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Simplifying the Complex

We often face complex situations and ambiguity in our daily lives, and feel perplexed and stuck. Complex topics hinder our work and we long to connect the dots and make sense of the thing we are wrestling with.

Certain experts have the knack of making the complex sound simple and easy to understand, much like a math teacher at school who makes sure one can understand tricky algebra and trigonometry.

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How the Experts Make the Complex Simple


Talking Meditation

Talking meditation involves speaking slowly and taking time to process the other person's message.

Many people speak quickly, without thinking deeply about their responses in conversation. Making communication a more sacred act can strengthen relationships and increase intimacy.

Handling a technical breakdown gracefully

The world we live in is controlled by technology, such as live streaming, virtual backgrounds, teleconferencing apps. While this is remarkable, it also comes with the potential for unexpected problems.

In the virtual world, we will face sudden mishaps at the most inopportune moments. When this happens to you, you'll need to know how to handle it gracefully, especially if it happens at work.

Your Screen Froze Again — In the Middle of an Important Meeting


Awkward silence is a tool for emotional intelligence

The rule of awkward silence: When you are faced with a challenging question, instead of immediately attempting an answer, take your time - about 15 seconds or longer - to think deeply before you share your thoughts.

While it may feel awkward at first, it is an excellent way to build emotional intelligence - the ability to identify, understand, and manage emotions.

Why Brilliant Minds Embrace the Rule of Awkward Silence | Inc.com


Debating Can Be Really Fun

But it can become a problem when you become obsessed with sharing your opinions - when you won't "give up" until you've made your point to the nth degree.

Online arguments can consume hours, even days. If you find yourself in a situation where online fighting is taking so much time that it's wrecking your work and life, it's time to get some perspective.

How to Stop Getting Into Pointless Arguments Online


Too shy to talk

Fear holds us back from forging a bond. People tend to choose to speak to people through emails and text because they feel that actually talking to them would be awkward and that they could be misunderstood.

However experiments show surprising results: "People reported forming a "significantly stronger bond with their old friend on the phone versus email, and they did not feel more awkward".

Talk more, type less: Talking on the phone is good for you


Writing down our memories

There is a difference between seeing - which is passive - and writing down something you have seen, something you have heard, something you have experienced. Writing it down captures the memory and acknowledges its existence.

Anne Frank (though her diary) is one of the best examples we have in history of someone bearing witness. She simply wrote down what was happening to her family, giving us a very intimate record of her family during one of the worst periods of our world's history.

How writing about difficult experiences can help you take back your power


Traits Of Engaging Conversationalists
  1. They display genuine interest in what their partner is saying. They actively listen, rather than simply waiting for their own turn to speak.
  2. They demonstrate attention by looking directly at the speaker.
  3. They ask questions and go deeper into topics of others to not monopolize the exchange.
  4. They can skip the small talk for more substantial matters.
  5. They entertain and engage by telling stories and are good at bringing them up in conversations.
  6. They pay attention to their energy, body language and tone of voice to bring their statements to life.
  7. To avoid losing the focus and attention of their conversational partner, they keep the conversation flowing and don’t pause for too long or focus on dull topics. 

7 Habits of Irresistibly Engaging Conversationalists


Recap And Reinforce

Recap or summarize your content for your audience, reviewing and reinforcing your key points.

People in the audience generally have short attention spans and this will help drive in your key points to them.

Stop Ending Your Speeches With 'Any Questions' and End With This Instead



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