"...the pain of our anger preserves the very integrity of our self."

the pain of our anger preserves the very integrity of our self

Venting anger may serve to maintain, and even rigidify, the old rules and patterns in a relationship, thus ensuring that change does not occur.

Rather, I speak here of “response-ability”—that is, the ability to observe ourselves and others in interaction and to respond to a familiar situation in a new and different way.

Many of our problems with anger occur when we choose between having a relationship and having a self.

Making a long-term relationship work is a difﬁcult business because it requires the capacity to strike a balance between individualism (the “I”) and togetherness (the “we”).

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The Dance of Anger is a book any woman should read to change the patterns of their toxic relationship.

The renowned classic and New York Times bestseller Anger is something we feel. It exists for a reason and always deserves our respect and attention. We all have a right to everything we feel—and certainly our anger is no exception. "Anger is a signal and one worth listening to," writes Dr. Harriet Lerner in her renowned classic that has transformed the lives of millions of readers. While anger deserves our attention and respect, women still learn to silence our anger, to deny it entirely, or to vent it in a way that leaves us feeling helpless and powerless. In this engaging and eminently wise book, Dr. Lerner teaches both women and men to identify the true sources of anger and to use it as a powerful vehicle for creating lasting change. For decades, this book has helped millions of readers learn how to turn their anger into a constructive force for reshaping their lives. With a new introduction by the author, The Dance of Anger is ready to lead the next generation.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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The renowned classic and New York Times bestseller that has transformed the lives of millions of readers, dramatically changing how women and men view relationships. Anger is something we feel. It exists for a reason and always deserves our respect and attention. We all have a right to everything we feel—and certainly our anger is no exception."Anger is a signal and one worth listening to," writes Dr. Harriet Lerner in her renowned classic that has transformed the lives of millions of readers. While anger deserves our attention and respect, women still learn to silence our anger, to deny it entirely, or to vent it in a way that leaves us feeling helpless and powerless. In this engaging and eminently wise book, Dr. Lerner teaches both women and men to identify the true sources of anger and to use it as a powerful vehicle for creating lasting change.For decades, this book has helped millions of readers learn how to turn their anger into a constructive force for reshaping their lives. With a new introduction by the author, The Dance of Anger is ready to lead the next generation.

Harriet Lerner

Dance of Anger

Confidence is the best thing someone can wear. It is so difficult to build and yet, so easy to lose. Self-confidence represents the attitude about your skills and competencies. It means that you trust your judgement and you have a good understanding of your strengths and weaknesses. Also, it means that you accept yourself just the way you are.

What Is Confidence In A Nutshell

Self-esteem and self-acceptance derive from confidence, yet they’re not the same. Self-esteem can vary; it can be inflated, low or high, and an indicator of a person’s self-worth or value. When self-esteem is low, people don’t trust their abilities, don’t value themselves as individuals, and don’t consider themselves worthy. As a result, they have poor relationships, and they can suffer from depression and anxiety which could lead them to fail in life.

The difference Between Self-esteem And Self-acceptance

<ul><li>Confidence that they can overcome challenges;</li><li>Ability to be themselves without the fear of being judged or seeking external validation all the time;</li><li>Readiness to learn new things even and accept corrective feedback;</li><li>They are a pleasant company to be around because of their positive attitude.</li></ul>

Healthy Self-esteem = Self-acceptance

Check out the original article for the tips.<a href="https://medium.com/p/7534c1ec82b7">Read more.</a>

4 Tips To Build Up Confidence

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How to Tell If You’re Confident.

Do you remember the excitement of getting your first Gmail account? If my memory serves me right, my first one dates back to 2004. The Gmail invite represented a friendship token from my boyfriend back then, who only got five of them to spread. Its scarcity made it valuable. Years later, he became my husband — funny coincidence.

When Gmail Was Not For Everyone

See, it doesn’t matter that anyone can have it, as long as only one may own it. Pretty dope, is it? Here the circulating supply is plenty, but having it doesn’t make you rich. Hence, the token immutably vouching the ownership is the valuable asset and not the item itself.

Nfts For Dummies

So to recap, NFTs use scarcity of ownership to increase their value regarding the digital asset the token is assigned to. Cryptocurrency and stocks also are finite in supply, and sometimes (even if it’s only perceived) scarcity influence their price. And the same goes with collectables — they become more expensive as there’s a limitation of supply (i.e., the rare Mercedes-Benz Grosser 770).

Scarcity Makes Economy Roll

Study the top writers on these topics and strive to be better than them. Let’s take Tim Denning, my favourite example. If you want to be better than Tim at personal development, then you really need to top up your game. So, when it comes to me, I probably stand no chance (I better write about horses if I want to shine.)

#1 Tip To Become A Valuable Writer

Find your own angle, and don’t be afraid to look at yourself as a special human being. I’m sure there is something that makes you stand out in a crowd. Find it, and put it in writing. Maybe you are a painfully direct individual in just the right ways, you are witty, charming or like to throw in facts to support your arguments. It doesn’t matter. Whatever makes you special as a person, replicate it in your writing.

#2 Tip To Become A Valuable Writer

Discover a new niche. Maybe you are really good at writing about horses (apparently I like exemplifying on horses just as much I like using Tim Denning in my plastic examples). So, write about horses and create a community around this topic. I imagine there are not a lot of writers writing about horses today. It helps to be passionate about the topic because it makes writing more effortless, but if research and documentation is your cup of tea, then it’s equally good. It will just take you longer.

#3 Tip To Become A Valuable Writer

For the 4th tip and the more important one check out the original article.<a href="https://medium.com/wholistique/how-can-understanding-scarcity-increase-your-value-as-a-writer-5909cb094b8e">Read more.</a>

#4 Tip To Become A Valuable Writer

Story published in Wolistique about writing and scarcity

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How can Understanding ‘Scarcity’ Increase your value as a Writer?

In the 1950s, Curt Richter, a professor at Johns Hopkins, did a famous drowning rats psychology experiment. This experiment, though cruel, demonstrated the power of hope and resilience in overcoming difficult situations.

The Power Of Hope

I was writing for less than a month when a story I would classify now as downright mediocre (and I’ll save myself the embarrassment by not linking it) — took off. I still get the chills remembering the feeling I got seeing all that interest and, let’s be honest, the money pouring in.

Getting Money From A Hobby It's A Nice Feeling

In short, the experiment involved putting rats into water containers that forced them to swim to stay alive. First time in the water, the rats only resisted several minutes swimming before drowning. Then, just before giving up risking death, the rats were picked up by the researchers, warmed up, and after they recovered, they were placed back again into the containers. Amazingly, this time they lasted not 5, not 30, not 60 minutes, but days before exhaustion.

Resilience Fostered By Hope

Hope is everywhere on this platform. Everybody inspires you to keep going, write every day, be consistent, show up, engage, push, push, push, swim to survive. If you stop, you lose traction. Algorithms forget you. If Tim Denning takes a one month vacation, there are plenty waiting in a row to replace him. And he will be replaced. But Tim is smart enough to know that, too even though he’s a rat-like all of us. What differentiates Tim from the rest is that he’s a more luxurious pet, being picked up and cared for more frequently than others. However, that doesn’t mean he’s better.

Waiting For Your Viral Story

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How can Understanding ‘Scarcity’ Increase your value as a Writer?

How a Harvard Rat Experiment Explains Why New Writers Get Viral Stories

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