Some Thought Errors

Definition : Thinking that people judge and underestimate you even though there is no evidence.

The logical answer to mind reading is: If you don't know the other person, he doesn't know you either. Although the rate varies depending on the person, everyone approaches the person they don't know with suspicion, maybe a little fear. Before you even talk, instead of imposing a number of meanings and emotions on them, calmly remember these facts. 

1. Even if the person sitting in front of you looks aggressive or very strong, he is a mortal person after all. 

2. You want to decide how people will see you, you are intimidated by the possibility that they will see you differently. But you can't determine that. You can determine how you look at yourself, how you look at others. The slightest touch cannot be made to the rest. So you understand, you're playing in the wrong arena, change the arena.

Definition : Exaggerating the danger.

The logical response to excessive magnification : A person usually exaggerates the problems he has experienced for the first time. He is more afraid because he does not know. The solution to this problem is to get help from someone who has experienced this problem before or is currently experiencing it.

Definition : To interpret the truth according to the feeling felt, I mean to show the feeling felt as evidence and comment on the real world, for example, I am afraid, so I am in danger.

Logical answer 1 : When a person gets lost in his own thoughts instead of turning to the environment, the mind makes unlimited tides between the past and the future, and a person remains alien to the reality of the situation in Dec. The feeling felt in such a situation is really disconnected and with an intensity incompatible with everyday life.

Logical answer 2: Emotion is actually not something to care about that much. Emotions are uncontrollable. If an interpretation of the truth is to be made, it is done calmly and seriously. Moreover, if we look at my own life from the past to the present, the truth often reveals the lie of emotions. In conclusion, I can say that, being not feelings, but evidence of the truth, they can hardly even agree with each other.

You criticize yourself and other people using phrases such as "it is necessary, it is necessary". For example, "I shouldn't feel embarrassed and nervous like that. What's wrong with me?"

The logical answer is : The sentence of necessity is restrictive and ignores willpower by its very nature. What needs to be done is not done, you choose to do what you think is right to do. There are no obligations in this life, there are only consequences, and you are the one who makes a choice taking into account these consequences. As long as you stand behind the choice you made, act however you want.

Definition : You generalize a single mistake or deficiency to your entire identity. Instead of saying "I made a mistake", you label yourself as a "hopeless case". This is an extreme image of overgeneralization.

The logical Answer is: Labeling is a mistake. Labeling can be used when defining behaviors, but it is incomplete because labeling a person means ignoring all the other characteristics of that person.

Definition : Instead of identifying the cause of the problem, you choose to blame.

Rational Answer: Self-blame is a behavior that makes it difficult to analyze and prepare a plan of action. If there is a bad situation, the wrong done and the cost of this wrong are determined. An action plan is prepared and implemented. If there is no mistake, that is, if the other party's reaction has caused this thought, the importance and principles of border protection are remembered, and if necessary, this situation is reminded to the other person.