Juliana 90's Key Ideas from The Art of Witty Banter
by Patrick King

Practicing free association is an excellent foundation for good conversation because conversation is about relating unrelated ideas, making connections, and going with the flow of topics.

Here's How to Practice:

Write 5 random words on a piece of paper. They can be anything—like a thing, action, memory, or feeling.

For example, if you write "napkin," quickly write down 3 things related to it. Then, take the last word you wrote and think of 3 things related to that word. Do this 3 times, then move on to the next set of words.

The layman’s explanations are the first step to a double explanation.

• Your goal is to give information in an interesting and unique way. 

For example, when somebody asks, "What do you do?”

Your answer should be concise and engaging, like "I file paperwork for a living" or "I’m paid to argue with people," instead of a dull response like "I’m a lawyer."

You get people curious. You get them to open up about what you have to say.

The second step involves the expert explanation.

• Your goal is to draw their attention, opening up the conversation to deeper levels of engagement. 

The first thing you need to focus on is what to compliment other people on. 

• You have to choose things to praise others for that they genuinely care about.

Focus your compliments on two key areas: things people can control, like their clothing, style, hairstyle, and living space, and things they've made conscious choices about.

• It's important not to overdo it; too many compliments might come across as insincere or overwhelming.

When sincere, people feel comfortable and flattered, which encourages them to open up.