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What Happened to Setting Your Own Rules?



What Happened to Setting Your Own Rules?
The more you do something, the more you tend to learn about it and the better you get. And the more you learn about something, the more you're able to inject your own style-your own rules-into it. When you realize you know better than anyone else what's best for you and start playing by your ...


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Playing by your rules

If you believe that playing by your own rules is a good philosophy for your life, then it’s important to believe the same applies to others. 



Setting your own rules

Gaining control of your own world is a liberating thing, but giving it up elsewhere feels risky and uncomfortable. If you want others to give up their stake in how you run yours, then you have to give up your stake in how they run theirs. 


Don’t think you’re too special

You’re unique but in the kind of way that everyone else is. When you discover you know a thing or two about something important to you, do what you can to help others take advantage of your knowledge, but don’t set the rules for how they have to use it.  



You are the sum of your decisions

A few major decisions determine a good portion of how our lives, careers, and relationships turn out. The outcomes of these decision points will reverberate for years.

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Why We Make Poor Decisions

  • We’re not as rational as we think. 
  • We’re not prepared. We don’t understand the invariant ideas — the mental models — of how the world really works. 
  • We don’t gather the information we need. We make decisions based on our “guts” in complex domains that require serious work to gather all the needed data. 

The World Is Multidisciplinary

We live in a society that demands specialization. Being the best means being an expert in something.  A byproduct of this niche focus is that it narrows the ways we think we can apply our knowledge without being called a fraud.

We should apply all the knowledge at our disposal to the problems and challenges we face every day.

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“As long as you live, keep learning how to live.”


A personal Philosophy

We all need personal philosophy in life or we risk wandering and responding to random stimuli and information with little or no impact on our long-term goals.

Marcus Aurelius

Marcus Aurelius

“You could leave life right now. Let that determine what you do and say and think.”

Life is a competition

We are all in competition, even if we prefer to discount it. Our achievements are only evident relative to others. You swam further, dance better, or got more Facebook Likes. 

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You’re judged by your actions

We are judged by what we can do for others. For instance, saving children or removing a tumor.  Social reward is just a network effect. Reward comes down mostly to the number of people you impact.

However, we judge ourselves differently. We judge ourselves by our thoughts. “I’m a good person”. “I’m better than this.” 

Fairness is self-interest

We think the judgements of our bosses and parents and politicians are unfair and silly because they don't agree with us. And we believe they should agree with us.

However, most of them are just trying to do their best, under different circumstances to your own.