Most people hear out the advice given to them out of politeness or obligation, with no intention of every following it, no matter how practical or beneficial it may be.
Our ego doesn't let us follow advice. The keywords that we say before we dole out the advice seem to matter more than we think.

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Reminding people about their core values before any advice is provided, makes them more receptive towards it.
When the person thinks about their core values, an area of their brain called the Ventromedial Prefrontal Cortex (VMPC) gets activated, making them take some tangible action towards your advice. This pre-suasion before we influence any person (for their own good) is important and essential if we want them to follow genuine advice.

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The gist: Before you give someone advice, help them remember their core values. This activates the part of the brain that will encourage them to accept your advice.
I'm going to give you some good advice but, first, I need you to do something important. Stop whatever you're doing while you read this, close your eyes, and think for a moment about your core values. What are the most important things in the world to you? What do you want your life to be about?
Now, ready for that advice? According to some fascinating new medical research, I already gave it to you. According to the study coming out of the University of Pennsylvania, the things you think about just before you receive advice has a dramatic effect on whether you actually listen to it.
"Our findings highlight that something as simple as reflecting on core values can fundamentally change the way our brains respond to the kinds of messages we encounter every day. Over time, that makes the potential impact huge." That's a quote from Emily Falk, lead author of the study.
If you've ever ignored good advice and later regretted it, this could be what's keeping you from accepting and taking action when great ideas come your way.
And if you've ever tried to give someone good advice they ignored, this could explain why they didn't listen and how you can change that.
<h2>The Power Struggle: Why We Ignore Good Advice</h2>
For even the most docile of us, life is a never-ending power struggle. You spend most of your waking hours working to gain (and keep) control of your mind. It takes all that effort to keep your body doing the things you want it to. Above all that, you have an ego and an image to maintain. No matter who you are, you like to think you're in control of you -that you're strong and powerful.
As a human, your identity is wrapped up in the<a href="https://www.riskology.co/making-excuses/"> illusion of control</a>. But you're not an expert at everything. You need help-good advice-occasionally to succeed at things you don't know yet. This is where the problem lies. The more powerful you feel, the more likely you are to discount or just plain ignore great advice.
A team of researchers from The University of Washington, Harvard, and Duke ran several tests on a bunch of university students. As part of the experiments, they pumped up the egos of some of the students before giving them advice. In this case, on how to accurately estimate the number of coins in a jar.
The ego boost was like putting them into a video game and turning on God-mode. Those feelings of power completely zapped their abilities to consider good advice. Even when they had no idea what they were doing and the advice was coming from a bona fide expert. 
They proved it again and again with a number of tests controlling for different variables. Feeling like you've got it together is a good thing. But, turns out, it can kind of make you a jerk when it comes to listening to advice.
Read next: <a href="https://www.riskology.co/advice/">How to Give Good Advice That People Follow</a>
<h2>Core Values: How to Give (and Accept) Good Advice</h2>
If anyone deals with this human peculiarity more than others, it's doctors. They dedicate their lives to learning how to help you be healthy only to have their experience thrown in their face when that cocksure rancher comes back with, "I ain't never gonna stop eatin' beef no matter what ya tell me!" Sigh.
You've probably done it, too. I know I have.

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	<li>"Three weeks of rest sounds good, but I'll be fine after one."</li>
	<li>"That doctor isn't a specialist. What does she know about my gluten intolerance?"</li>
	<li>"I'll just cut this cast off tomorrow. It's kind of itchy."</li>
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You often ignore the advice and, just as often, regret it.
Since doctors deal with this so frequently, they also invest a lot of resources into beating it. How do you get people to actually do the things you know will help them?
Emily Falk, lead author of a recent study on just that subject, uncovered a surprisingly effective tactic. What she learned is if you think about your core values just before receiving your doctor's wisdom, you're more likely to put it to use in your life. 
The reason is connected to the way your brain works.
Thinking about your core values-things that are really important to you-gets the juices flowing in your ventromedial prefrontal cortex (VMPC), a region of your brain which, in this case, can just be called your "good advice taker." The more you stimulate activity there, the more likely you are to listen to and trust expert advice.
Likewise, the more you help others remember what's truly important to them, the better you'll do at converting the advice you give to tangible action in them.
That's important if you want to build and maintain influence with people.
<h2>Do This Right Now </h2>
You're in a paradox. Having your life together and feeling like you're powerful and in control is a big plus for your overall happiness and success. But, the stronger you get, the bigger the chance you'll start ignoring the advice that got you there in the first place. That's a recipe for disaster.
So, what's a strong, confident person to do? Take time every day to reflect on your core values. It's as simple as that.
And when you're giving advice, remember how important this pre-work is before giving it. If you really want to help people, then you have to give advice in a way that will make them more likely to follow it.
Get them to think about their deep-seated, core values before you share your wisdom so that they can easily connect your advice to what's important to them.
We don't really know why it works, but we know it does. If I had to guess, it would be that thinking of your core values forces you to take a look at your <a href="https://www.riskology.co/future-self/">long-term goals</a>.
When you think about those, you'll remember you don't know everything. And not knowing everything is just the crack in your armor you need to let the good advice of the people you trust to sink in and help steer you the right direction.
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The gist: Before you give someone advice, help them remember their core values. This activates the part of the brain that will encourage them to accept your advice. I'm going to give you some good advice but, first, I need you to do something important.

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