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Spend More Time Alone

http://calnewport.com/blog/2017/09/24/spend-more-time-alone/

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Spend More Time Alone
September 24th, 2017 · 39 comments A Lonely Binge I recently read three books on the topic of solitude. Two were actually titled Solitude, while the third, and most recently published, was titled Lead Yourself First - which is pitched as a leadership guide, but is actually a meditation on the value of being alone with your thoughts.

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Isolated from outside input

Isolated from outside input

We think of solitude in terms of remote cabins or mountain tops. But the real key to solitude is to step away from reacting to the output of other minds: be it listening to a podcast, scanning social media, reading a book, watching TV or holding an actual conversation.

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Regular doses of solitude are crucial for your brain

Regular doses of solitude are crucial for your brain

Spending time isolated from other minds is what allows you to process and regulate complex emotions. It’s the only time you can refine the principles on which you can build a life of character. It’s what allows you to crack hard problems, and is often necessary for creative insight. 

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2. You Include Each Other In Your Regular Purchases

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