8 behaviours that instantly increase your perceived value

Ok, wise guy — I didn’t say don’t smile at all, so don’t give me shit for this. Also, this applies far more to men than women.

A non-smiley man is mysterious and often sexy to ladies.

Not the case for women.

If you NEVER smile, however, regardless of sex, you just seem miserable and thus lower in social standing.

However, if you’re sparing with your smiles, you actually come across as more authentic — they did studies on this.

Plus, when you DO smile, its effect is magnified, which melts hearts.

You must look your best physically, given the cards you were dealt.

I’m sorry that human nature is the way it is and things aren’t fair, but nature is not fair.

There is a lot, however, we can do to improve our looks through losing that extra weight,, getting a haircut, fixing our teeth, and so on.

Slovenly-looking schlubs are simply more likely to be viewed as lower status.

If you take care of yourself others will take care of you.

Talking and moving a fraction slower tells us this: you don’t rush for anyone; you’re comfortable in your skin and have faith that things will work out. Rushers are subservient to time.

Slow movers have the world mould to their reality.

The other advantage of this, beyond attracting attention as a high-value person, is that everything becomes easier.

Rushing complicates, and it also puts others at ease.

Whether we like it or not, an unironed shirt suggests you care less than the guy standing tall with an ironed shirt and clean shoes.

Tidy up before you head out the door. Comb your knotted hair. Wash out the stains on your trousers.

Tiny changes — major influence.

You needn’t be combative, critical or judgemental. I’m talking about being a little slower to agree with those you’re with.

Give what people are saying some thought.

Allow for some space in conversations.

Be ok with silence.

It is implied through behaviour, mannerisms, and what isn’t said. True ‘high status’ isn’t a material thing at all — it’s far more to do with one’s character.

The high-status individual cares more that they win while others are also winning.

So they focus their attention on what’s good about other people and make a point of making others feel important.

This is highly respectable. In this way, you can be broke but possess status through how you relate to people.

Why?

Because leaders have the power to lift those around them; otherwise, they couldn’t make any impact.

This is highly attractive and can take courage, especially when stressed.

You will stand out when you can keep things light and motivate people to act, no matter the situation.