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7 Tips for Saying No Effectively

https://www.inc.com/jonathan-alpert/7-ways-to-say-no-to-someone-and-not-feel-bad-about-it.html

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7 Tips for Saying No Effectively
I recently received an email from an acquaintance asking if he could stay with me while visiting New York City. Mind you, this was someone who I wasn't very close to, and he had the means to book a hotel. I simply did not feel comfortable having him stay.

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7 Tips for Saying No Effectively

  1. Say it. Don't delay and don't try making excuses because that puts people in a place to ask more. Provide a brief explanation.
  2. Be assertive and courteous You might say, "...

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