"How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you.”~Rupi Kaur, Milk and Honey.

Understanding Self-Love

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<li>Advocating for your own needs is an important part of self-care. But if you don't believe you're worthy, you won't see your needs as something worth sticking up for.</li>
<li>A lack of self-love can also cause you to be dependent on others around you in an unhealthy way.</li>
<li>Lack of self-love can also impede emotional healing and progress. If you've decided to see a therapist, improving your self-image helps increase the chances that you'll have a good outcome in psychotherapy.</li>
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1. A lack of self-love prevents you from advocating for your needs

Your relationship with your parents affects the development of your character throughout your life. <ul><li>If you had a troubled childhood where your physical, emotional, or mental needs weren't met, you may have issues with self-esteem and self-love as an adult.</li><li>Negative messages received in childhood—particularly recurring ones—often stick with you well into adulthood and color your self-perception.</li></ul>

2. Childhood experiences are imp to ur capacity for self-love

<ul><li>You can't practice self-love in a bubble. Sooner or later, you're going to run into someone who's going to make a rude or critical comment toward you. Instead of letting that send you down a negative spiral, try not to take the comment personally. </li><li>Show kindness for the person's feelings or concerns, rather than reacting to their tone.</li><li>Remind yourself that different people have different things going on in their lives. When someone makes a negative comment toward you, try not to take it personally.</li></ul>

3. Negative comments from others can impact your self-love

<ul><li>If you have kids, do what you can now to help them build healthy self-esteem so that they'll love themselves as adults, even when they're facing challenges. Here are some things you can do</li><li>Praise your child's effort rather than focusing on results. For example, when your kid gets an A on a test, you might say, "I know you worked really hard on that, this shows how much you've learned!"</li><li>Show your child how to do something for themselves rather than doing it for them.</li><li>Focus on your child's strengths rather than their weaknesses and avoid harsh criticism.</li></ul>

Parents can support their children's self-esteem

“If you have the ability to love, love yourself first.”—Charles Bukowski.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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How to Love Yourself 💖 (Part 4)

We all are so deeply interconnected; we have no option but to love all. Be kind and do good for any one and that will be reflected. The ripples of the kind heart are the highest blessings of the Universe.~Amit Ray

~Using Loving-Kindness Meditation (LKM)

This form of meditation enhances the loving-kindness you feel for yourself and for all living things. When practiced regularly, it will give you the tools you need to become proficient in self-love.

1. Explore the principles behind LKM

Loving-kindness doesn't depend on someone's relationship to you or whether they "deserve" it. Rather, it extends to all living beings. It flows from you without any expectation of receiving anything in return.
LKM is also love without judgment. Judging yourself or others often causes misery in relationships with others or within your own mind. When you love without judgment, you love selflessly.

2. Use LKM to love without expectations or conditions

Sit in a comfortable position and draw your attention to your breath. Inhale slowly, allowing your chest to fill completely with air. Then, exhale slowly and completely.
Keep at this for 3 to 5 breaths, keeping your mind focused solely on your breathing. If other thoughts pop up, simply acknowledge them and gently pull your focus back to your breathing.

3. Begin your LKM session by breathing slowly and deeply

As you continue to breathe slowly and deeply, find a positive mantra that resonates with you and uplifts you. It could be something such as, "May I be happy, at peace, and safe from harm."

4. Repeat a positive mantra to yourself

Start with someone who's really made a positive difference in your life—someone you know has your best interests at heart. Imagine them sitting with you and smiling as you repeat your positive mantra to them

5. Think about someone who loves and supports you

Expand from the person who loves you to other people in your life. They could be people you feel neutrally about or even people that you have negative feelings about. Imagine yourself sending loving-kindness to all of those people through your mantra.
Eventually, you can expand to all living things, even people and other beings you've never met before.

6. Send loving-kindness out to others

the god equation is love._____#Love yourself❤️                # Be kind towards others.

How to love yourself 💖 (Part 3)

"It’s all about falling in love with yourself and sharing that love with someone who appreciates you, rather than looking for love to compensate for a self love deficit.”— Eartha Kitt

~Creating Self Love Habits🫶

If you habitually think negatively of yourself, this can be a tough one! Try to come up with just one thing each week to add to the list. Before you know it, you'll have a nice long list to reflect on as you realize what a wonderful and beautiful person you are.

1. List your positive attributes and reflect on them daily.

It's easy to feel guilty about spending time on yourself, but the reality is that this time allows you to recharge so that you're better able to help others. Give yourself permission to spend time reflecting on yourself and your own life, and never feel guilty for taking the time that you need.

2. Take time to reflect & recharge so you have energy for others.

Rewarding yourself is the best part of practicing self-love. When you reward yourself, you're telling yourself that you're worthy of love and special treatment. Just think about how you might celebrate with a friend who'd just accomplished something amazing, then go out and do that for yourself.

3. Celebrate and reward yourself for your accomplishments

The idea of boundaries can sound like a big, scary thing, but it's really just about saying "no" when you don't have the energy or desire to do something. Remember that "no" is a complete sentence—you don't have to explain or justify yourself. Honor and respect your own limits and other people will recognize that you're respecting them as well.

4. Set boundaries with others to love yourself and your limits

Whenever you're having a hard time, whether from a person or something happening in your life, pause and take 10 deep and purposeful breaths. As you breathe in, think about yourself and think that you love yourself. Then breathe out the negativity. After you've done 10 breaths, you might find you want to do 10 more. Just focus on yourself.

5. Develop a plan for dealing with setbacks or negativity.

A professional can help you explore your negative thoughts and identify what brings up those thoughts and feelings. Some of these memories from your past can be tough to deal with on your own, so it's good to have your therapist there to support you and help you work through them.

6. Therapist to reduce the triggers for your negative thought

Find positive thoughts that resonate with you and repeat them to yourself daily. This might seem awkward or cheesy at first, but the habit will cause the positive thoughts to sink in and you'll start to believe those thoughts (even if you don't at first)

7. Repeat positive affirmations daily

Think of things that make you feel good on a physical, emotional, or spiritual level. This might involve exercise, meditation, dancing, journaling, or visual art. Find a routine that feels good and stick to it, taking time for yourself every day.

8. Do things that make you feel good

It's not enough just to do these things—take time to reflect on the changes you notice as well. As you spend more time loving and rewarding yourself, you'll likely start to notice that you have more energy, feel more in charge of the choices you make, and feel like you have more control of your life.

9. Reflect on the effects of practicing self-love

“I learned a long time ago the wisest thing I can do is be on my own side.”
— Maya Angelou

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How to love yourself 💖 (Part 2)

This means you recognize your own self-worth and live your own life as honestly as you can.
● Focus on the things you like about yourself rather than insulting yourself. Talk to yourself like a BFF
● Celebrate your accomplishments and reward yourself for your effort.
● Set healthy boundaries and only help others when you have the energy and interest in doing so. Take care of yourself first and you'll have more love to spread.
● Repeat daily affirmations to remind yourself of your love. When faced with a setback, take 10 deep breaths and think about how much you love yourself.

How To Love Yourself 💖 (Part 1) ~ Treat Yourself With Kindness

Let go of negative thought patterns and beliefs about yourself. Drill down to the core of those negative thoughts and tell yourself a different story. Think about what you would say to a close friend who said those things about themselves.Don't try to fight negative thoughts, though—they're a part of who you are. Simply drown them out with more positive, affirmative thoughts about yourself.

1. Let Go Of Negative Thoughts About Yourself.

Everything you've done and everywhere you've been is a part of who you are—you! 
Self-love isn't about fixing all the "bad" things about yourself. Instead, accept that they're all parts of the same whole. When you love yourself, you love all of you because you wouldn't have the good without the bad.

2. Accept your flaws as part of who you are.

If you expect yourself to be perfect all the time, you'll never be pleased with anything you produce. This can lead to low self-esteem. Instead, make a point to appreciate the work you put into completing a task, rather than looking for flaws in what you produced.

3. Focus on your effort

This should be practiced rather than focusing on the negative things. It's human nature to see negative things as bigger and more important than positive things, but this also does tremendous damage to your self-esteem. When you find yourself focusing on negative or less favorable events in your life, immediately try to name 3 to 5 things that you can be grateful for. Look for the positive side even when bad things happen to you.

4. Practice gratitude for good things

When you call yourself a name, you reduce yourself to a single thing that you don't like—you're not treating yourself as a whole person. If you wouldn't call your best friend these names, don't call yourself those names either!

5. Speak kindly to yourself

This sort of "catastrophizing" is really bad for your self-esteem because you spiral from a small error to basically believing that everything is doomed—and that's rarely the case. Challenge those thoughts with realistic and logical observations to reframe your conclusion.

6. Pull yourself away from assumptions that the worst will happen

When we practice self-love, we accept ourselves for who we are and recognize our worth, which has a healthy impact on our self-esteem😌

Find your way to self-love by taking just a few moments a day to care for and reconnect with yourself The easiest way to love yourself is to treat yourself like your own BFF. It might seem like it's easier to love others than to love...

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It help us understand and be cautious about our approach.Learning which things to not do is as better as learning what steps should be taken.Understanding the habits contributing to failure is crucial for personal and professional growth.bad habits can lead to underachievement, lack of innovation, and diminished productivity at a societal level. Understanding the collective cost of these habits can help underscore the importance of addressing them.

Why Is It Important To Know

Some habits may give us short term benefits but they may be hazardous for long term benefits.It’s important to note that labeling these habits as ‘unsuccessful’ doesn’t equate to labeling the people who possess them as ‘failures.’ Instead, these habits contribute to cycles of non-achievement that anyone can break with awareness and determination.

The Paradox Of Unsuccessful Habits

Postponing tasks ultimately leads to unaccomplished goals.Overcoming procrastination starts with recognizing its existence and developing strategies to combat it, such as breaking down tasks and establishing timelines.

1. Procrastination

2.Lack Of Goal Setting

Successful individuals embrace change, recognizing it as an opportunity for growth. However, those who resist change often find themselves left behind, unable to adapt to new environments, ideas, or circumstances. Becoming open to change involves fostering curiosity, flexibility, and resilience.

3.Resistance To Change

Negativity acts like an energy drainer, not just for the individual but also for those around them. It hampers creativity, reduces motivation, and often leads to poor decision-making. Cultivating positivity starts with changing one’s mindset, practicing gratitude, and surrounding oneself with positive influences.

4.Negativity

poor time management results in missed opportunities, stress, and unachieved goals. Effective time management strategies include prioritizing tasks, avoiding multitasking, and setting aside time for rest and recreation.

5.Poor Time Management

It involves making choices that align with one’s goals, even when they’re the harder choices. A lack of self-discipline can result in missed deadlines, unachieved goals, and unfulfilled potential. Cultivating self-discipline requires consistency, accountability, and a strong understanding of goals and motivations.

6.lack Of Self Discipline

Fear of risks can stifle growth, innovation, and progress. Developing a healthy attitude towards risk involves understanding the difference between recklessness and calculated risk, embracing failure as a learning opportunity, and regularly stepping out of one’s comfort zone.

7.Fear Of Taking Risks

Giving up at the first sign of difficulty rarely leads to achievement. Developing perseverance involves understanding that setbacks are a part of the journey toward success, maintaining a positive attitude even during challenges, and staying focused on the end goal.

8.Lack Of Perseverence

unsuccessful people often fail to learn from them. Repeating the same mistakes leads to stagnation and missed growth opportunities. To learn from mistakes, one must accept responsibility, reflect on what went wrong, and develop strategies.To learn from mistakes, one must accept responsibility, reflect on what went wrong, and develop strategies for avoiding similar errors in the future. This promotes personal growth and builds resilience.

9.Not Learning From Mistales

Self-care is not a luxury but a necessity. Regularly ignoring physical, mental, and emotional health can lead to burnout, illness, and decreased productivity. Effective self-care practices include regular exercise, healthy eating, maintaining work-life balance, and seeking help.

10. Ignoring Self Care

Breaking habits is no easy task. However, with cognitive-behavioral techniques and consistent effort, it’s possible to replace unsuccessful habits with ones that promote achievement. This requires self-awareness, patience, and persistence. Remember, every small change you make can add to a significant transformation.Understanding the habits that hold us back is the first step toward success.

How To Break Them

Learning from mistakes allows you to understand , what you don't want, and what you don't need. It ultimately leads to personal and professional growth.

Everyone has habits, but not all habits lead to success. Understanding the habits contributing to failure is crucial for personal and professional growth.

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"Sadness is but a wall between two gardens." "There is hope, even when your brain tells you there isn't." "Getting better from depression demands a lifelong commitment.

These tips can help you feel better -- starting right now.1. Get in a routine. If you’re depressed, you need a routine, says Ian Cook, MD. He's a psychiatrist and director of the Depression Research and Clinic Program at UCLA.<a href="https://www.webmd.com/depression/understanding-depression-basics">Depression </a>can strip away the structure from your life. One day melts into the next. Setting a gentle daily schedule can help you get back on track.

2. Set goals. When you're depressed, you may feel like you can't accomplish anything. That makes you feel worse about yourself. To push back, set daily goals for yourself."Start very small," Cook says. "Make your goal something that you can succeed at, like doing the dishes every other day." As you start to feel better, you can add more challenging daily goals.

3. Exercise. It temporarily boosts feel-good chemicals called endorphins. It may also have long-term benefits for people with depression. Regular <a href="https://www.webmd.com/fitness-exercise/default.htm">exercise </a>seems to encourage the <a href="https://www.webmd.com/brain/picture-of-the-brain">brain </a>to rewire itself in positive ways, Cook says.How much exercise do you need? You don’t need to run marathons to get a benefit. Just walking a few times a week can help.

4. Eat healthy. There is no magic diet that fixes depression. It's a good idea to watch what you eat, though. If depression tends to make you overeat, getting in control of your eating will help you feel better.Although nothing is definitive, Cook says there's evidence that foods with omega-3 fatty acids (such as salmon and tuna) and folic acid (such as spinach and avocado) could help ease depression.

5. Get enough sleep. Depression can make it hard to get enough shut-eye, and too little sleep can make depression worse. What can you do? Start by making some changes to your lifestyle. Go to bed and get up at the same time every day. Try not to nap. Take all the distractions out of your bedroom -- no computer and no TV. In time, you may find your sleep improves.

6. Take on responsibilities. When you’re depressed, you may want to pull back from life and give up your responsibilities at home and at work. Don't. Staying involved and having daily responsibilities can help you maintain a lifestyle that can help counter depression. They ground you and give you a sense of accomplishment.If you're not up to full-time school or work, that’s fine. Think about part-time. If that seems like too much, consider volunteer work.

7. Challenge negative thoughts. In your fight against depression, a lot of the work is mental -- changing how you think. When you're depressed, you leap to the worst possible conclusions. The next time you're feeling terrible about yourself, use logic as a natural depression treatment. You might feel like no one likes you, but is there real evidence for that? You might feel like the most worthless person on the planet, but is that really likely? It takes practice, but in time you can beat back those negative thoughts before they get out of control.

8. Check with your doctor before using supplements. "There's promising evidence for certain <a href="https://www.webmd.com/vitamins-and-supplements/lifestyle-guide-11/default.htm">supplements </a>for depression," Cook says. Those include fish oil, folic acid, and SAMe. But more research needs to be done before we'll know for sure. Always check with your doctor before starting any supplement, especially if you’re already taking medications.

9. Do something new. When you’re depressed, you’re in a rut. Push yourself to do something different. Go to a museum. Pick up a used book and read it on a park bench. Volunteer at a soup kitchen. Take a language class. "When we challenge ourselves to do something different, there are chemical changes in the brain," Cook says. "Trying something new alters the levels of [the brain chemical] dopamine, which is associated with pleasure, enjoyment, and learning."

10. Try to have fun. If you’re depressed, make time for things you enjoy. What if nothing seems fun anymore? "That's just a symptom of depression," Cook says. You have to keep trying anyway.As strange as it might sound, you have to work at having fun. Plan things you used to enjoy, even if they feel like a chore. Keep going to the movies. Keep going out with friends for dinner.

11. Avoid alcohol and other drugs. Substance misuse is common in people who have depression. You may be more likely to turn to <a href="https://www.webmd.com/food-recipes/rm-quiz-alcohol-myths-facts">alcohol </a>, <a href="https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/addiction/marijuana-use-and-its-effects">marijuana </a>, or other drugs to deal with the symptoms of your depression. It’s unclear if drinking and using drugs causes depression. But long-term drug use could change the way your brain works and worsen or lead to <a href="https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/default.htm">mental health </a>problems.When you're depressed, you can lose the knack for enjoying life, Cook says. You have to relearn how to do it. In time, fun things really will feel fun again.

You must have gone or will be going through a phase in your life with some stress, burden.It may lead to depression.But at such times you should remember that it's just a phase.This shall too pass.It's very important to cope up with depression.It can lead to physical as we'll as mental illness.

Being depressed can make you feel helpless. You're not. Along with therapy and sometimes medication, there's a lot you can do on your own to fight back. Changing your behavior -- your physical activity, lifestyle, and even your way of thinking -- are all natural depression treatments.

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Does the “you” that you present to the world match who you really are?

There are 6 parts, each with 6 questions for you to complete on your own. You’ll want to think deeply about each question, and write down your answers so you can look back on them. To do this well, each section should take around 15-20 minutes. Not up to writing it out? That’s OK; just pondering these questions will encourage you to think about them throughout your day. In any case, I’d suggest doing one section a day to give yourself more time to reflect. (If you’re short on time, you could focus only on the starred items.) This is a chance to get reacquainted with the real you. It’s a reality check to remind you who you are at your core. Answering them should be breeze, but note any areas that give you pause.

This is a chance to get reacquainted with the real you. It’s a reality check to remind you who you are at your core. Answering them should be breeze, but note any areas that give you pause.1. List 5 adjectives or traits that describe you.*2. List 5 roles that you fulfill.3. List 5 of your skills and abilities.4. List 5 of your possessions that provide insight into who you are as a person.5. List 5 life experiences that have helped define who you are.*6. List 5 attributes that your closest friends and family would say describe you.

Part 1. Your Essentials: Who Are You Today?  

7. When you think about who you are, what aspects of your  personality are most clear to you?*8. In what ways does the “you” that you present to the world match who you really are?*9. Think of three examples of when you stayed true to yourself despite societal or peer pressure. How can you continue to do this?10. What are three of your most important personal values, and how can standing by these beliefs benefit you in the future?11. What aspects of your personality stay the same regardless of the situation?

2.Your Authenticity: What Do You Know About Yourself For Sure?

12. Look at the “your essentials” lists that you’ve created for questions 1 to 6 in Part I. Do any of these traits conflict with who you think you are? If they do, how can you be more consistent?

13. What are your three best qualities?14. If you compare yourself to others you know, what are you especially good at?15. In what ways is your life better than the lives of other people you know?16. List three things about yourself that make you proud.*17. Describe three of your greatest accomplishments in life. What’s your next big goal?18. What things do you struggle with? Do you know anyone else who shares these struggles?

Part 3. Your Self-Esteem:How Well Do You Know What You Stand Fo

19. List three things you enjoy but don’t get much opportunity to do. What steps can you take to do these things more often?*20. What parts of who you are as a person have fallen by the wayside? What can you do to help bring them back?*21. In what ways have you put others’ needs ahead of your own? How can you restore the balance and start focusing on your own needs more?22. How can you make time in your schedule this weekend for at least one hobby you haven’t had time for recently?

Part 4. Remembering the Way You Were

23. Think back to the type of person you wanted to be when you graduated from high school. What positive attributes did you have that you don’t think you have now? How can you rediscover these today?24. Spend an afternoon looking through photo albums and reading old journals. In what ways could you benefit from becoming reacquainted with the person you were in the past?

In what ways does your job help you improve as a person? How can you ensure that this will continue in the future?What types of new and interesting things do you learn at your job? How have these experiences benefited youWhat new responsibilities that you’ve taken on at work do you enjoy? In what ways have these made you more effective at your job.How could you make the boring part of your work more interestingIn the past five years, what new skills have you acquired at work? How have these been beneficialLooking ahead to the next five years, what additional areas of expertise can you develop?

Part 5. Your Work Life: How Can You Get the Most Out of Your Job

31. What are three new and interesting activities you could try? Which of them could you start next week?32. What are three topics you would like to learn about? Create an action plan for deepening your understanding of at least one.33. Challenge yourself to improve in three ways this month. What steps can you take toward accomplishing each?

6.Your Future: How Can You Become an Improved Version of You

34. Which three places would you like to visit in the future? What could you learn from visiting each place?35. In what ways have you improved as a person over the past five years? How has this helped shape who you are today?*36. Think about ways in which you could grow as a person over the next five years. How will this help you reach your full potential?*

Working through these questions will provide you with the opportunity to gain greater insights into yourself and enhance your self-knowledge. That’s important because being more clear about the self is linked to greater life satisfaction, happiness, better mood, and lower stress. As Aristotle said, “Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.”


These guided reflections spark insight that will help you better know yourself.

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let's go to the neuroscience: five specific tricks to improve memory and recall things better.

Researchers from the University of Roehampton in London divided their subjects into three groups.In Group 1, participants were asked to complete their task while walking forward.In Group 2, participants completed the same tasks while walking backward.In Group 3, participants acted as a control group, doing the same tasks but standing still.Results-The walking backward group (Group 2) recalled the task they did.

1.Walk Backward

<ul><li>massive study of 27,842 conducted by researchers associated with the Harvard School of Public Health, which found a link between diet and memory.</li><li>it's consumption of fruits and vegetables while young that counts the most.</li><li>you can't live on unhealthy food for 50 or 60 years and then make up for it by tripling down in your later years.</li></ul>

2.Eat Fruits And Vegetables

laboratory study out of Michigan State University determined that working in an environment with dim lighting can "change the brain's structure and hurt one's ability to remember and learn."<ul><li>Half of a group of Nile grass rats were kept in an environment with dim lighting. </li><li>The other half of the group of rats lived in an environment with much brighter lighting. </li></ul>In the end, the rats in the dim light "lost about 30 percent of capacity in the hippocampus, a critical brain region for learning and memory, and performed poorly on a spatial task they had trained on previously," according to the study.

3.Get Better Lightening

study out of King's College London. Researchers here wanted to determine if intermittent fasting might spur hippocampal neurogenesis  and improve the memory performance of lab mice.<ul><li>A control group of mice who were treated and fed as always</li><li>A calorie-restricted group (CR), for which daily food intake was reduced by 10%</li><li>An intermittent fasting group (IF), for which food was similarly reduced, but that were fed only every other day during the study.</li></ul>results-The study found that the intermittent fasting group had "improved long-term memory retention compared to the other groups."

4.Try Intermittent Fast

Neuroscientists at Trinity College in Dublin surmised recently in the journal Nature Reviews Neuroscience that forgetfulness has a lot more to do with inability to access memories, as opposed to whether the memories were still physically stored in the brain.These researchers say it might be a net positivebest advice here might simply be not to worry about normal memory loss.Instead, accept it as a normal, healthy part of brain function--but also shore up your important memories with checklists, calendars, and other tools.

5.Don't Worry

Let's go to the neuroscience: five specific tricks to improve memory and recall things better.

Keep Forgetting Things? Neuroscience Says These 5 Habits Improve Memory and Leadership

Be wise today so you don't have to cry tomorrow.~E.A.Bucchianeri

Some decisions are so simple that you're barely aware you're making them, while others are time consuming, high risk, and can leave you feeling anxious.Decisions can make or break a project or an entire business. And they often involve complex and unpredictable interpersonal issues, too.

<ol><li>Investigate the situation in detail.</li><li>Create a constructive environment.</li><li>Generate good alternatives.</li><li>Explore your options.</li><li>Select the best solution.</li><li>Evaluate your plan.</li><li>Communicate your decision, and take action.</li></ol>

A 7 Step Decision Making Strategy

This process will ensure that you make a good decision in a complex situation, but it may be unnecessarily complicated for small or simple decisions. In these cases, jump to Step 5.

Note

Start by considering the decision in the context of the problem it is intended to address. You need to determine whether the stated problem is the real issue, or just a symptom of something deeper.Look beyond the obivious

1.Investigate the situation in detail.

Can you give your decision the attention it needs? Spend some time preparing yourself before diving in to the facts and figures.Remember that most decisions will affect other people too, so it helps to create a constructive environment in which to explore the situation together.This is especially true when you have to rely on other people to implement a decision that you're responsible for. You'll need to identify who to include in the process and who will be part of any final decision-making group.Enable people to contribute to the discussions without any fear of the other participants.

2.Create a constructive environment.

The wider the options you explore, the better your final decision is likely to be. Generating a number of different options may seem to make your decision more complicated at first, but the act of coming up with alternatives forces you to look at the problem from different angles.These can help you to step outside your normal patterns of thinking and come up with some truly innovative solutions.Brainstorming is probably the most popular method of generating ideas.

3.Generate good alternatives.

When you're satisfied that you have a good selection of realistic alternatives, it's time to evaluate the feasibility, risks and implications of each one.Almost every decision involves some degree of risk. You'll need a structured approach for assessing threats and evaluating the probability of adverse events occurring – and what they might cost to manage. You'll also want to examine the ethical impact of each option, and how that might sit with your personal and organizational values.

4.Explore your options.

the next step is to make your decision!If you have various criteria to consider, use Decision Matrix Analysis to compare them reliably and rigorously. Or, if you want to determine which ones should carry most weight in your decision, conduct a Paired Comparison Analysis.If your decision is being made within a group, techniques such as multi-voting and the Modified Borda Count can help you.When anonymity is important, decision-makers dislike one another, or there is a tendency for certain individuals to dominate the process, use the Delphi Technique to reach a fair and impartial decision.

5.Select the best solution.

The Delphi technique is a process used to arrive at a group opinion or decision by surveying a panel of experts. Experts respond to several rounds of questionnaires, and the responses are aggregated and shared with the group after each round.

What Is Delphi Technique

Now, more than ever, is the time to "sense check" your decision. Before you start to implement your decision, take a long, dispassionate look at it to be sure that you have been thorough, and that common errors haven't crept into the process.Your final decision is only as good as the facts and research you used to make it. Make sure that your information is trustworthy, and that you've done your best not to "cherry pick" data. This will help you avoid confirmation bias, a common psychological bias in decision making.

6.Evaluate your plan.

Discuss your preliminary conclusions with important stakeholders to enable them to spot flaws, make recommendations, and support your conclusions. Listen to your own intuition, too, and quietly and methodically test assumptions and decisions against your own experience. Use Blindspot Analysis to review whether you've fallen prey to problems like over-confidence, escalating commitment, or groupthink. And consider checking the logical structure of your process with the Ladder of Inference, to make sure that a well-founded and consistent decision emerges at the end.

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Once you've made your decision, you need to communicate it to everyone affected by it in an engaging, informative and inspiring way.Get them involved in implementing the solution by discussing how and why you arrived at your decision. The more information you provide about risks and projected benefits, the more likely people will be to support it.If people point out a flaw in your process as a result, have the humility  to welcome their input and review your plans appropriately – it's much better to do this now, cheaply, than having to do it expensively if your plans have failed.

7.Communicate your decision, and take action.

Taking right decision plays a very crucial role in one's life because life is a matter of choices and every choice you make makes you.❤

Use this seven-step process to make effective, rational decisions in an impartial and comprehensive way.

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