Conscious - What we see, feel,and react to situations,etc functions of which we are AWARE of.</li><li>Subconscious - Actions we do, not knowingly,without thinking like-Calling out 'mom' whenever comes home,grooving on songs,etc .</li><li>Unconscious - Processes in the mind which occur automatically (eg-during sleep) and are not available to introspection and include thought processes, memories, interests, and motivations.</li></ul>

Depths Of Brain. 

People do things either subconsciously or consciously ,unconscious pattern is really deep &not achievable easily.<ul><li>When things we do subconsciously comes into conscious brain,there starts the problem.</li><li>Means, you know every reason of 'Why am I doing this work?'</li><li>Because-Things get really confusing as brain start overthinking(start calculating every possibility, pros, cons, effect,affect,why...) i.e.QUESTIONING related useless things ,sometimes directing brain away from the present task.</li></ul>

Why Depths Are Scary? 

People do some actions subconsciously(without giving much thought) & when they start thinking of reason (overthinking) , they get distracted from giving 100% of their brain power to the present task which results in 'CLUTTERED' work,spending more time than usual,ultimately not satisfactory output.ALSO, due to this the person cannot achieve "STATE OF FLOW".

Conclusion

KEEP IT SIMPLE

What Can We Do? 

Sometimes, people think more & not able to start or end a work due to overthinking &thinking deeply. 

Scary depths of BRAIN

"Multitasking is doing different works with Full productivity and no or minimal loss"Here 'loss' refers to -loss in physical health and mental health.

Multitasking

First of all, we have to be clear about-"HUMAN BRAIN IS NOT capable to multitask"<ul><li>Our brain do work 'one at a time' .</li><li>That's the best state when we can -OUTPUT MOST of human abilities.</li><li>A work can be done productively,efficiently without mental fatique only when OUR BRAIN & BODY sync and do a Common task.</li></ul>

Why MULTITASKING Is Difficult? 

NO, It is possible but not like-Watching T.V. and studying.<ul><li>It is somewhat like -"MAKE SCHEDULE", "BREAK DOWN different tasks into PIECES" , "FOLLOW schedule".</li><li>And "FOCUSSING ON ONE TASK AT A TIME" </li></ul>

So, Is It Impossible To Multitask

Giving whole Focus to a specific task results in HIGH PRODUCTIVITY & Completes the work FASTLY i.e. in shorter time which further give time to do other tasks.

Why Do This 

"Multitasking is the ability to screw up everything simultaneously"﻿

I tried to do MULTITASKING & found something to share which help anyone to do "REAL multitasking" .

How to do MULTITASKING? 

Change is universal & inevitable , it cannot be ignored that everything in this universe changes with time.<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Whether it is change of seasons, change in lifestyle if people , change in salary of an employee, change in models of car models, technology, from seed to tree.</li></ul>"CHANGE IS EVERYWHERE" .

Change is Inevitable 

<ul><li>As we grew up, our thoughts, mindset, how we perceiving the things,action of people,environment, symbolism,feeling happiness,showing anger,expressing yourself in surrounding changes, everything changes.</li><li>They say-"People change with time" . Well people remains the same ,but their way of thinking, reacting to situations based on their brain patterns changes.</li></ul>

How People Changes

<ul><li>The thing that remains SAME throughout the life is the 'Root mentality' digged into them in their childhood,</li></ul>Or<ul><li>What they perceive from their environment, will someone guide them or they will guide themselves which can be to good or evil again how they perceive things.</li></ul>

What Remains SAME 

"Don't be afraid of CHANGE,Be afraid of not changing & adopting to survive"

A Saying

Every second of our life something is changing, building & destroying, for we have to know the value "TO CHANGE" & "ACCEPT" it  .

Why "CHANGE" is important? & Why to adapt. 

Guilt is that feeling which one experiences after doing somthing that he/she shouldn't had done.

Guilt 

Guilt is like regret, it appears due to urge of "getting pleasure". First a person have a trigger to do something not to be done. And then he/she did it due to small dopamine rush due to that event.

Why Guilt Appears? 

<ul><li>Remove or try to come less in contact of the "trigger" .</li><li>If you have already did it, try not to think about it and start rebooting now.</li><li>Choose alternate but safe medium of that work.</li><li> Start 'deleting' that guilt work and adopt some new 'habit' because new good habits helps to overcome anything bad.</li></ul>

Bite-sized knowledge
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David Singh
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How to STOP masturbating ?

How can be "PRODUCTIVE" anytime?

Things that keep me motivated

Scary depths of BRAIN

How to do MULTITASKING?

Bite-sized knowledgeto upgradeyour career

David Singh@davidsingh

How to STOP masturbating ?

How can be "PRODUCTIVE" anytime?

Things that keep me motivated

Scary depths of BRAIN

How to do MULTITASKING?

Bite-sized knowledge
to upgrade
your career

David Singh
@davidsingh