Relationship Tips I Should Use

Make time for alone time and self care. Taking care of your significant other is taking care of yourself. If their needs are met they will meet your needs. Just because you're mad does not mean you stop caring...you do not get to withdraw your love. Be the partner you want to have because it will motivate yourself and your partner.

Be vulnerable and tell them what scares you and what hurts you. Let them know what you love about them. Tell them you love the color of their eyes or how their lips curl into a smile when you catch yourself admiring something about them. Check in with each other once a week to talk about what you are personally working on not what you think your partner is doing wrong. It's isn't about pointing fingers it's about showing continual progress. Thank them for their genuine honesty, feelings, and thoughts.

Use "I" statements to express your feelings and needs instead of using accusations.

Calling your partner names will only make both of you feel awful. Instead focus on your partner's positive qualities and show gratitude.

Victimizing yourself only makes things worse. Accept the feedback and criticism. Accept the perspective your partner has. Ask them what they need you to do for them to feel good. Surprise but this isn't just about you this is about them too. You can either yell/shutdown OR you can have your needs met. Accept your wrong doings and apologize.

Avoiding, ignoring, and pretending your partner doesn't exist tells your partner that youve withdrawn your love and that they have to win it back. That's not healthy. Instead communicate that you need to take a break and calm down before you can continue the conversation. This doesn't mean ghosting or just walking away. It means saying something similar to "I'm upset and I need a few minutes alone before we can continue this conversation" so that both people are aware.

I genuinely feel like technology has robbed us of genuine connection. Social media and texts are not the same as get togethers and conversation. Maybe it really would be a good thing to skip texting while working and appreciate each other's time in real life instead. You can't accurately read tone and there is no body language through text making it easy for miscommunication. It puts extra strain on relationships.