Every psychology field is in quest of finding the answer to the biggest question- "What to do in this human life to achieve a good life"<ul><li>The Humans, just like other animals , wants to "survive". As they say - "Survival of the fittest"</li><li>But in this modern time, survival is not just limited to "Physical protection" but has developed a broad sense in the form of "Mental" & "Emotional" protection.</li></ul>Now going back to our question, what is essential to SURVIVE (=Mentally+Emotionally+Physically)Or what to do to achieve a GOOD life

The Biggest Question

Human life is like a rollercoaster ride, having ups and downs .<ul><li>But the thing that separates us from animals, is the "Consciousness" -The power of taking "better" decisions based on previous outcomes of our actions & experiences from surroundings .</li><li>Humans sometimes take such decisions that lead to REGRET , these are the decisions that got stuck in our subconscious memory & haunts for life.</li><li>So the GOOD life we are talking about is, in which -</li></ul>"We have more PROUD on our DECISIONS than REGRET"

What Does It Mean To "GOOD" Life

Based on various studies , our decisions are mostly influenced by our surroundings.Surroundings includes-<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Type of people </li><li class="ql-align-justify">Some materialistic things (having emotional connect)</li></ul>Let's discuss them one by one

How To Make Our Decisions "Good"

There are two types of people in every human life -<ul><li>Permanent</li><li>Temporary</li></ul>Permament - It includes Parents , Brother, Sister i.e people that will never leave you in life, these are the connections that are bound with you since when you are born.Temporary - They exists for "short period of time" in your life, but sometimes make big impact on your decisions ,this impact can be positive or negative towards a certain situation related decision based on experience you got from those people .

1) People

Some things make shisfts in our decisions due to the connection of them with some "Emotions" or sometimes "People" . Things let us remember that MEMORY related to past experience or learning ANDContribute much more to our future DECISIONS

Materialistic Things 

When you took the RIGHT DECISION based on past experiences ,or a decision with most probability of success ,ThenThings start to assemble themselves according to our plan, &Even if they don't ,they may bend us to a different perspective of the reality & we can learn from those decisions.

Afterall, "DECISIONS ARE LEARNING

"Decision" are the root cause of actions we took in our life, so ,taking "Good" decisions is important . But How our decisions get influenced that may lead to a "good" or "bad" decision is what we tried to find

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Personal Development

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Mindfulness

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Love & Relationships

How to know, What to do?

We all know what is urgency in a broad sense as,<ul><li>'A state of course of action of how quickly to get the work done, in order to achieve the desired result/ deadline'</li></ul>But let's define it in a new way, how about we call it as<ul><li>"A state of complete focus & maximum productivity ,driven by time deficiency"</li></ul>

What Is Urgency

<ul><li>People want to be productive, but it's the real problem ,they just WANT, but don't BECOME productive.</li></ul>Well, the true meaning of word PRODUCTIVE is misunderstood by many, they think it as the<ul><li>"Capacity of a person to work maximum output in an efficient & effective way"</li></ul>But the real true sense of BEING productive & WANNA-BE productive are 2 different things.

What Really Is "PRODUCTIVITY"

<ul><li>During an urgent response to a situation, our brain releases some hormones that were released during FRIEGHT ,FLIGHT OR FIGHT situations. In simple words , EMERGENCY or tense situations.</li><li>This increases the blood circulation to the muscles of arms & legs and directs more oxygen to the brain than other organs.</li><li>That further increases the overall performance of the human because, it further increases the efficiency of brain plus strength in body parts required to get the work done.</li></ul>Hence ,with this state of urgency, productivity also increases.

Urgency As A Tool Of Productivity  

Everyone should have a sense of urgency -- it is getting a lot done in a short period of time in a calm, confident manner.

I got always productive when deadlines are near, i always wondered why, but now that i have the answer, so let's share it with my fellows.

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Urgency v/s productivity 

The eyes are said to be the "GATE" to inside soul. They tell much more about person than himself.Hopeless eyes , energetic eyes, enthusiastic eyes, Hopeful eyes, etc are there always besides us.

Gate To Inside Soul

<ul><li>Today I found an interesting link about eyes & our experiences. </li><li>I was sitting in front of an “old man” in e-rickshaw. His eyes were “half-opened" and yellowish-red ,loose skin with wrinkles on head, tanned brown face and lean body in silent thought observing outside. </li><li>And also a "young boy" of maybe 10 years of age with “Completely open, wide, clean”, no wrinkles on face,healthy body having enthusiasm in eyes.</li><li>And in between an "adult" with no expressions, some wrinkles and eyes “down" and silently watching phone. </li></ul>

An INTERESTING Link

When rickshaw started , after some time “dust" started to get in “eyes" and their reactions are interesting:

<ul><li>Child starting crying “mama! Theirs dirt in my eyes”</li><li>Adult man silently rubbed his eyes like nothing bothered by it.</li><li>But old man didn't do anything because he had “closed his eyes" before rickshaw started.</li></ul>

Here eyes giving us 3 life lessons: <ol><li>As you become old , your open eyes will start folding & eventually shut down.</li></ol>The eyes that were “full of hope" at start ,with course of time start losing "trust" & gaining “experience" as the time passes.

2) The eyes becomes “Muddy” which were "clean” once.The pure heart full of “helping nature" start not believing & helping others.

3) The gain of “dirt" aka "experience”.

"The life is full of experiences , we have to just OBSERVE around us

People're becoming busy in their Phones, but experience comes from OBSERVATIONS . 

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The Unspoken Eyes

There are 2 factors that drive person to do work - 1)Motivation, 2)Consitency Motivation <ul><li>Motivation is like "Self-kick" that helps us to do our work to reach goals.</li></ul>It's of 2 types -<ul><li>Intrinsic- means we're doing that work for "Internal satisfaction"</li><li>Extrinsic- means there is a FORCE that's driving us to do work. It can be money,car, luxury, or any other external lurable things. </li></ul>But Consistency is different , that is👇🏻

Motivation

<ul><li>Consistency is doing "WORK" daily without giving much thought & make them HABITS.</li><li>Here "WORK" means it must be 'Productive' and 'Necessary' . For eg- Studying,Following passion,building skills & revising old ones(so they cannot be forgotten) are all productive things, and Eating, keeping body clean & fit, participating in Sports activities, etc are necessary things , an individual must practice daily.</li><li>"Without giving much thought" means you have "Planned" the 'road' on which you go to achieve your specified goal. And you just need to focus 'daily' on "small tasks" that will lead to that. </li></ul>

Consistency 

Motivation is like "Self-kick" to get us on track & Consistency is track on which we have to run to achieve our goals(Success).On track, we have to use our "energy & time" Wisely (Statistically- with planning) to get goal fastlyAnd Motivation "triggers" to go on that 'Consistency route'

Motivation & Consistency Relation

<ul><li>No one is always motivated & productive , there comes HABIT, which helps to do essential work & utilise time properly. </li><li>To do work, sometimes motivation will not be there but is you are consistent , your habit will help you to complete the task on time.</li></ul>

"I accumulated small but consistent habits that ultimately led to results that were unimaginable when I started"

Being consistent increases the chances of success whereas motivation helps to be pushed to do work , so which is more important. 

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Motivation v/s Consistency

<ul><li>A person who is in state of flow is at his maximum potential & productivity , can complete task faster than any other time of day.</li><li>In martial arts , "State of flow/State like water" is when a person's body do work or reacts without thinking i.e. instinctively.</li></ul>

What Is Flow Of State

<ul><li>When you are doing your best work & are in a total state of flow, where there is no separation between you and your work you're doing, you're having NO THOUGHTS in the moment.</li><li>And if you're having thoughts, it's just FLOWING RIGHT THROUGH you without you having to thing about it.</li><li>In other words, for humans "the state of peak performance is state of non-thinking"</li></ul>"Think less, work more"

How To Achieve It? 

<ul><li>As there are no wrong or right keys on piano , there are only decisions or "keys" that are more pleasant than others.</li><li>Similarly , do tasks in "STEP-WISE Linked" manner; means</li></ul><ol><li>Start the task.</li><li>Break it in parts (link every completed part with upcoming part).</li><li>Complete one-by-one part till finishing the task</li></ol>

How To Know What To Do Without Thinking? 

"Anxiety is thought without control,Flow is control without thought"

"The State of FLOW"  or non-thinking is when our productivity is at maximum & provides happiness, this is how to achieve it👇🏻

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The State of "FLOW" or "Zero THOUGHT" 

In recent times ,with the loads of access of anything on internet in few seconds, teens got to expose to the outer world in some way or other & due to their curiosity they eventually some day started watching romance to adult situations .<ul><li>(UNESCO 2012) Students commonly self-report experiencing ongoing stress relating to their education, which we refer to as academic-related stress, like pressure to achieve high marks and concerns about receiving poor grades.</li><li>For Adults,on-time submission, deadlines, etc.</li><li>But problem starts when they misdirected to porn and use masturbation to relief stress. </li></ul>

Why Teens Do This Mostly? Why Masturbation Is Bad?

It's very bad for human health because.<ul><li>It causes erectile dysfunction (Research based)</li><li>Keep having lustful thoughts all over day which reduces productivity in REAL work. </li><li>Blood flows continuosly or many times a day in penis resulting in "LACK of energy" throughout day in body.</li><li>Which ultimately stops the overall BODY GROWTH specially if adolescent, and muscle growth if adult.</li><li>Not been able to make eye contact or converse properly with opposite gender because keeping imagining situations like porn in real life .</li><li>Work efficiency decreases & mind becomes unstable having lewd thoughts all time. </li></ul>

Why It's A Curse To Human Being

When someone masturbates/uses porn material to get relief from stress, it gives our brain a signal of small dopamine dose or we can say "Easiest way to cope up with stress" Due to which this ACTION started to turn into HABIT & eventually to ADDICTION. Because ADDICTION of anything is harmful. It's not easy to recover from it in minimum time. But there are ways we can adopt ,minimising this addtion & eventually get rid of this.

Why Is It Difficult To Give Up On Masturbation? 

<ul><li>We cannot place FULL STOP in any habit or addiction instantly.</li><li>One has to take step-by-step small but effective actions to resolve those(mostly within 21days) </li><li>By following below methods & techniques and one'll start experiencing great changes in their body with getting rid of this habit. </li></ul>

How To Stop 

First of all, identify the triggers that leads you to fap or watch porn. For some it can be a romantic scene, their "type" of person(attractive stimulation),magazines, things you follow , etc<ul><li>Now, Remove them instantly if possible.</li><li>After removing , find things or work that gives you "GOOD VIBES" and place them in your surroundings. Eg-Plants, PlayStation , chess, etc. </li><li>Or engage in work that gives you "SATISFACTION" after doing eg-planting sapling & taking care of it everyday.</li><li>Just make sure they are not at all related to TRIGGERS .</li><li>And practice these type of activities "EVERYDAY"</li></ul>

1)Remove The "TRIGGERS

<ul><li>Till now, whatever you have done is done. It's time to do Work.</li><li>Start with some mild exercising, yoga, or play your favourite outdoor games & focus on your body cleanup.</li><li>By keeping your body clean, fresh and active it will help body & mind energetic and motivated throughout day.</li></ul>

2) Keep Yourself CLEAN

<ul><li>Do Anything related to your goal, interest and productive but not a bit towards "TRIGGERS" all day.</li><li>By being BUSY , your thoughts,mind will be focussed at one work at a time throughout day, exhausted till night & not having energy or motivation to be directed to porn. </li><li>Aim for "big goals" ,divide it in small goals and achieve them daily.</li><li>Give yourself small "rewards" for every achievement at the end of day.</li></ul>

3) Be BUSY(most important) 

It's okay if you can't control it completely . Don't stress it or regret that you're now failed & never'll be able to drop this habit. <ul><li>"Widen the Time interval gap between 2 masturbation everytime with double the time before". </li></ul>Example-If you have did it, (say in 2 days)<ul><li>Just DON'T REPEAT SAME in same interval of time i.e. not again in 2 days, minimum after 4 day.</li><li>Again, follow above methods.</li></ul>When gap reaches 21 days, that's the victory.

What To Do If Did It Again? 

"Masturbation only gives you temporary satisfaction and regret for later"

"Masturbation" is a serious habit or addiction to some, becoming common in teens, needs to be REMOVE to be healthy & achieve success. 

How to STOP masturbating ? 

The thing that stops you from doing things rationally and productively is FEAR i.e holding back your good actions due to its negative sides

By Conquering FEAR 

<ul><li>Knowing possibilty of actions you re going to do is good i.e.knowing pros and cons.</li><li>But problem starts when people start acknowledging bad effects more rather than good side.</li><li>People fear from downside or negative effects of their action that MAY happen.</li><li>Even if it have a very less possibility to occur.</li></ul>This stops them from indulging in the to-do work right now .So STOP fearing and take ACTION

What People Fear

<ul><li>By remembering bad memories or overthinking about something can stress out the brain and you will not be able to focus on the present task completely. </li><li>Just focus on what to do next after completing a part of task you are assigned to.</li></ul>Stop OVERTHINKING.

Get Rid Of Your PAST Thoughts

<ul><li>Some people plan things but don't follow and some follow to extent & start slacking off and there are few that properly follows(having strict routine & full mind and body control).</li><li>Due to majority of people not able to plan ,they don't know that planning can help them reach their aim fast comparing those without plans.</li><li>If you're those having problem in making plans-</li></ul><ol><li>Start by making a ROUGH plan having your AIM.</li><li>Simple but effective STEPS like-reducing addiction that wastes most of your time.</li><li>SCHEDULE your work.</li></ol>You can modify,add in above as per your need.PLAN tasks and follow

Not Having Even A ROUGH Plan 

<ul><li>You can't do your work productively when frustrated or having confusing thoughts.</li><li>Sometimes you're just physically exhausted , so to overcome this take a break by-</li></ul>Taking a WALK in open surrounding , eating your FAVOURITE FOOD refreshing, TALKING TO A FRIEND can ease your tension very much.

Take A Walk, Eat Favourite Food, And Talk With A Friend

"FOCUS ON BEING PRODUCTIVE INSTEAD OF BEING BUSY"

"PRODUCTIVITY" can be achieved. By following these anyone will be able to be productive ANYTIME they want.

How can be "PRODUCTIVE"  anytime? 

<ul><li>That is "I am not Mr.perfectionist". There are people above me and I am ahead of someone.</li><li>Atleast from them who aren't even trying.</li></ul>But I have to climb up those people above me and reach to much higher heights."To become a person better than my yesterday."

You Are Average

<ul><li>Or I know that-"I can be defeated".</li><li>This is a must thing to be able to compete with yourself and not going numb,lazy.</li><li>When I slack off sometimes ,this is the thing that reminds me to work again.</li></ul>

Fear Of Failure

<ul><li>Anybody who give you competition, a person who is a "physical obstruction" between you and your goal.</li><li>I have to overcome this and when you overcome him/her, find a new competitor.</li><li>You may ask- "By doing this we will always be competing and comparing us with others".</li><li>But a physical person is much easier to overcome rather than mental laziness,and ego of "I am the Best,no one can defeat me".</li></ul>By following this you can achieve your goal easily and may be ahead of more than your competition.

A Competitor 

<ul><li>Just "do your work continuously & not giving a single thought that you'll definitely be on top of your competition".</li><li>By this mindset you may not be first but will be more ahead than others(who not even tried or slack off sometimes) AND,</li><li>Most importantly you'll be "SATISFIED" with whateveryou achieve because you gave it your all. </li></ul>And that is definitely fine and healthy for your mind & body to grow further in future.And achieve anything in life if you give it your all.

Not Having High Hopes From Yourself

"The only way to do great work,Is to love what you do"

This helped me to be motivated everyday & do work continuosly and want to share so others can benefit.

Things that keep me motivated

We all know that human brain is a very mysterious thing that we're yet to be discover fully.There are things beyond the human intelligence & some psychologists who are deeply engraved in depths of mind are only able to give them words & faces.

Mysterious brain

As we dig deeper inside brain, there are layers Of brain that uncover . Psychologists divide them in 3 layers- <ul><li>Conscious - What we see, feel,and react to situations,etc functions of which we are AWARE of.</li><li>Subconscious - Actions we do, not knowingly,without thinking like-Calling out 'mom' whenever comes home,grooving on songs,etc .</li><li>Unconscious - Processes in the mind which occur automatically (eg-during sleep) and are not available to introspection and include thought processes, memories, interests, and motivations.</li></ul>

Depths Of Brain. 

People do things either subconsciously or consciously ,unconscious pattern is really deep &not achievable easily.<ul><li>When things we do subconsciously comes into conscious brain,there starts the problem.</li><li>Means, you know every reason of 'Why am I doing this work?'</li><li>Because-Things get really confusing as brain start overthinking(start calculating every possibility, pros, cons, effect,affect,why...) i.e.QUESTIONING related useless things ,sometimes directing brain away from the present task.</li></ul>

Why Depths Are Scary? 

People do some actions subconsciously(without giving much thought) & when they start thinking of reason (overthinking) , they get distracted from giving 100% of their brain power to the present task which results in 'CLUTTERED' work,spending more time than usual,ultimately not satisfactory output.ALSO, due to this the person cannot achieve "STATE OF FLOW".

Conclusion

KEEP IT SIMPLE

What Can We Do? 

Sometimes, people think more & not able to start or end a work due to overthinking &thinking deeply. 

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Science & Nature

Scary depths of BRAIN

"Multitasking is doing different works with Full productivity and no or minimal loss"Here 'loss' refers to -loss in physical health and mental health.

Multitasking

First of all, we have to be clear about-"HUMAN BRAIN IS NOT capable to multitask"<ul><li>Our brain do work 'one at a time' .</li><li>That's the best state when we can -OUTPUT MOST of human abilities.</li><li>A work can be done productively,efficiently without mental fatique only when OUR BRAIN & BODY sync and do a Common task.</li></ul>

Why MULTITASKING Is Difficult? 

NO, It is possible but not like-Watching T.V. and studying.<ul><li>It is somewhat like -"MAKE SCHEDULE", "BREAK DOWN different tasks into PIECES" , "FOLLOW schedule".</li><li>And "FOCUSSING ON ONE TASK AT A TIME" </li></ul>

So, Is It Impossible To Multitask

Giving whole Focus to a specific task results in HIGH PRODUCTIVITY & Completes the work FASTLY i.e. in shorter time which further give time to do other tasks.

Why Do This 

"Multitasking is the ability to screw up everything simultaneously"﻿

I tried to do MULTITASKING & found something to share which help anyone to do "REAL multitasking" .

How to know, What to do?

Urgency v/s productivity

The Unspoken Eyes

Motivation v/s Consistency

The State of "FLOW" or "Zero THOUGHT"

David Singh