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How To Embrace Vulnerability As Your Greatest Strength

Vulnerability = courage

Vulnerability is an act of courage because you merge with your authentic self, instead of hiding behind a facade to appease others.

To embrace vulnerability as your greatest strength, you will need to become aware of your pain points. The paintings of Rembrandt are no less beautiful because of its flaws. It is upon examining it up close that you recognise the defects, while ignoring the complete picture.

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How To Embrace Vulnerability As Your Greatest Strength

How To Embrace Vulnerability As Your Greatest Strength

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Brené Brown

Brené Brown

“Vulnerability is about showing up and being seen. It’s tough to do that when we’re terrified about what people might see or think.” 

Being vulnerable

Vulnerability is a double-edged sword. Those who protect themselves to avoid getting hurt, fail to appreciate intimacy and close relationships.

Everyone is vulnerable, no matter how much they try to avoid it. We are born vulnerable and stay that way for our entire childhood. Our relationship with vulnerability is something we are acquainted with, yet abandon as we merge into adulthood.

Vulnerability = courage

Vulnerability is an act of courage because you merge with your authentic self, instead of hiding behind a facade to appease others.

To embrace vulnerability as your greatest strength, you will need to become aware of your pain points. The paintings of Rembrandt are no less beautiful because of its flaws. It is upon examining it up close that you recognise the defects, while ignoring the complete picture.

Heal the Pain

To heal your pain requires undertaking a process of self-examination. You must become curious as to why you react when your pain buttons are triggered.

Suffering ensues when you focus on your sorrow, instead of appreciating the beauty and richness of your complete self.

Become a student of vulnerability by taking small risks. Lean in to your vulnerabilities with openness and compassion.

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  3. Show up, face fear, and move forward. Because fear and criticism will always be there in some form, the best course of action is always to show up anyway and move forward.
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  5. Dare to be yourself – in your strengths, skills, and beauty as well as your flaws and insecurities. In doing so, you can realize your true strength of spirit.
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