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13 Tips to Face Your Fears, Grow with Them and Enjoy the Ride

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13 Tips to Face Your Fears, Grow with Them and Enjoy the Ride
Fear. I spend my life talking about fear - fighting fears, fixing fears and understanding fears. And yet I doubt I get 10 calls a year from people saying "Mandie can you help me fix my fear?" Why is this so critically important to you?

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Fear Is Real

Fear is everywhere and yet fear can be overcome, controlled and can even be a power for good.

Accept your fear relative to you.

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Get Some Perspective

  • Are you really at risk?
  • Will this kill you?
  • If the worse was to happen what would it be?
  • Could that really happen?

  • If the worse did happen, how would you recover?
  • If the worse were to happen, what would you need to do next?

By seeing fear as not the end destination but part of being human, you can see through its wily evil ways and move forward.

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Hold a Hand

Think of someone you can always rely on, be it your friend, partner, colleague, parent, sibling and say: “Right I need to deal with this, and I’m going to need you to help me.” 

They, in turn, will feel valued, loved and respected.

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Process Your Fears

Find a way to emotionally process your fears to be able to keep going.

Tools, strategies, techniques include people to hug or talk to, music, hobbies, walks on the beach and even a favourite food. It may be a short lived moment of happiness, but it reminds us that nothing stays the same and we can find a way.

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Grow with your fears

Grow with your fears
  • Take a fear that feels Insurmountable right now.
  • Realise that you are not defined by your fear. 
  • Break the fear down. You'll find lots of little obstacles and develop awareness to the little steps on the road to happiness and success. This will enable you to tackle it in a different way.
  • Out of the scariest of moments, we can find great skills we didn’t know we had.

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All fears are not created equal

Some are useful, and some are useless fears that you can't or shouldn't do anything about. 

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Fear can harm you

In scuba diving, for instance, fear can cause you to breathe too fast, swim too hard, move too suddenly, fail to take note of your surroundings, or rise too quickly toward the surface.

Knowing that fear has the potential to harm you can help you set it aside. Fold up that fear, put it in a box, and promise you'll get back to it later at a less dangerous time.

Fear and chemicals

You may think it's your judgment deciding that something is dangerous and you should be afraid, but what actually happens is that fear chemicals are flooding into your brain.

Experiments have shown that fear can be induced artificially by injecting certain chemicals. Do the chemicals know what you should and shouldn't be afraid of? They don't. You do.

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Motivation is a muscle that we need to build

Motivation does not happen to us. It is a muscle that we need to build. After an inspirational talk, we might feel motivated for a while but will fall back to our old routines.

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How to set the motivation flywheel in action

Knowing what keeps you back is as valuable as determining how to get started.

  • What are the bottlenecks to get you started?
  • What can cause you to stop once you start?
  • How do you know what to do once you get started?
  • What if you're not capable of achieving your goals?
  • How would you know if you're making progress?

Don’t wait until you're ready, start today

  • Even if you don't feel like it, take control by starting today.
  • Shift your mental energy from thinking to doing.
  • Believe there's no better day to start than today.
  • Set a micro goal for today without worrying about tomorrow.
  • Commit to taking one small step.
  • Tell yourself that when you gain momentum, the task will become easier.