You either bring your partner up, or weigh them down. The hope is that you are both evenly weighted enough of the time to balance the scales.

Relationships are like weighing scales

Not for the physicality of it, but for the labour of clearing your mind of every other domestic distraction, to allow yourself to relax enough to enjoy it.

Sex in marriage is hard work

<div>December 9, 2022</div><img alt="facebook sharing button" src="https://platform-cdn.sharethis.com/img/facebook.svg" width="16" height="16"><img alt="twitter sharing button" src="https://platform-cdn.sharethis.com/img/twitter.svg" width="16" height="16"><img alt="whatsapp sharing button" src="https://platform-cdn.sharethis.com/img/whatsapp.svg" width="16" height="16">1. Don’t exercise to be thin. Exercise to be strong. &nbsp;2. The best place for ideas is alone and on the move.3. Start or end every day with writing about your life. There’s always something buried underneath the to do list in your head, something you didn’t realise you felt, that when written down, will make everything clearer. 4. Relationships are like weighing scales. You either bring your partner up, or weigh them down. The hope is that you are both evenly weighted enough of the time to balance the scales. 5. Sex in marriage is hard work. Not for the physicality of it, but for the labour of clearing your mind of every other domestic distraction, to allow yourself to relax enough to enjoy it. 6. Always consider a pet before having one more kid. 7. In your mid forties, you will experience irrational weight gain. Out of nowhere, for no reason at all, a spare tyre of flesh will arrive around your waist. 8. Sometimes in life, the best thing to do, is to buy a pair of bigger jeans. 9. You know you’re in a long term relationship when alongside the empathy you have for your partner's sadness, you feel irritation. Because their sadness directly affects yours. 10. The small details of your day matter. Be it your first cup of coffee in the morning, &nbsp;or the way you make your bed, or a walk through the park on the way to work, life is year upon year of stacked up small joys like these. Take pleasure and pride in them. &nbsp;11. Allow friendships to come and go. Don’t cling onto friendships because they are old. Cling on to them because they bring you joy and comfort and laughter. 12. Yes people are busy, but if you try to make an arrangement with someone three times and it doesn’t happen, then that person doesn’t want to be available to you. 13. It’s important to know when to walk away. Life’s too short to have someone else make you feel shit about yourself. 14. Everyone should go on a course before becoming parents, to find out exactly how their own parents traumatised them. 15. Change is good when it’s enforced by you. Take the reins of it. Push into it. Know as much as you can about where you’re going but you’ll never know everything and that’s a good thing.16. Stay curious. The kids in your life are good for that. Put your phone down and tune into their play. Even better, join in.17. All kids ever want is you. Your full undivided attention. Even twenty minutes of that in a day is better than a whole afternoon of scrappy conversations and phone scrolling. 18. Put your phone down. &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;Put your phone down. &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;Put your phone down. 19. And if you pick it up. It’s always, always okay to leave a WhatsApp group. No guilt. No shame. Exit group. Goodbye. ‍

Don’t exercise to be thin. Exercise to be strong. The best place for ideas is alone and on the move. Start or end every day with writing about your life. Take what’s in your head and type it out, even if you don’t feel like you are thinking anything of note. There’s always something buried underneath the to do list in your head, something you didn’t realise you felt, that when written down, will make everything clearer.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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1. Don’t exercise to be thin. Exercise to be strong.

2. The best place for ideas is alone and on the move.

3. Start or end every day with writing about your life. There’s always something buried underneath the to do list in your head, something you didn’t realise you felt, that when written down, will make everything clearer.

4. Relationships are like weighing scales. You either bring your partner up, or weigh them down. The hope is that you are both evenly weighted enough of the time to balance the scales.

5. Sex in marriage is hard work. Not for the physicality of it, but for the labour of clearing your mind of every other domestic distraction, to allow yourself to relax enough to enjoy it.

6. Always consider a pet before having one more kid.

7. In your mid forties, you will experience irrational weight gain. Out of nowhere, for no reason at all, a spare tyre of flesh will arrive around your waist.

8. Sometimes in life, the best thing to do, is to buy a pair of bigger jeans.

9. You know you’re in a long term relationship when alongside the empathy you have for your partner's sadness, you feel irritation. Because their sadness directly affects yours.

10. The small details of your day matter. Be it your first cup of coffee in the morning,  or the way you make your bed, or a walk through the park on the way to work, life is year upon year of stacked up small joys like these. Take pleasure and pride in them.

11. Allow friendships to come and go. Don’t cling onto friendships because they are old. Cling on to them because they bring you joy and comfort and laughter.

12. Yes people are busy, but if you try to make an arrangement with someone three times and it doesn’t happen, then that person doesn’t want to be available to you.

13. It’s important to know when to walk away. Life’s too short to have someone else make you feel shit about yourself.

14. Everyone should go on a course before becoming parents, to find out exactly how their own parents traumatised them.

15. Change is good when it’s enforced by you. Take the reins of it. Push into it. Know as much as you can about where you’re going but you’ll never know everything and that’s a good thing.

16. Stay curious. The kids in your life are good for that. Put your phone down and tune into their play. Even better, join in.

17. All kids ever want is you. Your full undivided attention. Even twenty minutes of that in a day is better than a whole afternoon of scrappy conversations and phone scrolling.

19. And if you pick it up. It’s always, always okay to leave a WhatsApp group. No guilt. No shame. Exit group. Goodbye.

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Relationships are like weighing scales

Sex in marriage is hard work

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