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BRIANNA WIEST
  1. Do not elicit a strong emotional responses from anyone.

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2. Do not Speak Definitively about People, Politics, or Ideas.

2. Do not Speak Definitively about People, Politics, or Ideas.

Speaking definitively about a person or idea is to be blind to the multitude of perspectives that exist on it.

It is the definition of closed-mindedness and short-sightedness.

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03. Don't Immediately Deny Criticism or Have a Strong Emotional .

03. Don't Immediately Deny Criticism or Have a Strong Emotional .

Socially Intelligent People Listen to Criticism Before They Respond to It.

  • An Immediate Emotional Response Without Thoughtful Consideration Is Simply Defensiveness.

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04. Do Not Confuse Opinion with Fact.

04. Do Not Confuse Opinion with Fact.

P1: They are prickly.

P2: Socially, I had a negative experience with him where I felt uncomfortable.

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05. Speak With Precision.

05. Speak With Precision.

They speak calmly, simply, concisely, and mindfully.

They focus on communicating, not others.

(Michael Corleone)

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06. Practice Healthy Disassociation.

06. Practice Healthy Disassociation.

They know that the world does not revolve around them.

They are able to listen to someone without worrying that any given statement they make is actually a slight against them.

They are able to disassociate from their own projections and at least try to understand another person's perspective.

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07. Do Not Try to Inform People of Their Ignorance.

07. Do Not Try to Inform People of Their Ignorance.

They Ignore Things in Very Creative Ways Without Others Knowing,

Also, Let Them Open Up.  

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08. Validate Other People's Feelings.

08. Validate Other People's Feelings.

There are many ideas that do not deserve to be validated.

But everyone's feelings deserve to be seen, acknowledged, and respected.

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09. Shadow Selves.

09. Shadow Selves.

If you genuinely disliked something, you would simply disengage with it.

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10. Do Not Argue with People Who Only Want to Win.

10. Do Not Argue with People Who Only Want to Win.

Socially intelligent people know that not everybody wants to communicate, learn, grow, or connect - and so they do not try to force them.

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11. Listen to Hear, Not Respond.

11. Listen to Hear, Not Respond.

A meta-practice of holding space.

When listening to others speak, they focus on what is being said, not how they will respond.

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12. Do Not Consider Themselves a Judge of What's True

12. Do Not Consider Themselves a Judge of What's True

They don't say "You are wrong", instead they say "I think you are wrong".

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13. Poison of well (Attack on character).

13. Poison of well (Attack on character).

They would be able to see statements and objectives from the person who is saying it.

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BRIANNA WIEST

14.Their primary relationship is to themselves, and they work on it tirelessly.

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CURATOR'S NOTE

People who are socially intelligent think and behave in a way that spans beyond what's culturally acceptable at any given moment in time. Here are core traits of someone who is socially intelligent:

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