Choosing Yourself: What I’ve Learned From My Journey of Letting Go and Letting God

I didn’t leave God; I left the earthly “church.” That was the rhetorical number one thing that changed me—and it was through this lens that I began to truly heal. For so long, I felt disconnected because the religion I grew up with was rooted in fear, shame, and punishment. But stepping away from the dogma allowed me to reconnect with the essence of God’s love and truth.

The Bible, I realized, is not a rulebook to keep us in line—it’s a guide to understanding the divine energy within us and around us. Christ Consciousness isn’t confined to a denomination; it’s about awakening to the truth of who we are, made in God’s image, and walking in alignment with that truth. This awakening freed me from the chains of guilt and fear and allowed me to embrace God’s love in its purest form.

When I began to see the Bible as a tool for awakening—not for condemnation—it became a source of hope and empowerment instead of a weapon of judgment. This shift wasn’t about rejecting God; it was about rejecting what no longer served my spiritual growth. Once I began to see myself as a reflection of Christ-consciousness—of divine love and purpose—I realized that choosing myself wasn’t selfish; it was faithful. Aligning with God’s truth meant aligning with the truth of who I was created to be: someone worthy of love, joy, and peace.

So how do you choose yourself? Why should you? And how do you let go of the pain while still honoring the person who hurt you as a creation of the Most High? Here’s what I’ve learned on my journey:

You are fearfully and wonderfully made. You are worthy of kindness, respect, and reciprocity—not because of what you’ve done for others but because of who you are, energetically. Choosing yourself isn’t selfish. When you allow yourself to stay in situations that diminish your spirit, you step out of alignment/balance. Choosing yourself is a way of saying, “I trust Source’s vision for my life more than my fear of letting go.”

Our worth isn’t dependent on what we do. When I stopped seeking external validation and started aligning with this truth, I found peace and confidence I’d never known.

Even the hardest experiences serve a purpose. The ones that hurt us often teach us the most about boundaries, strength, and resilience. They help us grow spiritually as we learn to lean on a Higher Power for healing and clarity. But seeing the lessons is only the beginning—accepting them and acting accordingly is where true growth happens. Acceptance means not just acknowledging the reality of what you’ve been through, but choosing to let the lessons shape your choices, your boundaries, and your future. Growth doesn’t happen unless you take what the pain teaches you and apply it.

Taking the time to reflect on your experiences, your choices, and your patterns isn’t “overthinking”—it’s honoring the growth process, and it is what fertilizes the fruit of discernment. Introspection allows you to see not only what happened but why it happened and how to prevent the same mistakes or misalignments from repeating. True introspection is productive, not self-destructive; it’s a necessary tool to fully accept and integrate the lessons life teaches you.

Growing up, I was taught to pray for my enemies. I believe now that while it’s often easier said than done, it’s one of the most powerful actions of faith you can take. When you pray for someone who wronged you, and you do it from love, you release bitterness and open the door for good to work in both their life and yours. Praying for them doesn’t mean excusing their behavior—it means trusting divine justice & grace. Praying for those who hurt me taught me that forgiveness isn’t about them—it’s about my relationship with my Higher Power and Self. Releasing anger allowed me to step into peace.

Letting go doesn’t mean forgetting or pretending the pain didn’t happen. It means surrendering the situation to God’s hands. It’s saying, “Lord, I’ve done what I can. I trust You to handle the rest. ” Letting go is a daily choice, one that releases you from carrying the weight of someone else’s actions and opens you up to God’s peace and provision. Letting go doesn’t erase the scars, but it transforms them. It is an act of trust, not always easy. But every time I surrendered a situation, I felt lighter, freer. It’s amazing how much peace comes when you release what was never yours to hold.

Choosing yourself means making room for what is in store. It looks like setting boundaries that protect your peace, surrounding yourself with people who pour into you, and pursuing the dreams Source has placed in your heart. It’s walking in the confidence that God will fill the empty places with joy, purpose, and abundance. After letting go of the toxicity I had encountered in both the good and bad relationships of my life—and more importantly, releasing my own toxic patterns of behavior and thought—I discovered a newfound emotional and mental freedom.

When we’re in the thick of it, hearing phrases like “Have faith!” or “You just need to trust!” often stirs up resentment instead of comfort. Why would we trust, after all, when all we can see through the lens of our pain and human perspective is evidence that God has abandoned us? I totally get it. And yet…

Trusting isn’t just a feeling; it’s an act—a decision to believe in what you can’t yet see. Energy is real, and the science of spirituality is real. Trust is the ultimate act of faith.

Trusting is how you prove to yourself that you are serious about stepping into the life destiny has for you. Trust is the ultimate act of faith. It’s not just believing that God exists; it’s living like you believe something does, and is actively working in your life. When I trusted Source fully, even in the hardest moments, I found that doors opened, paths cleared, and peace replaced fear. Energy responds to energy. The more I trusted, the more I received. Trusting doesn’t mean you’ll always understand what’s happening—it means you believe that what’s happening is for the highest good.

Choosing yourself doesn’t mean cutting others off with anger or resentment. It looks like loving from a distance, honoring your boundaries with grace, releasing resentment while still protecting your peace, and praying for them even as you move forward on your path. It’s releasing control and trusting Source to heal what’s broken, finding strength in quiet moments, peace in surrender, and joy in the new opportunities.

Choosing yourself doesn’t mean rejecting others; it means loving them in a way that also allows you to love yourself, creating space for God to work in both your life and theirs.

Choose yourself, not in defiance of others, but in alignment with the love and purpose. Whatever “Source” is to you, let it work in your heart, trust it with your future, and watch how life transforms into something more beautiful.

Through all the challenges I’ve faced, “Source” has shown me, again and again, that Source is faithful. I haven’t achieved anything on my own. Source has been my provider, my guide, and my reason to keep going. If Source could bring me through the valley, I promise Source can do the same for you. You are not alone, and you are not forgotten.