Exhausting someone in argument is not the same as convincing them.

We often find ourselves in a position where we have already formed an opinion before the debate even started.But changing your mind doesn’t make you a flip-flopper or a hypocrite. It means you were open to learning. The approach should be collaborative- one in which we show more humility and curiosity, and invite others to think more like scientists

A good debate is not a tug-of-war, where you can drag your opponent to your side if you pull hard enough on the rope. It’s more like a dance that hasn’t been choreographed, negotiated with a partner who has a different set of steps in mind. If you try hard to lead, your partner will resist. If you can adapt your moves to hers, and get her to do the same, you’relikely to end up in rhythm.In a war, our goal is to gain ground rather than lose it. But in a negotiation we can’t stand still and expect the other person to make all the moves. To get in harmony, we need to step back from time to time.

The Science Of The Deal

<ul><li>We won’t have much luck changing other people’s minds if we refuse to change ours. We can demonstrate openness by acknowledging where we agree with our critics and even what we’ve learned from them. Then, when we ask what views they might be willing to revise, we’re not hypocrites.</li><li>Convincing other people to think again isn’t just about making a good argument- it’s about establishing that we have the right motives in doing so.</li><li>Be willing to listen to what someone else is saying and give them credit for it. It makes you sound like a reasonable person who is taking everything into account.</li></ul>

Dancing To The Same Beat

<ul><li>A single line of argument feels like a conversation; multiple lines of argument can become an onslaught.</li><li>As important as the quantity and quality of reasons might be, the source matters alot. </li><li>The person most likely to persuade you to change your mind is you. You get to pick the reasons you find most compelling, you come away with a real sense of ownership over them.</li></ul>

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Why couldn’t everyone carry positive karma? Why couldn’t everyone have the same software?If you pause and examine you’ll see that the primary cause of human suffering is not physical handicap or poverty. This cause of human suffering is oneself.

PAIN: It’s body’s way of alerting you that something is wrong physically and action must be taken. It is useful. It is valuable wake up call.SUFFERING: It is psychological and produced by you. You don’t have a choice about being in pain, but you do have a choice about suffering.

Your karma is not in what is happening to you; your karma is in the way you respond to what is happening to you.

Generally, the word karma is used in a rudimentary way to suggest that you did something bad and so bad things will happen to you. This is a very limited and simplistic way of looking at life. Karma has nothing to do with moralistic categories of good and bad; it is related only to cause and effect. Ignorance is also a karma. An action is karma, inaction is also karma!﻿

It is important for people to feel that if their poverty is of their making, they can also turn it around. Karma means that you can change your destiny, not simply be ruled by it. But at the same time there is something wonderful about this ability to create joy in all kinds of circumstances. These people mat be poor, but they are not suffering.Suffering and misery are always by choice.

The karmic substance within you may happen to contain all the necessary ingredients to create suffering. Perhaps you planted all these ingredients unconsciously in your past. So what can you do about this today?The next morning you get up, you still have the choice nor to manufacture suffering for yourself. Yes, the ingredients of misery are present. They are waiting, perhaps even tempting you. But they cannot become suffering by themselves.

The source of your misery is not your past actions. It is how you’re processing the imprint of the past NOW.

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The moment I stopped spending so much time chasing the big pleasure of life, I began to enjoy the little ones, like watching the stars dancing in the moonlight sky or soaking in the sunbeams of a glorious summer morning

There are symbolism in the story that, in one way or another, symbolise our lives. It imparts the true meaning of life through minor nuances to magnificent objects.

The first principle is associated with the magnificent garden which represents our brain metaphorically.<ul><li>Our mind must be nurtured in the same way that a master gardener tends to a garden by sowing good seeds.</li><li>Good seeds represent good thoughts. Raise the calibre of your thoughts to raise the calibre of your life.</li><li>Just like a gardener keeps on removing weeds from his garden in the same way it’s important to remove negative thoughts so they don’t rule your mind.</li></ul>

Extraordinary Garden

Setting and achieving high standards for oneself is crucial. Having said that, it’s equally essential to cherish the trip and be grateful for what you have now.<ul><li>Have clear goals: personal, professional and spiritual.</li><li>We live in a world where we are bombarded with stimuli from all directions. These stimuli embed themselves in your subconscious mind, whether you’re aware of it or not.</li><li>We have to choose consciously what type of information we want to allow into our minds.</li><li>Keep giving yourself some positive pressure, write a goal contract, build your habits and laugh along the way.</li></ul>

The Lighthouse

Sumo wrestlers, who must exercise extreme discipline to retain their enormous stature and skill set, are the ones to whom this idea is most frequently applied.<ul><li>Self mastery is the DNA of life mastery. </li><li>Work on mastering yourself. Kaizen is the Japanese method for improvement and optimisation. Use this principle for continuous learning and improvement in your life.</li><li>Success on the outside begins within.</li><li>Do things you fear -> the universe favours the brave</li></ul>

Sumo Wrestler

Discipline is represented by a pink belt as it is worn by sumo wrestlers to protect their modesty.<ul><li>Tiny, smaller threads combine to form cords, which are significantly more durable. In a same vein, every brave deed you do strengthens you as a person.</li><li>The more you nurture self discipline, the more it will mature.</li><li>Wage war against the weaker thoughts that have crept into the palace of your mind. These thoughts will then see that they are unwanted and leave like unwelcome visitors.</li></ul>

Pink Belt

A little fragrance always clings to the hands that give the roses.<ul><li>The symbol reminds us about selflessly serving others.</li><li>The quality of your life = The quality of your contribution </li><li>By elevating the lives of others, your life reaches its highest dimensions.</li><li>Practice daily act of kindness which not only makes them happy but also, you yourself!</li><li>This act enormously help in cultivating richer relationships as well.</li></ul>

Yellow Rose

Time is a priceless commodity and a non renewable resource.<ul><li>Everyone from a beggar to a billionaire has one thing in common. 24 hours a day. But how one utilises and manage their time is quite important.</li><li>Follow rule of 20. 20 minutes of vigorous exercise, 20 minutes or reflection by meditating and journaling and 20 minutes on growth by reading and learning.</li><li>Have the courage to say ‘NO’. Your time is the most precious commodity you own, use it wisely.</li></ul>

Stop Watch

The path of diamonds encourages us to live in the ‘NOW’<ul><li>Embrace the present and find happiness in small things to cherish every moment of our life.</li><li>We are all here for some special reason. Stop being a prisoner of your past.</li><li>Practice deadbed mentality and live each day as your last.</li></ul>

Diamonds

The book is in the form of a fictional conversation between Julian Mantle who is a renowned lawyer and his best friend John who is also in the same field. As a workaholic, Julian’s health problems served as a wake up call. He quit his job and made the decision to travel Sivana.

Wisdom to Create a Life of Passion, Purpose, and Peace This inspiring tale provides a step-by-step approach to living with greater courage, balance, abundance, and joy. A wonderfully crafted fable, The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari tells the extraordinary story of Julian Mantle, a lawyer forced to confront the spiritual crisis of his out-of-balance life. On a life-changing odyssey to an ancient culture, he discovers powerful, wise, and practical lessons that teach us to: <ul><li> Develop Joyful Thoughts, <li> Follow Our Life's Mission and Calling, <li> Cultivate Self-Discipline and Act Courageously, <li> Value Time as Our Most Important Commodity, <li> Nourish Our Relationships, and <li> Live Fully, One Day at a Time.</ul>

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Robin Sharma is one of the world’s premier thinkers on leadership, personal growth and life management. The bestselling author of The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari, Who Will Cry When You Die? and The Saint, the Surfer, and the CEO and four other books on self-transformation. Robin Sharma is in constant demand internationally as keynote speaker at the conferences of many of the most powerful companies on the planet including Microsoft, Nortel Networks, General Motors, FedEx and IBM. He is a resident of Ontario, Canada. (Barnes and Noble)

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