Being a people pleaser disables one from taking conflict of any form. The idea about going into a conflict situation is so hyper to these people, that "you're wrong" is something they would never say unless they know the person too well.The very first step for change in pleasing personality is to learn to take on conflicts. And to take on conflicts there's nothing better than "Blame the game and not the player". It is an effective way to indirectly communicate people their faults without being a pain in the ass.

Blame The Game And Not The Player

It's allows you to get your point across with least or no amount of resistance from the opposition, as you don't directly point towards a person saying "you did this or that wrong" instead you divert all that attention to the situation saying that it's usual for people to behave this way in these kind of scenarios. Afterwards communicating that there are far better options available to tackle such situations.

Why "Blame The Game And Not The Player"?

Let's say your close knit family member has lied, or has a fight, or doesn't accept his mistake in a certain situation. What will you do?Instead of saying you never learn and it's all your mistake, you need to firstly highlight the good things about what has happened and then say that at this certain age or in this certain circumstance everyone feels the need to do this same thing but these small scenarios need this kind of resolution mindset and set of actions to solve the conflict situation.

How To Use Blame The Game And Not The Player

Most probably no, the idea about others realising and accepting their mistake is flawed, nobody will ever whole heartedly accept their mistakes. Thaty just how things are, most people learn from their own mistakes and not from others mistake. Your job is to inform them the decision at the end lies with them.Better to make a friend than make an enemy.

Will They Understand And Realise Their Mistake?

"Better to make a friend, than make an enemy."

Conflicts cannot avoided in life, especially the ones you face in daily lives . These situation may arise anytime with anyone be it colleagues, juniors, boss, friends and family members etc etc. The article below highlights one of the best ways to resolve such situations.

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Solving Small Daily Life Conflicts with Ease 

The idea that one should stick to only educational content or a specific type of content is false at core.It's simple, educational, fun, family and friends all are important, but the problem lies in social media algorithms promoting things you like more than content that might be beneficial for you.Restrict pages you follow for fun such as memes, vines and celeb pages. Have a maximum limit of 10 on them.Do not scroll reels.

Rebuild Your Social Media With Relevancy

Don't be convinced looking at just one side of things.Everyone has different opinions about different things. You'll find both good and bad in it and guess what?? Both of them will have research to back it's answers, dive deep and pick the most logical answer that fits your set of circumstances and your body.If logic fails to convince you of the side to take then listen to your inner being, it has the knowledge of the universe. It knows what it wants and what is best for you! Relax and make your decision.

Question The Content

Have you ever visited the research papers to find out what's good and bad about the food you're eating? I'm sure you have. But, did it leave you confused with cancer, obesity and diabetes on one side and vitamins, minerals and protein on the other?If yes, then you need to look at two things, one is your belly area tightly does it feel good when it goes inside your body, does it cause bloating, excess fat, heatburn or other symptoms? If it's causing any of the two you need to remove it and add new gradually add back to see what works and what dosent.The other problem you might want to look at i<warningtag>s a tightened stomach, relax an</warningtag><warningtag>d</warningtag><warningtag> blow it make it flexible.</warningtag><warningtag></warningtag>

Food Paradox : The Researches Are Confusing You.

Sooner or later we will realise that the world has already moved to a place from which there is no return. The chaos and destruction we've brought upon mother nature will come back to us.Capitalism and Mass production are reasons to blame. If you're wondering, why's that? That's because apart from the essentials to live like food, water, clothes and shelter you don't really need anything. But these companies created demands and desires are ruthlessly claiming the minds of people. Luring them with feelings of pride and feeling of completion.Don't give in to what crowd believes in. Be Free!

Environmental Degradation Is The Real Deal!

"All demand is Created"

The face that people show on social media is not real and neither are their lives perfect. It's shrouded in their desire to make money out of your following and achieving a sense of superiority.Look for real people around you and not on a television or a mobile phone or a computer.

Don't Listen To Influencers

Most of us are hypocrites, we say we're gonna do the work but we don't, we say we are gonna start but we never do. We say it and we don't? Ever wondered why? Even when you know what is right you are unable to accomplish it? The problem lies in "saying it", don't say it out aloud until you do it so take action then say it.

Don't Lie To Yourself

Internet is bombarding us with information every minute, reducing attention spans like petrol in hot air. If you're thinking about the consequences... It's no less than lighting fire in that air. The result is low satisfaction, goldfish memory, indecisiveness etc. etc. What to do?

Solving Small Daily Life Conflicts with Ease

Over Information and the right-wrong paralysis.

Mileniyam Jiwane