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Beat the clock: the surprising psychology behind being perpetually late

Beat the clock: the surprising psychology behind being perpetually late
Sometimes, one of my psychotherapy clients will be late. "The tube got stuck; I do apologise." If it happens once, I don't treat it as significant. But some clients are perpetually late - perhaps just five or 10 minutes, but always - and out of breath when they get to the door.


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Being habitually late

Some people are habitually late because that's how they are, terrible at being punctualIt may be that the punctual people's assumption that the late ones can simply be on time if they decide to, which may be far-fetched.

Punctual people may believe that late people are passive-aggressive or arrogant and that their time is more valuable than those who wait for them. But reasons for lateness are generally more complex and may be linked to a lack of self-worth.




Reluctance to Change Activities

Being late is a symptom of the reluctance to change gear, where you don't want the current activity to end and start a new one. People like to be absorbed and lost in doing something, and abruptly stopping to do something else can be annoying for some.

It generally takes an external force, like someone waiting for us to make us change our gear and get moving.




What Self-Reflection Is

What Self-Reflection Is

Is the process of thinking back on previous events and interpreting them through your experience. 

It’s about taking a step back and reflecting on your life, behavior and beliefs....

The Importance of Self-Reflection

  • It improve self-awareness.
  • It allows you to understand and see things from a different point of view. 
  • It allows you to respond, not react.
  • It facilitates a deeper level of learning.
  • It improves confidence.
  • It makes you challenge your assumptions.

The Process of Self-Reflection

  • STOP: Take a step back from life or a particular situation.
  • LOOK: Identify and get perspective on what you notice and see.
  • LISTEN: Listen to your inner guide, the innate wisdom that bubbles up when you give it time and space to emerge.
  • ACT: Identify the steps you need to take moving forward to adjust, change or improve.

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Hunger Makes Us Angry

Being hungry makes you angry. Prolonged hunger along with a stressful situation, like a computer malfunction, or tedious evaluation work, dials up the anger in a person.

The hungry ...

Chemical Changes

Hunger causes certain chemical and hormonal changes in the body, and the brain processes these signals the same way it would process sadness, fear or anger.

The brain tries to tell us when we are hungry that the body is not in a good shape and an action (like eating food in this case) needs to be taken.

The Brain Needs Glucose

The brain requires glucose to function properly, and its limbic system, the part associated with hunger, fear, and anxiety, starts to give out automatic responses when the glucose levels are low.

Fear Is Real

Fear is everywhere and yet fear can be overcome, controlled and can even be a power for good.

Accept your fear relative to you.

Get Some Perspective

  • Are you really at risk?
  • Will this kill you?
  • If the worse was to happen what would it be?
  • Could that really happen?

  • If the worse did happen, how would you recover?
  • If the worse were to happen, what would you need to do next?

By seeing fear as not the end destination but part of being human, you can see through its wily evil ways and move forward.

Hold a Hand

Think of someone you can always rely on, be it your friend, partner, colleague, parent, sibling and say: “Right I need to deal with this, and I’m going to need you to help me.” 

They, in turn, will feel valued, loved and respected.