The problem isn't that life is unfair - it's your broken idea of fairness

We are all in competition, even if we prefer to discount it. Our achievements are only evident relative to others. You swam further, dance better, or got more Facebook Likes. 

We should recognize that there is competition going on. People interview to win jobs. And the best is only available to those who are willing to compete and fight for it.

We are judged by what we can do for others. For instance, saving children or removing a tumor.  Social reward is just a network effect. Reward comes down mostly to the number of people you impact.

However, we judge ourselves differently. We judge ourselves by our thoughts. “I’m a good person”. “I’m better than this.”