We learn when we believe that we don't know. We don't learn when we believe that we know, leading to a barrier that holds us back from the greater truth. Our belief of knowing it all, narrows our way to clarity; the knowledge and wisdom that is left untouched.One mouth, two ears. Use it wisely. Those who speak later and cling to observation, shall grasp the knowledge, seen by few. Details lead to questions, questions lead to treasures. It's like opening knots of chains that conceal invaluable wisdom."Today, I have more questions than answers", understanding that there is more to the unknown...

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Philosophy

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Personal Development

Know That You Don't Know

<ol><li>Anger results in shame.</li><li>You learn when you think that you don't know; you don't learn when you think that you know.</li><li>Money was not used during the primitive age. It is intelligence, that got us where we are now and knowledge fuels our intelligence.</li><li>Remove ego and desires from your life. You may be happier twice than before.</li><li>Better decisions are taken when you are not in an emotional state.</li><li>If you hold a grudge against someone, only person suffering will be you.</li><li>Your parents are only the realest people.</li><li>Humility is a sign of maturity.</li><li> Mental health is more important than wealth.</li></ol>

Some Words of Wisdom- Part 1

Fitting with the surrounding is needed when it comes to appearing mature. Nervousness, hesitation, uncertainty, etc are all signs of lacking maturity. Mature people know what they are doing and they have experienced enough to stay hopeful in any situation. Hence, confidence is essential to appear as a mature person.

We Don't Stay Confident

We often make fast gestures and talk so fast that it appears to the other person as we are less mature.Moreover, fast gestures and speech are signs of nervousness, discomfort, unstable emotions, lacking self-control, etc. So, it is best to slow down and communicate at a normal pace.

Fast Gestures and Speech

Sometimes, we change the subject matter of the conversation unconsciously. What happens is that the person feels that we aren't paying much attention and that our mind/ thoughts are not stable. Therefore, it's best to stay within the topic.

Staying off Topic

Same as the other ideas, displaying a lack of self-control is another factor. Complaining about something because it didn't go in our way, feeling empty at hard times, aggressive behaviors are all features of low self-control and also low emotional intelligence. In this case, controlling emotions is necessary, or less outward emotional expressions can be assisting.

Emotional Outbreaks

Interestingly, our getup also matters. In fact, in experiments, younger people tend to choose light colors and older choose darker. Flashy clothes also indicate childness. Even our hairstyle makes us look irresponsible. It's human psychology to judge someone based on their getup. So in this regard, one can wear something a little bit formal (not too much formal or too casual; a little above) and at least get a haircut that doesn't block their forehead like an emo kid.

Getup

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Psychology

Why You Don't Seem Mature to Others and What to Do

We all have our ways of picturing the world, situations, ideas, etc. Our insights are unique and will contrast with one another.What happens is that, when we talk to someone different of our age, we tend to impose our own beliefs. Even if we are correct, our imposed thoughts can make the person feel rather insecure, less confident, and uneasy. We should think openly and try to comprehend what they are trying to propose from their point of view, and for this initiative, they will feel comfortable and can converse with us more.

Accept Their Thoughts

No one likes a person radiating a competitive expression or someone asserting dominance.To adapt with the individual, acting like someone who is like a friend, someone who doesn't show dominance towards their friends may help.

Appear as Humble

As personalities vary among us, our maturity varies as well. So, someone younger than us won't appear to be sensible to us sometimes, yet we have to go with the flow and act a lot like them. As for elders, speaking in common terms and within topic assists in giving them the thought of us as someone relevant.Despite off many factors, however, reacting to their feelings with sympathy instead of showing judgemental actions can work for both.

Know When to Be Silly and Serious

More or less, awkward situations appear as barriers when it comes to communication.In this regard, one may act calm, not freak out, not show fast gestures, and comply with the surroundings.

Keep the Normal or Awkwardless Atmosphere 

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Communication

How to Adapt With People of Any Age Group

Being ignorant means someone is lacking proper knowledge or proper insight and to lack something as crucial as knowledge is a shame. When someone is ignorant they become self-absorbed, unaware of the greater picture, and apathetic.Moreover, when someone is ignorant, they tend to be emotional and they end up making the wrong decisions because of their emotions.

Don't be Ignorant

Many of us don't see the greater picture of social medias. Social medias are useful when we just use for a short amount of time. But however, most of us spend so much time on them which results in our demotion and our integrity, self-respect, confidence,time, etc all are hampered because of the negative vibes that radiate from social medias.As a wise choice, social media should be used as a strategy to expand your business and other works . But, using social media for some short interaction is completely fine.

Avoid Social Media or Use It Less

We, the youngsters, tend to rush in our conversations and movement like a habit and in fact, it has become a habit.Rather, we should slow down and be more mindful of what we are doing. It helps us reduce our stress, appear more reasonable and chairsmatic, appear as confident and mature, etc.

Slow Down Champ

Controlling emotions is very significant and it can't be comprehended just through words.Our positive emotions help us to socialize better, get recognition for our worth, recieve respect, make progress, etc. In contrast, our negative emotions, if appeared many a times, can lead to downfall.In that case, we should check our emotions at times and make the habit of being optimistic.But however, talking with a professional is necessary if someone's emotions are out of control.

Control Your Emotions

Last but not least, humility is a exclusive trait of a great man and it will help you reach greatness. "Humility is no substitute for a good personality."- Fran Lebowitz. "Humility is the most beautiful virtue that we can develop."- Joyce Meyer. "The only wisdom we can hope to acquire is the wisdom of humility."- T. S. Eliot.

Be Humble

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Productivity

Self-Improvement Ideas from a 21 Year Old

According to experts, too much added sugar can be one of the greatest threats to cardiovascular disease. Complications arise when you consume too much added sugar — that is, sugar that food manufacturers add to products to increase flavor or extend shelf life. "The effects of added sugar intake — higher blood pressure, inflammation, weight gain, diabetes, and fatty liver disease — are all linked to an increased risk for heart attack and stroke," says Dr. Hu.

The Dangers of Sugar

To write simply, the added sugar is the artificial sugar that manufacturers use on their food products and they are often known as processed foods.In the western diet , the top sources are soft drinks, fruit drinks, flavored yogurts, cereals, cookies, cakes, candy, and most processed foods. But added sugar is also present in items that you may not think of as sweetened, like soups, bread, cured meats, and ketchup.

Sources of Added Sugar ( harmful)

In a study published in 2014 in JAMA Internal Medicine, Dr. Hu and his colleagues found an association between a high-sugar diet and a greater risk of dying from heart disease.Over the course of the 15-year study, people who got 17% to 21% of their calories from added sugar had a 38% higher risk of dying from cardiovascular disease compared with those who consumed 8% of their calories as added sugar. "Basically, the higher the intake of added sugar, the higher the risk for heart disease," ~says Dr. Hu.

The Research on Added Sugar

If 24 teaspoons of added sugar per day is too much, then what is the right amount? It's hard to say, since sugar is not a required nutrient in your diet. The Institute of Medicine, which sets Recommended Dietary Allowances, or RDAs, has not issued a formal number for sugar. However, the American Heart Association suggests that men consume no more than 150 calories (about 9 teaspoons or 36 grams) of added sugar per day. That is close to the amount in a 12-ounce can of soda.Again, if the consumption of added sugar is stopped completely, it is fine and even better for the health.

The Maximum Limit for Consuming Added Sugar

The good sugar or natural sugar is produced naturally in all organic foods that contain carbohydrates, such as fruits and vegetables, grains, and dairy. Consuming whole foods that contain natural sugar is okay. Plant foods also have high amounts of fiber, essential minerals, and antioxidants. Since your body digests these foods slowly, the sugar in them offers a steady supply of energy to your cells. A high intake of fruits, vegetables, and whole grains also has been shown to reduce the risk of chronic diseases, such as diabetes, heart disease, and some cancers.

Natural Sugar is Good Sugar

People consume too much added sugar—extra amounts that food manufacturers add to products to increase flavor and extend shelf life—which can have a serious impact on heart health.

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Food

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Health

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Exercise & Fitness

Sugar: A Sweet Danger for the Generation.

Confidence is a vital weapon for us to pass the barriers that hold us back in our life. And, it is a very significant tool for our personality, charisma, and other aspects. All of us were lacking confidence at some point, or maybe always. Then again, we watch so many motivational videos but the motivation just stays for that little time. After looking at this state, I thought of sharing some ideas that have helped me effectively.

The Main Idea

Our mindset is a set of beliefs that shape how we make sense of the world and yourself. It influences how we think, feel, and behave in any given situation.   So, we have now probably realized that our mindset is probably pulling down our confidence. But to fix that mindset, we have to take measures effectively. The ideal mindset can be built by these effective measures 1. Find out what influences our way of thinking.2. Finding out the strategies and implementation.

Creating the Ideal Mindset

Our mindset started enriching from our childhood. Our parents taught us manners and discipline to establish our mindset. Moreover, we watched TV and did other stuff as well.  Here, we got an idea on how the influence affected our mindset. Children with a good environment lead happier lives later on and those with a bad environment or influences got spoiled or ruined. Quite similarly, the adults are also influenced in that system. Now, where do adults spend their time on? We spend our time mostly on social medias, the workplace, etc. The negative influences pass from these places.

Where Did We Get the Influence on Mindset

" No one shares their bad moment" we may have heard of it. As a matter of fact, when we look at it, people with the highest followers always show their brightest moments. When we log in to social media, we see people having only fun and joy.But unfortunately, we reflect on ourselves and we think that everyone is buying or doing that and we are lagging behind. But in reality, they also face bad times but they don't share it. Add the facts to the mindset. This will help boost us confidence effectively since we now see the clear and greater truth.

Impact of Social Media on Your Confidence and Solution

We lose our confidence when someone surpasses us. But, we were confident when we were at the top. This competitive atmosphere is usually witnessed in the workspace, school, or an event. Of all truth, this TOXIC competition will ruin our confidence since we won't be at the top forever. For instance, look at Bill Gates. He was the richest person but now Elon Musk took his spot. We can't beat everyone in the rat race. Hence, we have to realize that competition will always prevail and how we see it is what matters. We have to accept that things won't turn out to be in our way always.

Competition on Our Confidence and Fixing It

A big mistake that we make is that we try to go for the big shot and end up failing, and therefore, our confidence falls greatly. It's human psychology to fall apart when we lose and to be optimistic when we get things right. Hence, we have to take the shorter appraoch to get things right.Taking advantage of this psychology and starting with small things will work out for us and then afterwards, our confidence will keep on boosting since we feel a positive energy when things are on track.

Taking a Step at a Time

Well, we have heard about exercising in every place. But when we start doing it for some while, we will comprehend the wisdom. Scientifically, a neurotransmitter named Endorphin acts to increase feelings of pleasure and well-being. This is released through exercise. Exercising helped me too. When I walked at the park for 40/60 minutes for some days, I started to see changes in my confidence level and my brain functioned. And, when I didn't walk for a few consecutive days, I could feel that I was feeling anxious and it affected my mood, studies and confidence as well.

Exercising Helps

Concluding with the idea that, my shared ideas helped me raise my confidence and I checked the results as well. I believe the strategical approach will help you and if you can make a better plan then go for it ( Thumb's up).

Conclusion

Boost Confidence Effectively

All of us possess the nature of WANTING MORE and we don't know why. Our nature of craving is developed because of many factors.Moreover, with that idea, our goal is to reduce or stop these factors from influencing us.

The Main Goal

All of us desire that flagship smartphone , the latest tech and setup. A lot of that desiring nature is influenced from content creators. These are professional people who have an interesting way of presenting things that makes you want to buy stuff. Also, many of these presentations are composed of biased information as they are getting paid by the company. Hence, unsubscribe from these sources, and then we can see improvemens to our craving nature as we won't see them appear in your feed.

Unsubscribe from YouTube Channels

Most of the negative influence comes from social media. Greed, jealousy, hatred, ignorance and competition all grow from social medias without a doubt. Interestingly, when we will spend lesser time on social medias, we will notice that your cravings will be chopped down a lot as we won't view someone else's wealth, fame and luxury. Thus, this strategy will assist us to forget about others and we can concentrate on our life.

Spend Less Time on Social Media as Much as You Can

Naturally, we want to be like others which also fuel our cravings. We want that thing the other guy has which ruins our satisfaction and sense of fulfillment.So, we need to realise that we shouldn't follow someone else as our capacity, environment and past are not the same. That's why, we have to stop comparing ourselves to others. We can only live our lives only if we choose to be ourselves.

Fixing the Mindset

The Dopamine hormone is the satisfaction hormone released when we gain pleasure from something. For instance, Dopamine is secreted when we get likes and comments on our Instagram or Facebook posts. It's also released from smoking, eating tasty food, playing video games and other stimulating activities.But too much dopamine leads to harm and a big essay can be written on the effects as well. Hopefully, dopamine can be maintained if usage and intake of these is reduced as much as possible. The visible changes won't be seen in a day. It will take some time.

Keep Your Dopamine Balanced

Finally, if we have a habit of buying things or eating alot, we can't just end it completely at that point or time. This won't work effectively. Better option is to slowly leave it with time and it is also advised by experts.

Leave Your Habit Slowly

How to Stop Wanting More

Body mass index (BMI) is one of the most popular ways to measure body composition as it pertains to health. However, research indicates BMI is not the most accurate depiction and can have serious limitations in weight distribution, body fat percentage, and different demographics.

Limitations of BMI 

<ul><li>BMI is not an accurate predictor of health because it does not account for body fat percentage or body fat distribution.</li><li>In addition, BMI cannot accurately predict the health of different demographics and races because it was created with data from only white Europeans.</li><li>Measurements that are more accurate than BMI at predicting health outcomes include blood pressure, waist circumference, and cholesterol levels.</li></ul>

Why We Should Not Depend on BMI Only

People should keep track of the following in order to stay healthy. <ul><li>Waist circumference.</li><li>High blood cholesterol.</li><li>Elevated triglycerides.</li><li>High blood pressure.</li><li>High blood sugar.</li></ul>

More Accurate Predictors of Health

<ul><li>Waist circumference: If your circumference is over 34 for a woman or over 39 for a man, you might have increased risk.</li></ul> <ul><li>High blood cholesterol: Overall cholesterol levels higher than 239 mg/dL in men and women can pose a greater risk to health conditions. So, try to maintain below this level.</li></ul> <ul><li>Elevated triglycerides: A type of fat found in your blood, which can be elevated when you eat more calories than you burn. A high level of triglycerides is over 200 mg/dL. Maintain below that.</li></ul>

A Short explanation of the Measurements ( PART 1) 

<ul><li><a href="https://www.insider.com/high-blood-pressure">High blood pressure</a>: When the <a href="https://www.heart.org/en/health-topics/high-blood-pressure">blood flowing</a> through your blood vessels is too high, also known as <a href="http://insider.com/what-is-hypertension">hypertension</a>. High blood pressure is 140/90mmHg.If you are someone who is very thin and you have 110/70 mmHg, then you are fine and healthy ( from another source).</li></ul> <ul><li>High blood sugar: Blood sugar levels<a href="https://www.insider.com/what-is-hyperglycemia"> constantly higher</a> than 125 mg/dL in adults are also known as <a href="https://www.insider.com/what-is-hyperglycemia">hyperglycemia</a>. So try to maintain below that.</li></ul>

A Short explanation of the Measurements ( PART 2) 

BMI is not an accurate way to measure body weight or health because it does not account for body fat percentage or body fat distribution.

BMI is Not Only Sufficient For Overall Fitness and Here's Why

Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize your emotions, understand what they're telling you, and realize how your emotions affect people around you. It also involves your perception of others: when you understand how they feel, this allows you to manage relationships more effectively.

Emotional Intelligence

Emotional intelligence is important in various aspects of our life such as relationships, career, mental health, and decision making.

Emotional Intelligence in Our Lives

Whether you like it or not, being older doesn't mean you are emotionally intelligent. Someone younger than you can be more emotionally intelligent than you.

Age Does Not Mean Emotional Intelligence

Self- Awareness ( the ability to understand and check your state of emotion)Self-Regulation ( the ability to regulate or control your emotions and impulses)Optimism ( the ability to think of the best)Empathy ( the ability to understand others)Social Skills ( the ability to communicate, work together and socialize)

Characteristics of Emotional Intelligence

* Be more open and accepting of others perspectives and needs.* Be aware of your thoughts and feelings when talking with others.* Examine how you react to stressful situations.* Be optimistic.* Be humble. ( Humility leads to greatness)* Maintain your overall health ( Eat a healthy diet, do exercise and maintain your mental health)

How to Improve Your Emotional Intelligence

If you feel like you can't control your emotions at times and you face moments of intense sadness, hopelessness and mental breakdowns, talk to a professional as quickly as possible.

Know That You Don't Know

Some Words of Wisdom- Part 1

Why You Don't Seem Mature to Others and What to Do

How to Adapt With People of Any Age Group

Self-Improvement Ideas from a 21 Year Old

Nafis Rahman