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#4. What to say when someone is judgmental or critical
When someone makes a rude comment and then says, “I’m just being honest,” it isn't always constructive criticism or even true.
Someone who gives you genuinely constructive criticism is actually rooting for you. If you respect this person & know them to be genuine, you will likely be open to their feedback.
If not, then you can say -
“What you call ‘honesty’, I call you ‘giving me your unsolicited opinion and criticism’. Please don’t.”
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#1. When someone asks something you’re just not sure about
It can be helpful to buy some time to analyze the situation and figure out what we want exactly.
- "I need some time to think. Can we pick this up in half an hour?" Or, "Can we talk about this later today, after I’ve had more time to think about it?”
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"Veiled criticism can be worded in a way that sounds helpful or caring, but if your body wisdom starts to pipe up, you know that their judgment is crossing a line."
- TERRI COLE
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#3. What to say when getting unsolicited advice
When sharing some problem or news with friends or family who are quick to give their opinion, set them up for success by starting with a qualifier like:
- “I love that you are always game to help me out. What I’d appreciate right now is for you to liste...
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#2. What to say to deflect nosy questions
We don’t owe anyone our personal information, especially not to satisfy their curiosity. If the person persists, repeat your stock answer.
- How much money you make: “Trust me, not even close to what I’m worth.”
- About your love life: “I’d rather ...
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#5. What to say when a line has been crossed
Often, if you can open up a conversation, the rest will flow.
Basic conversation starters to get the ball rolling for a difficult :
● “I thought you should know . . .”
●“I need to share my experience of what went down, because I’d like you to understand how I f...
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