How to make friends as an adult: 3 psychology-backed tips

For most of us, obligations increase with age: demanding work schedules, involved family lives and so on; with these obligations it can be hard to carve out time to invest in a promising new friend-- to really get to know them and to share a part of you with them.

So how long does it take for people to become friends? US researchers have tried to quantify this: roughly 50 hrs of shared contact for acquaintances to become casual friends. More than 200 hrs to become close friends? Even longer in Asian countries where personal connection is important, professional interactions with colleagues don't count and casual check-ins and joking around are just as important.

There are many other barriers stopping us from having the friendships we want.

• Having an introverted personality
• health barriers
• personal insecurities
• maintaining a formal facade and not allowing potential friends in (fornfear of rejection)
• Illness and disability (Older people)

1. BUILD FRIENDSHIPS FOR TEN MINUTES A DAY

Ten min a day may be all you need to maintain existing friendships and build new ones. Send a text, forward a meme, add to the group chat or give someone a quick call.

2. MAKE THE MOST OF ANY TIME SPENT WITH POTENTIAL FRIENDS

When you do get the chance to properly spend time with a friend or acquaintance, make the most of it and be present. Avoid distractions if possible, keep social media for the couch at home.

Yes, there is a risk in being vulnerable – but there is also the potential to connect on a meaningful level with another person who may very well become a good friend. You are in control of how much you trust and how much you open up. If you struggle with trust, share personal information slowly. A friend who truly likes you wouldn't pry.