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No ifs or buts

No ifs or buts

  • A sincere apology does not include caveats or qualifiers.
  • 'But' almost always signifies a rationalisation, a criticism, or an excuse
  • It doesn't matter if what you say after the 'but' is true, the 'but' makes your apology false.

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