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7 Tips for Saying No Effectively
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7 Tips for Saying No Effectively
- Say it. Don't delay and don't try making excuses because that puts people in a place to ask more. Provide a brief explanation.
- Be assertive and courteous You might say, "...
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Just be there
Empathize
Try, “You are in a tough situation"; Sounds like you’re between a rock and a hard place"; or "I’m so sorry you have to face this kind of problem right now.”
Use the skill of tentativeness
“Tentative” means “not fully worked out, uncertain, or hesitant."
Instead of assuming an expert stance, offer observations with a “beginner’s mind.” For example, say, “I’m not sure, but perhaps you worry that…”; or, “If you felt comfortable doing it, you could consider trying ….”
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Shared Culture in Personal Relations
One of the reasons for bonding between groups of people is the shared culture that they have created. Culture is an invisible presence, a set of beliefs, history and rituals that encapsulates the values of the group, their conduct and their vision. This applies to movements, companies, and families.
Large Groups Vs Small
A culture created in a two-way relationship or a small group is positive and open because it allows for differences to exist, which are not allowed by large groups in which cultures are attached to your identity.
Creating the right kind of culture organically is the magic of a strong relationship, something that is difficult in large groups with a shared ideology.
Connections and Happiness
The idea of a complete and fulfilling life is always related to personal relationships. Happiness, in a way, is the other person. Happiness is our connections, and the relationships we foster, which create and shape us.
It's a lost art to cultivate personal relationships without agenda or motive, just connecting and trying to understand and relate to different people.
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Cluttered digital lives
If people's physical lives were anywhere near as cluttered as their digital lives, their kitchen sinks would be full of dishes, their closets would be jammed, and their houses would be in chaos.
But our digital lives are limited to our devices, so we don't notice how messy they are. Our news feeds are filled with updates we don't care about. We're subscribed to 100 podcasts but listen to only a few.
Become a Digital Minimalist
We can reclaim our time and our attention. Unlike a physical space, we can wipe the slate clean in our digital environment.
If you clear apps from your phone, nothing will happen. You can always reinstall the ones you use.
Digital Declutter
- Clear your browser history.
- Unsubscribe from newsletters, podcasts, blogs, and anything else you consume.
- Delete all the apps that are currently on your phone and desktop or laptop (as long as you don’t have to buy a new version of anything).