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Some are useful, and some are useless fears that you can't or shouldn't do anything about.
They sap your strength for no reason, and you should put those fears in their place. Worrying about a comet striking Earth falls in this category.
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In scuba diving, for instance, fear can cause you to breathe too fast, swim too hard, move too suddenly, fail to take note of your surroundings, or rise too quickly toward the surface.
Knowing that fear has the potential to harm you can help you set it aside. Fold up that fear, put it in a box, and promise you'll get back to it later at a less dangerous time.
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You may think it's your judgment deciding that something is dangerous and you should be afraid, but what actually happens is that fear chemicals are flooding into your brain.
Experiments have shown that fear can be induced artificially by injecting certain chemicals. Do the chemicals know what you should and shouldn't be afraid of? They don't. You do.
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The more we stick with what's familiar, the more frightened we'll be every time we encounter the unfamiliar.
Seek out unfamiliar territory--try new things, stretch yourself professionally, risk being seen as a fool.
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Focus on problem solving, such as doing a crossword puzzle, bookkeeping, responding to business emails, or other such emotionally neutral activity.
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Naming your fears always takes some of the power out of them.
Telling someone what you're most afraid of can be a great way to cut those fears down. It's also very helpful to write them down. It will cause your brain to come up with solutions and backup plans.
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Give yourself permission to wallow in your worries for a specified time. When it is over, tell yourself that you are now finished with useless fear.
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Fear is everywhere and yet fear can be overcome, controlled and can even be a power for good.
Accept your fear relative to you.
Could that really happen?
By seeing fear as not the end destination but part of being human, you can see through its wily evil ways and move forward.
Think of someone you can always rely on, be it your friend, partner, colleague, parent, sibling and say: “Right I need to deal with this, and I’m going to need you to help me.”
They, in turn, will feel valued, loved and respected.
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Public speaking is often topping the charts as the No. 1 fear in the world.
People feel anxious, sweaty, or have a pounding heart while being on stage in front of an audience.
A great way to remove a large portion of fear is to practice hard, studying the topic well. You can research all questions that the audience may ask, and practice the speech in front of a mirror or in front of friends.
Practicing soothes our nerves, making us ready for the final audience.
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Any decision as big as moving abroad is bound to spark fear: The timing will never feel perfect. It will always be hard to leave family and friends, and your career will always be in f...
Careful planning can cancel out many of the common fears around moving abroad, including fears about your career or the fear of being lonely.
The movie-like approach of "pick a place you think you might like, save money, buy a one-way ticket and hope that you will get a job once you are there" might not work for you if you are held out by fears.
There is always a chance that moving abroad won't work out as you imagined.
Realize that this won't be the end of the world. You can always go back home, or you can always move to another city or country. This is not your only shot, and if you decide your new home isn't for you, it's perfectly okay to reconsider.